
Originally Posted by
Phil-W
Most dancers don't mix their work and private lives.
They come in to work, switch off their real life personality, and switch on their "stripper" one. There can be a substantial difference between the two. There's a good chance that the side of her you see at work doesn't reflect real life.
Next - all dancers get hit on regularly for phone numbers, etc. It's because they're pretty and desirable and available. Equally well, most dancers don't want to see people outside of work that they see in their work environment. Requests for phone numbers become background noise to them.
However, there are definately people they like seeing in the work environment.
If you've been polite to her, talked to her decently and brought dances from her, she'll probably like it when you turn up at the club. Beats spending time with an assh*le customer.
However, you've got to remember that she's there to earn money. She does that by being a fantasy figure - what she tells you may not be what she tells the next person she dances for.
You've also got to look at sexual orientations. You're a lesbian - she may be 100% hetrosexual. That could mean that she's comfortable dancing for you, but has no interest in a sexual relationship with you.
As has been suggested earlier in this thread, I'd take a deep breath and consider what to do.
If you've seriously smitten by this dancer and really want a relationship with her, I'd stay away. You may be pursuing the unattainable.
If you can treat it as an enjoyable interlude, then go in and see her. There's a decent possibility she'll genuinely enjoy your company as long as you're happy to keep things within the club.
It is a fantasy, and to paraphrase Mast - you don't have to have a penis to enjoy the view. It is escapism and there's nothing to say you shouldn't enjoy a dance as much as us guys do.
Finally - if you do go back in - relax - you've got nothing to lose.
Just enjoy her company for an hour or two, accept it for what it is - erotic entertainment - and leave with a smile on your face.
Phil.
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