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    I took some time off dancing, and now I came back. I have had no issues working Sunday through Wednesday...but whenever I try to work a busier night, all the terror comes back.

    I get so upset when another girl so much as looks at me sideways. It's weird, but other girls hating on me stresses me out way more than customers do. This isn't exclusive to dancing either...I get very neurotic about inter social skills with coworkers on all jobs. Any gaffe at all just stays with me forever, eats away at me, keeps me from sleeping, makes me sick to my stomach, makes me start randomly crying.

    I know I need to toughen up and not care what people think, but it's not so simple. I'm afraid of needlessly antagonizing others, though I don't think of myself as a hateable person. Though apparently I really am sometimes. I suck with reading people, and then somehow it goes all shitty and wrong.

    I never used to feel like such a weak fucking person. I want to not feel this way anymore.

    How do you just go in, make money, and go home without worrying about others? I know it's possible. And I've learned I'm just not good at making dancer friends, so I just stop trying. But does anyone else ever feel so lonely at work, like you have no one to support you? It's scary and hard. But damn I want to keep making money!

    And as to why this doesn't seem to happen on slower nights as much...I don't know. Fewer girls to piss off maybe? People are more relaxed?

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    Default Re: Having trouble going in on busy nights

    It really does help a lot to at least have one friend at work who you can talk to and complain with. It's really a trait that you have to develop, to be able to not care what other girls think of you. In reality, everyone cares to some extent. You just have to learn how to hear the nasty things or take the dirty looks and brush them off.

    The best revenge is making money. If some girl is looking at you nasty, go out on the floor and sell a VIP, then think about her while you entertain the customer. Try to use it as positive motivation.

    I think they're probably just jealous. I saw the picture of your boobs. I think I would be jealous of you too

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    Default Re: Having trouble going in on busy nights

    i get more intimidated by the other girls than the guys most of the time. weird.
    just brush them off, learn to zone them out and just focus on the money.
    i'm like you, i like slower nights too, but i gotta work tonight. ugh.

    but you're beautiful so forget about them and just do your thing!!

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    Default Re: Having trouble going in on busy nights

    I don't have any friends at work either . Pretty much all I have to look forward to is the money.

    If you're not doing anything blatantly wrong, like dancing dirtier than all the other girls, or sitting with a customer that someone's already with etc.... then don't sweat the other dancers. They will have no well-founded reason to hate you. Ignore them. Seriously. The only time I interact with another girl at work now is to say "excuse me" when I'm squeezing past them, smile at a girl when she makes eye contact with me (even if she looks mean), or to get my custie to tip her when she is being ignored on stage. Other than that I have no purposeful interaction with any of them. I'm there to make my money and interact and have fun with my customers. As for the other dancers, we're only politely sharing space, and rarely sharing custies (like in VIP's).

    Just be in your own world at work. Stop looking at other dancers, wondering if they're hating on you. You're making so much money that you don't have time for that. Especially on busy nights... it might mean more dancers, but it also means more customers to hit and therefore more $$$.
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    Default Re: Having trouble going in on busy nights

    If I were you i'd stay away from the busier nights and focus on getting regulars during the times I felt most confident.

    The girls can definitely be more intimidating than the guys. The guys are easy. If you really want to make "friends" with other dancers, give them a compliment in front of a customer. Or just smile. Corny, but it can work.

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    Have friends or make friends that are your friends outside of work. Then just go to work to work.

    Don't push yourself to work on nights that bring bad symptoms on. That's' not worth any money.

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    Default Re: Having trouble going in on busy nights

    In all honesty, I generally make more money when I don't have any friends at work. That way there are no distractions.

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    Default Re: Having trouble going in on busy nights

    Honestly, Molly, if you can't do busy nights, just don't do them. This game is all about psyching yourself and other people out. If you do better on slower, less intimidating nights, just accept that and book yourself for those nights. You'll probably make more money when you're more comfortable.
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