I decided to avoid a threadjack, this was inspired by the other breadwinner post.
My husband is my driver/security(i work an hour away in not the best of areas) in addition to doing my hair and makeup before I leave for work( he is alot better than me, lol). He cleans the house and prepares the meals, in addition to laundry, etc. When he worked regular hours at a normal job, we never got to see eachother. We both had food and gas expenses and after a few days the house would get alot messier than usual. We decided to live like this b/c it suits us, and our income has increased. We are both going to school and plan on specific careers in the future.
With all that said whenever I tell someone this, I feel like I am defending myself or him. When I was making 75K working in sales and he was making 20K working in healthcare, I still felt the pressure of being a breadwinner. It was no different
yet, people's reactions were different b/c I wasn't dancing then. I have only earned more for about 5 of the 11.5 years we have been together, and I strongly disagree that gender should make a difference.
Why is it ok for moms to stay at home and they aren't considered lazy? You always hear and see people talking about how much work goes into being a full time stay at home mom/wife and how much $$ it's worth if they break it down. Why can't men do the same? If this a male posting about his nerves being the breadwinner and was on a commission based job (basically the same thing) and men were responding "Don't let her get lazy", would that be the same? I hope im not just blabbing on and some of this makes sense.


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