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    my new club brings in amazing clientele- bachelor parties, 18 year old bdays, the works.. NORMAL NICe 20-30 year old just looking to have a good time

    i've met a couple of guys i really like but last night when i was sitting down taking a break i happened to sit by this gorgeous guy who kept shyly glancing over at me. we get to talking and i was like u guys remind me of my guy friends so i jsut wnated to hang out with u i dotn awnt ur money. and he's like yeah i just told him (friend) that you look like a regular girl with her shirt off , not a stripper. we get to talking and i know he was just a customer at the club but he's soo normal and nice. it was just him n his friend , they werent drinking, he doesnt drink or smoke hasnt had a gf since 1999. so gorgeous and he was like nervous to talk to me.. he tried to give me money but handed it to me bc he was like 'im nervous i dont wanna touch you or anything!' and i took my cookies and diet coke break with him and he sat iwth me, there was a 4 girl sex show going on and he didnt take his eyes off of me, he had his hand on the outside of my thigh and was like trying to hold my hand! then later he slips something in my bag which i assumed was a dollar but then later hes like 'my numbers in there if u wanna call me sometime..' and i was like no u call me! and gave him my number.. he texts me hsi full name when he leaves.. (we joked around about myspace and facebook) and o yeah we talked about how girls look better in the club and i was ike i prob do too and hes like no i saw u in the light you're fine (i went out to get a soda and cookies fro the vending machine)

    he is the perfect guy and i'm smitten. gorgeous, nice, doesnt drink, polite, .. if he calls can i go out with him?!! ''ahhh im in love

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    You're in love? Honey, the only thing you're in love with is his facade inside the club. If you really think he's that perfect and worth breaking the no dating custies rule,go on a date with him. Then you'll see what he's like OTC.

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    hasnt had a gf since 1999.. first red flag for me.

    second.. 4 girl sex show on stage? where do you work?

    troll?

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    he said he hasnt had a seroius relationship since then. i work in south philly... ps, why the no dating custies rule exactly? he seems soooo nice that id break this rule for him for sure haha

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    1.) Do you go to work to make money? Or do you go there to find cute guys and hang out. I actually get offended when girls sit with guys for free, it limits the opprotunities that other girls have to make money.

    2.) How long have you been a stripper for? Many guys behave this way, make talk like "you are not like the other strippers" and try to give you other types of non-financial attention. It's a game to get into your pants.

    3.) There is reason why he hasn't had a girlfriend in 8 years. It's probably because he is a psychopathic freak.

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    Well, generally it's not a good idea to mix dating and work in general...

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    Quote Originally Posted by JennB712 View Post
    he said he hasnt had a seroius relationship since then. i work in south philly... ps, why the no dating custies rule exactly? he seems soooo nice that id break this rule for him for sure haha
    There are many reasons for this. Safety (number 1), prostitution, business and dating don't mix, if a customer sees you OTC he is less likely to want to spend money ITC etc.

    There are some women who have met their boyfriends and even husbands while a dancer but that is extremely rare. Though I would say that dating customers is actually common, though not a smart business move.

    For the record, I did date one customer when I first started dancing. He was absolutely gorgeous, charming, funny ITC. But when I met him OTC things changed.

    He had a tiny penis, which I tried to work with, (I don't need monster cocks or anything) but he was obviously extremely self-conscious about it. Also he couldn't hold down a steady job. I broke up with him but he called me every several times a day and started stalking me. He would also show up at my job and talk shit about me to the other girls. I threatened him with legal action and I was lucky enough that it made him stop. I admit now that was stupid of me to even have given him my phone number.

    Work is work, not a dating service. My main priority is to make money, not friends or boyfriends. Many strip club customers are shady and will do anything to manipulate you into dropping your panties.

    If a man hasn't had a serious relationship in 8 years, and he's not a monk, something is seriously wrong with him. There is a reason why girls keep rejecting him for nearly a decade. I wouldn't touch him with a 30 foot pole.

