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    Recently, I feel like I'm just weird.

    Life seems to be flying by. I just graduated from college, and I thought it was supposed to be the time of my life! My friends and I would be working, finally we'd all have our own places, we'd finally have the freedom and resources to have a lot of fun.

    Not so much. It seems like all my friends are skipping that "finally independent stage" and are rushing to the next- marriage, kids, etc.

    And it scares the hell out of me. For god's sakes, we're all 21 or 22, and they're rushing out to the altar and maternity shops. I'm a bridesmaid in THREE weddings...all my roommates...this year. I have countless baby shwoers to go to, and it freaks me out.

    I feel completely alien. First off, I'm not looking towards the future yet. I want to live on my own for a bit, travel for a while, really independent, before I even vaguely consider marriage. And even then, it's not that important to me. I mean, I suppose ideally, I'd like to get married eventually, but it isn't that important. If it happens, yay, but if it doesn't, that's fine too. So many people I know say things like "I have all these goals for life, but if I don't get married, I'll be unfulfilled"...but it's just not that important to me. I know I can have a great life without a marriage.

    And I HATE children. No, I won't get over it, no, it won't be different when I have my own. Babies, hell, pregnant women, make me slightly nauseous. You know how some women see a baby, and they coo at it and go crazy to hold it? Yeah, I get this "omg I'm going to throw up" expression.

    Yes, I want the pitterpatter of little feet on the stairs- but it better be a dog's.

    I don't know. Am I crazy for not looking to the future? Or not caring about marriage? or not wanting kids? I feel like a traitor to women or something.

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    No, you have to do what makes you happy! Don't go with the flow, just because everyone around you does. As you get older your perceptions might change and you start to see things different, but that doesn't mean you have to adopt the perception of life or goals all others around you have.
    If that makes you different, then so what? I heard a great saying once, something to the effect of: They make fun of us, because we're different... but we make fun of them because they're all the same....

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    "You do you and ill do me"....just follow your heart and do what makes you happy. Dont ever be a sheep. Also i don't think your crazy in the least bit of the matter, you just have to travel down the road less traveled compared to your friends, not a bad thing.

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    I think you're totally normal and the people making 50-80 year commitments before their life has even got started is more 'crazy' then anything.
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    Live first. Have your own life. Learn who you are. I did1 the early marriage-it sucked. Then lived on my own for 10+ years. Much happier. Now I am married again, but now I am ready for it.


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    You're not crazy...you're just not a sheep. Be independant and do whats right for YOU!

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    I am doing early marriage please don't do it like everyone else said be you learn you don' t get trapped in house wife hell if you don't feel its right for you. You are lucky to have the opportunity to learn who you are my mom told me i was not school material and would not pay a dime for me to go to school and i did not qulify for aid my mom saw my boyfriend as someone to take care of me I am misrable uneduactated and lonely BE YOU.

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    You are definitely not crazy, you are intelligent. Kudos for knowing what you want!

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    No your not and neither are your friends .Everyone has to experience what they want in life right or wrong and regardless of what others believe " is the right way " . Mostly what I have found in life is that I grow stronger with my experiences and hopefully learn from some of the bad ones . Yes travel see the world and how others live .

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