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    I started going to a local club and a dancer there caught my eye. I only spend my money on her (to the frustration of the other dancers). Tonight she sat down with me for a few minutes and I bought her a drink (ie buy her company). As soon as my dancer got her drink, she left me in the company of another dancer and walked off. Out of the corner of my eye I saw my dancer with another guy. I asked the other dancer who that guy was. She said it was my dancer's regular. I'm too new to be a regular.

    I felt awkward the whole night waiting for my dancer to come back. She did for a brief moment. I asked her what's up? She said the guy bought her a drink (Didn't I also buy her a drink? ). I asked her how much he's spending? She replied hundreds and said she would be back.

    I asked her for a dance before I left. I basically had to get the DJ to pry her off the other guy...the DJ started joking with me like "hey this guy wants a dance from..." I was too shy to give her name. She did give me a dance but I had to wait until the very last second before the song started.

    My question for the ladies is if you have two guys who want to spend money on you, how do you balance the situation? First come first serve? Or does it come down to money? I was spending money on my dancer...just not what the other guy was. I have no problem with her making as much money as possible. It just sucked I had to be there at the same time.

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    Basically it works like this:

    Lets say I've been having a guy come see me weekly for the past 6 months. Let's call him (CustyA.) You, (CustyB) are a great guy, but I just met you for the first time last week. I enjoyed your company BUT I dare not risk losing CustyA. He's been a consistant flow of money for me, so I dare not risk making him feel to lonley while I'm up in your face.

    IMO though, I think your dancer should be spending some time with you. At least let you know that CustyA is waiting, and explain to you that she will at least try to check on you from time to time. Or, she could tell you to come in on another day when CustyA is not in the club. That way you could have the needed attention you're looking for.

    My suggestion: Ask her what other day of the week she works, so that way you know to come in at that time.







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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    Or, she could tell you to come in on another day when CustyA is not in the club. That way you could have the needed attention you're looking for.
    I told her I would come back later but she didn't want me to leave. She kept assuring me she would be back.

    It was really hard to watch. She told me her regular surprised her. Right before he came in she told me in a jokingly manner while heading to the stage that I better not be with another girl. I kept turning down girls left and right while waiting...it's a choice I made and very frustrating.

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    ^^Well one thing you never want to do is "marry yourself" to a particular girl. If you find another girl attractive, or want to spend YOUR MONEY, do so as you please. Don't sit there on your wallet, without company when there are other girls who would love to spend time with you.







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    First off... When you buy a girl a drink you have not bought her company. Offering a drink is polite, but she can't pay her bills with drinks. If you want to keep a girl around you will have to spend actual money on her. Most dancers will excuse themselves to attend to their high spending regulars because that is the smart thing to do. It's nothing personal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by N00bCusty View Post
    It was really hard to watch. She told me her regular surprised her.
    Dude, you better get used to it. Unless you are filthy rich and going to totally support this dancer, she will be dancing for other guys.

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    If you love a dancer, let her go. If she comes back, she's yours. If she doesn't, she's found a more profitable way to spend her time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by N00bCusty View Post
    It was really hard to watch. She told me her regular surprised her. Right before he came in she told me in a jokingly manner while heading to the stage that I better not be with another girl. I kept turning down girls left and right while waiting...it's a choice I made and very frustrating.
    Mr. Noob, these ladies are giving you excellent advice. Take it from a 20 year lapping veteran, if you lock your desires on to one dancer, especially one that is very popular, you WILL become frustrated waiting for her. Spread the wealth and try to enjoy the company of several ladies. Let your favorite know that you really do want to see her (a nice stage tip will help her remember you), but don't assume for a second that you have set some kind of "appointment" or that she's obligated to return just because you asked her or tipped her. Once you become more of a regular, she will make a greater effort to fit you into the rotation. Sitting there alone hoping she notices and feels guilty enough to return is pinning your hopes on a non-existent motivation for most dancers. As the ladies have already said, spending does more to get a dancer to remember you than anything else you can do.

    My ATF has tons of regulars, many of which will buy 20-30 dances at a time (90 minutes or more). I usually call to let her know I'm coming in so she can look for me. BUT, if I don't get in line early, we both know she might not get to me before I have to leave. She knows I'm there, and does her best to see me, but I would never expect her to dust off another spending regular just so she can make my day. If I miss out, I'm disappointed (and I like to think she is too...), but I know there will be another day.

    Short answer - relax and enjoy yourself!

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    Quote Originally Posted by N00bCusty View Post
    It was really hard to watch. She told me her regular surprised her. Right before he came in she told me in a jokingly manner while heading to the stage that I better not be with another girl. I kept turning down girls left and right while waiting...it's a choice I made and very frustrating.
    that's silly. it shouldnt be hard to watch a dancer with another customer. and yes, to be perfectly honest, i would go for the guy who was spending more money. that's what i'm there for, obviously. i also don't like that you asked her how much he was spending on her.

    i made the huge mistake of having a crush on a customer and it got to the point where i didnt want his money. (i also dont have him come to my club anymore.) but even when i specifically asked him to come in and see me, when one of my regulars came in i left him to go talk to my reg. my point is that there aren't any situations i can think of where i would spend time with a guy who is spending less money when there is a guy who spends more.

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    If she's a smart business minded dancer, it comes down to money. If she's new to the game and doesn't know any better, it might be first come first serve. Perhaps you're dancer is the former, so she's doing her job so that she can make the most money. Good for her. If you think you have a good amount to spend on her, speak up! Even if she has a regular there as well, speak up and let her know that you'd like her company in talk or dances, and you are prepared to compensate her nicely. Otherwise, she will have had no idea and go to the regular.

