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    Angry I need a plan

    So i've FINALLY been relatively happy, making enough to cover bills, and begun SAVING again... And now my manager is threatening me!

    "Who OK'd you for night shifts?" Umm hello, I've been doing night shifts since i STARTED here. "I only HIRED You for dayshifts, that was our agreement" If you made that agreement in your hEAD... I moved here from your OTHER club, sat in on nightshifts here NO PROBLEM and no words about day/afternoon shifts."Well I don't care this is your last shift here unless you do dayshifts don't even bother finishing the friday or saturday shifts(that i specifically had him OK for me) this week"

    hello, i CANT do dayshifts! School, I teach piano, and its NOT profitable for me as a minor!

    But if i cant do dayshifts, then he's already threatened to remove me fromt eh schedule. After rearranging FOUR other engagements, i get one afternoon free, so he says FINE you can come in friday! I cant rearrange anything ELSE, and i cant come in more with my pain levels... So I'm fucked.

    Someo f the other people at the club were going to try to put in a good word for me.
    This is ridiculous.

    I'm good about keeping the schedule, i've ONLY been late ONCE, I'm friendly, I don't cause drama with teh other girls(that i'm aware of)... THey're shooting themselves in teh foot if they fire me.

    But besides that, I'm pretty much disabled. I can't get disability from social security because i'll lose my health insurance. I have chronic pain disorders, and daily life is miserable. No normal jobs will touch my resume, and the ones i've HAD have wrecked me physically, and i've had to work myself into some REALLY tough corners... How can i do a secretary job when I can't hold a pencil even, etc.


    I'm 20 and I have no future.
    I'm almost hoping no one reads this because I'm so embarassed to be writing it. You all don't need to know all this shit. But i need to rant it.

    When will management LEARN that the way to get hot girls on teh dayshift is NOT by firing or chasing away your dancers, and tearing them down till they do it, but by creating INCENTIVES to make them WANT to do it?!

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    What club is this at???

    geez.......what an asshole. i don't even know what to say. Especially since I know you made it pretty clear to whoever was saying this the reasons why you can't do dayshift....and besides... who WANTS to do dayshift?? blech.

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    ...and besides... who WANTS to do dayshift?? blech.
    Uhm, actually I work dayshifts and do better than most night dancers I know, but I know for minors it's a different story, but anyway, needtodance, that's really fucked up that he's mistreating you and deciding at this stage to be a dick.

    I don't really have any advice except perhaps checking out the Oregon Health Plan. Sometimes they can cheaply work with "preexisting conditions" that other places don't, and you could maybe get Social Security also? I don't know, but there must be a way somehow? And are you going to get an Oregon ID? Then you could come work at my club.

    But sorry things are rough .
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    This is my number one pet peeve about this industry - capricious management. It scares me because it seems like whenever things start going well, some manager isn't getting laid at home and decides to take it out on me, and boom I'm out of a job for no reason. Grrr.

    I have nothing to offer but sympathy.

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    I can only get an Oregon ID if I get a different insurance company. The one i have now is through my family, saying i'm NOT an oregon resident, just here for schoool.

    None of the places i tried would take me, because of my health problems... And the OHP kept screwing teh paperwork, blaming me, and then denying it since there wasnt proper paperwork.

    This is the D1 gypsy... I dont know if i should just reaudition, pretend "for the first time" at DII... I don't want ANY more of this "paying your dues on the dayshift" bullshit, since DII already TRIED that on me... But what if i go back and the manager sticks by his OLD comments about me "RE i don't want ot see you here after 9 you're fat, have ugly costumes, etc." I don't know what to do.

    I'm just getting tired of constantly shuffling myself around because of management being assholes. My money suffers, its hard to move my regulars from club to club, and everything ELSE in my life is so uncertain, it just makes me depressive and hopeless.

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    holiday- I meant... who wants to do dayshift AS A MINOR in oregon w/ all the rules........It's hard enough to make money as it is with all the stipulations at night being a decent-looking dancer and hustling from the stage.

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    I don't have an answer for you, but I can say this:

    Do the best you can. That's all you can do. Everything else is out of your control once you are doing all you can.