    Also NEVER let someone slip something into your bag. It could be drugs and you don't want to be busted for that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JennB712 View Post
    my new club brings in amazing clientele- bachelor parties, 18 year old bdays, the works.. NORMAL NICe 20-30 year old just looking to have a good time
    And what makes these guys amazing clientele anyway? Give me some loaded old fart that is bored and lonely any day.

    Most girls I know can't stand groups of young guys who are there to have a "good time". This statement alone makes me wonder if you are even a stripper...

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    hasnt had a gf since 1999.. first red flag for me.

    second.. 4 girl sex show on stage? where do you work?

    troll?
    Yea, when I was in Miami last year I went to Tootsies just to hang out, they did a 2 girl show on stage, so maybe there or some other club that allows stuff like that, it wasn't anything major or hardcore but it was the first time I had seen anything like that in a club.

    Nevermind on Tootsies now, I saw the south Philly thread.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alia_of_the_Knife View Post
    And what makes these guys amazing clientele anyway? Give me some old fart that is loaded any day.

    Most girls I know can't stand groups of young guys who are there to have a "good time". This statement alone makes me wonder if you are even a stripper...
    Exactly, I actually approach young guys last (honestly I don't like dancing for them unless they request). I would much rather see a lonely older man that has money, chances are they're going to spend more because they are the ones that come in the club looking for the fantasy experience usually, not the younger good looking guys that probably already have a good looking girlfriend anyways or can find one. O.k i'll shut up now, lol.

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    Whatever, i totally disagree. I think you should go for it if you feel so strongly about him!
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    o.k everybody makes their own decisions, I agree that he hasn't had a gf in 8 years then there must be something wrong. Yes, guys will say and do almost anything to get in your pants, that's a man for you, believe me.

    Just if you decide to, be careful, with this I wouldn't go alone with him anywhere until you know he is cool, you never know who the psychos are. Good luck on whatever you decide.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    hasnt had a gf since 1999.. first red flag for me.

    second.. 4 girl sex show on stage? where do you work?

    troll?
    She must work at Show and Tell on Columbus Ave.
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    I think the OP is the guy in question, trying to figure out if the stripper he likes wants him.

    For example, I don't think bachelor parties and 18 year old birthdays are "amazing clientele," do you? Amazing clientele for me is lots of rich 40+ gentlemen in groups of 1-3.

    And the whole story just sounds like it is coming from the guy's perspective.

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    I'd proceed with caution, but I wouldn't tell you not to date him if you really want to.

    However, the red flags for me are where he says, "You look like a regular girl with her shirt off, not a stripper."

    Maybe I'm wrong, but it seems to me that a guy with this attitude is the same kind of guy who is quick to call you a dirty whore once you're in a relationship with him, y'know? Like, he's obviously got a pretty serious madonna-whore complex going on, and probably wouldn't be able to handle dating a stripper.

    Also, someone who makes such a show of seeming shy and timid kind of raises my suspicions. Not that he couldn't be for real, but he might just be running game on you--you know, on the theory that his "sweet innocent boy" act might be an effective way to nail a stripper. Just a thought.

    Like I said, proceed with caution.
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    Quote Originally Posted by austinatalie View Post
    I think the OP is the guy in question, trying to figure out if the stripper he likes wants him.

    For example, I don't think bachelor parties and 18 year old birthdays are "amazing clientele," do you? Amazing clientele for me is lots of rich 40+ gentlemen in groups of 1-3.

    And the whole story just sounds like it is coming from the guy's perspective.
    definitely a plausible hypothesis.
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    So far as I'm concerned you may date anyone you like. I agree with the other girls that it is better for you and everyone concerned to just move it out of the club so you are not wasting your own earning time (keep in mind the same thing we tell guys - this is THEIR leisure time, not YOURS. These are your earning hours) or setting bad precedents in the club. As per what the guy is like - how would anyone here know that? No girlfriend since 1999 sounds weird to me, but if you like it...
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    Judging from the OP...this is either a very new, very naive stripper, or a dude.
    18 year old bday parties just doesn't scream amazing clientele and the works to me.