    You are the newbie. The other guy is a regular. The regular is a regular for a reason; she knows he will spend money and take care of her. You, being the new guy, are not such a sure thing, so you'll have to speak up more until you gain regular status.

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    Quote Originally Posted by N00bCusty View Post
    I told her I would come back later but she didn't want me to leave. She kept assuring me she would be back.
    Of course she did. She said exactly the same thing to the other dozen guys who expressed an interest in her. She'd be crazy not to.

    Look, "I'll be right back," is the dancer's equivalent of the famous customer phrase, "maybe later." "I'll be right back," does not mean I'll be right back. It roughly means "I know you exist." You are just on her radar. But your ranking on her radar is going to depend on a whole LOT of things you don't know and have no control over, such as how much other customers are spending on her, how much she thinks YOU will spend on her, whether she suddenly scores a CR or whether some of her friends have dragged her off to hang out with a table of high-rollers. The list is endless because the possibilities are endless and constantly changing.

    A little aside. Once a dancer, in a moment of frank openness, said to me, "I'll be right back," and then paused, turned around, looked right at me and said, "doesn't that really piss you off when dancers say that?" "No," I replied, "I know exactly what you mean." It takes a while to achieve fluency in the language, but it's a hell of a lot more fun than learning pretty much any other language. And trust me, I know whereof I speak.

    Anyway, generally, the more you spend, the more attention you will get. This is not exactly rocket science. But there are major exceptions to this rule, and other factors include familiarity, safe-haven status, boredom, exhaustion and the lineup of other guys she has already talked to that night and has mentally ranked in terms of potential cash value. It is a business, after all.

    Quote Originally Posted by N00bCusty View Post
    It was really hard to watch. She told me her regular surprised her. Right before he came in she told me in a jokingly manner while heading to the stage that I better not be with another girl. I kept turning down girls left and right while waiting...it's a choice I made and very frustrating.
    If it was that "hard to watch," you may want to take a few steps back for a reality check. Resist getting that mentally or emotionally attached to any one dancer you have only known for a short while.

    Oh, and just in case you don't know this, (you probably do), her comment about your staying away from other women had nothing at all to do with her desire to keep other women away from you because she likes you so much. She was just protecting her earning space. As long as you stay free, she can drop back and sell you dances at pretty much any point in her night.

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    Of course it comes down to money. What else would it come down to?
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    Love Jenny. Where have you been? It's always been about love.

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    the others have summed it up very well for you.
    i cant add anything but i agree with the other posters.
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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    i also don't like that you asked her how much he was spending on her.
    The question was innocent...like how much do I need to spend to get your attention? If it was phrased rude I didn't mean for it to be rude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Other Owner View Post
    If it was that "hard to watch," you may want to take a few steps back for a reality check. Resist getting that mentally or emotionally attached to any one dancer you have only known for a short while.
    It's tough. I think she is the hottest chick in the club (I've already told her). When I'm there, I want her to be with me. If she can't, I need to make it happen (now I know I need to drop a few bills).

    I didn't mention earlier that she told me to ask the DJ when the next 2 for 1 dance was so she could dance for me...when the DJ saw I was standing alone, he started messing with me. I didn't go to the DJ in jealousy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by N00bCusty View Post
    It was really hard to watch.
    Two points.

    1. What else would you expect a stripper to be doing in a strip club? If she was someone you knew IRL, I could see your point, but not if she is someone you met in a strip club.

    2. If it really bothers you, don't watch. When the girls I know ( or even ones I don't ) are doing dances, it doesn't bother me, but I still see no reason to pay any attention to what others are doing in the dance room.
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    Yes. It does come down to money. Thats what you go to work for...and its not any different for us.


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    FYI, if you are the cheap guy waiting for the 2 for 1 dance, you are at the last of her priorities.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zabrina View Post
    FYI, if you are the cheap guy waiting for the 2 for 1 dance, you are at the last of her priorities.
    Seriously. want to know how much you have to spend to get her undivided attention? Multiply how many songs you are there for(@3 min a song) by $20. Double that. Thats a good start.

    If she kept coming back and then going away...you werent spending enough. Period.

    And if you think it is hard watching her with other custies...dont go back in.She isnt your girlfriend. Thats the equivilent of being jealous because your waitress is taking orders from other tables. This is work, not romance.

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    I've been the guy (regular) that a girl leaves a newbie or other guy,to dance for. You have to "pay your dues" by of course, spending the $$$. Honestly, feels great, knowing that one of the hottest girls in the place is waiting for you, and will even cut other guys short to be with you. Like the ladies said though, don't get "married" to her...not good.

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    Thanks, Zabrina. You read my mind.

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    If you're concerned about your place in her pecking order, or feel you need to make some financial "commitment" to a woman you're paying for your entertainment to ensure you have her attention, you've obviously missing the point.

    I have a favorite dancer too. I try to make a habit of visiting during off peak times, but when I get bumped its nothing personal. I'm sure she's bumped other regulars to attend to me on a few occasions.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Taylorlila View Post
    Yes. It does come down to money. Thats what you go to work for...and its not any different for us.
    And i thought it was all about my witty raparte. Poor me...

    But dude - while your waiting for her - get some dances from other ladies like a previous post has said - it will make that wait seem so much shorter!!!

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    Also, if you get some dances from other ladies, it might occur to your special dancer that money she could have made just went to someone else, and she might be over to see you again.

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