    Judging from this
    guys remind me of my guy friends so i jsut wnated to hang out with u i dotn awnt ur money.
    Screams new naive stripper. Any seasoned smart stripper would never, ever want to sit with a guy for free,no matter how cool or hot or nice he was.




    You don't go to work to make friends or boyfriends. You go to work to make money. If you start trying to date customes, it will only start a very slippery slope that will lead to bad places.

    In most clubs..it's illegal to meet customers outside the club. It's illegal to give out your number. These things can be concidered acts of prostitution.

    Of course girls do it..sometimes it works out ok, but that's very very rare.


    I went out with a guy 1 time I met in a club. He semed nice and normal and hot....I broke the rules and went out with him. We had a very nice date. Saw a concert, went to a few night clubs......then he said he needed to grab somethign out of his hotel room, so I went up withhim being completly naive....and he tried to fuck me. Of course. You go out on a date with a stripper and wine and dine her and you assume your gonna get laid.
    He was pissed I refused him and never spoke to me again.
    I was disappointed thinking I met a nice guy, only to find out he expected sex...but then again, mos tguys do......



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    Assuming the OP is not a troll...

    Based on the description of the guy, him not having a girlfriend for 8 years is easily explained by his apparent shyness. It's up to you to decide whether "shy" counts as weird / psychopathic freak / etc. Some would say yes, some would say no.
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    No. you can't. You're not an adult and can't make decisions for yourself.

    What?


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    ^^HA! That was my first thought.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JennB712 View Post
    my new club brings in amazing clientele- bachelor parties, 18 year old bdays, the works.. NORMAL NICe 20-30 year old just looking to have a good time

    i've met a couple of guys i really like but last night when i was sitting down taking a break i happened to sit by this gorgeous guy who kept shyly glancing over at me. we get to talking and i was like u guys remind me of my guy friends so i jsut wnated to hang out with u i dotn awnt ur money. and he's like yeah i just told him (friend) that you look like a regular girl with her shirt off , not a stripper. we get to talking and i know he was just a customer at the club but he's soo normal and nice. it was just him n his friend , they werent drinking, he doesnt drink or smoke hasnt had a gf since 1999. so gorgeous and he was like nervous to talk to me.. he tried to give me money but handed it to me bc he was like 'im nervous i dont wanna touch you or anything!' and i took my cookies and diet coke break with him and he sat iwth me, there was a 4 girl sex show going on and he didnt take his eyes off of me, he had his hand on the outside of my thigh and was like trying to hold my hand! then later he slips something in my bag which i assumed was a dollar but then later hes like 'my numbers in there if u wanna call me sometime..' and i was like no u call me! and gave him my number.. he texts me hsi full name when he leaves.. (we joked around about myspace and facebook) and o yeah we talked about how girls look better in the club and i was ike i prob do too and hes like no i saw u in the light you're fine (i went out to get a soda and cookies fro the vending machine)

    he is the perfect guy and i'm smitten. gorgeous, nice, doesnt drink, polite, .. if he calls can i go out with him?!! ''ahhh im in love
    siiting w/guys for free?dont look like a stripper?how is that a good thing?slipped something in your bag?and thought it was a dollar?if he really liked you i would think it would be more that a dollar?no gf for like a decade?how come your silly club doesnt have o not dating custys rule?whats even weirder is that your clueless on why they would have a rule like that

    why did you buy cookies and soda?why didnt he offer to buy them for you? then he talks shit about all the other dancers and your ok with that?

    you might be border line retarded
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    i'm with kaylinn.... she's new. very new. something tells me shes freshly 18 too.

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    he had his hand on the outside of my thigh and was like trying to hold my hand!
    i just re read and caught this.
    honey, he's just looking to fuck a stripper and brag to his buddies. MOVE ON.

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