    Good luck

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    d1 wont let you work at night??that is so weird.im wondering if managment changed.......when i worked there it was prince and sarge they were both pretty cool.

    sorry your so down,there is so many clubs around that you dont really need the dolpfin anyways.maybe you should go to a club with a minor table.i know they have one at boom boom room and dv8.
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    I always find its best to be on good terms with management. Sometimes this requires ass-kissing. Otherwise palm greasing.

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    This WAS prince who I spoke to, Christian...

    Yeah, it bothers me because i NEVER have had a problem with this management... And thats how good behavior gets rewarded?!

    I don't know. I guess this was just the catalyst for that manic i've been feeling coming on for a few weeks now. Now I'm so scared and worried that I've been throwing up nonstop, can't sleep(not that I usually can) and am getting REALLY close to being suicidal. I just don't see ANY w ay of me being able to make a living, have a future, etc.

    I know theres other clubs in the area, but from all of the ones i've danced at, it seems like there's less foot traffic, less incentive to get multiple dances(with the portland air dance) and by FAR less earning potential. Especially since I can't sit with customers and get paid for my time. And having the one table for minors encourages time wasters who know you can't just get up and go sit with someone who WILL pay you. When I worked at the smaller clubs, i spent most of the time in teh dressing room anyways, since i DONT flirt for free, and would just make an excuse to get away from mr boring PL time waster who was camping out at my minor-zone.

    Ten more months till I can work the floor... Seems like an eternity... And I don't see HOW i'll be able survive that long, since without the high earnings of the Dolphins clubs, I can't work often enough to make up the difference with my health! I really don't know if i should just tell d1 to fuck itself, and try to find a way to work D2 or WHAT.

    I don't think i'm terribly coherent. I'm also having a tendonitis problem at the moment, so the pain enough has me close to tears. This is just icing on the cake.

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    I think that right now it sounds like dancing is just exacerbating your already bothersome health problems. Why not take a break from dancing and find a serving job? Waitressing you can make decent money and the physical stress on your body has got to be less than swinging around a pole and doing acrobatics right? Also.... have you tried herbal remedies (the blue tubes) or flower remedies for your tendinitis/muscle pain?? I had a really hurt shoulder a week ago and I started taking these herbal remedies from the health food store for it and it's all gone now.. couldn't hurt to try, they're only like 6/pop and you can get them for every symptom. Works a lot better than tylenol.

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    Ordinary jobs do this too. The difference iso rdinary jobs I have to work even MORE hours, for less pay, and they dont take well to me calling in sick.

    Not to mention that I'd only planned to be dancing as a temporary thing---until i could get a normal job... AND NO NORMAL JOBS WILL EVEN INTERVIEW ME. The last time i was able to get an interview was a month and a half ago, and they wouldnt hire me, because they called an employer for a reference and they said "Oh yes, she was a great worker---Is she still sick all the time?" and they kept pressing me for information a bout the health problems, and then told me they didn't think I could handle the work.


    And waitressing was HARDER on my body, when I did it... I didnt have back pain from the heels, but holding trays was a formula for instant hand pain. If i dont do TOO much on the pole, my hands are normally pretty fine.

    Its all just a series of trade offs....
    but the whole thing that made me START doign this is that I'm unemployable because of the health things.

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    I'd just ignore it. I don't know the club/manager, obviously, but odds are he won't even remember.

    In the meantime. This seems like a consistant problem for you, people pushing you around. I haven't met you in person, so I don't know what's up with that. Maybe someone who knows you in person could give you some assertiveness training?



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    I can give assertiveness training!!!

    well actually... I'm not very assertive... more passive-assertive... charming myself into situations and things I need/want

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    Personally, i don't tend to be very assertive. At work however, and particularly with this guy, I don't take a whole lot. I don't know how I could have handled it any differently or MORE assertively, since he was already taking my name off the schedule from teh moment I said "Ive done nights since I've worked here and am not available during the day". And called him on his "put her on the defe3nsive" lie about only HIRING me to do days, and trying to make it seem like I was "getting away" with something.

    I seriously hope he doesnt remember. I just don't know what to do, do i pretend nothings happened and then say "I made what accomodations i COULD" if he calls me on it? I have a regular who usually comes in on saturday but i don't know if this fucktard will let me WORK saturday, if he remembers!

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    What about working in childcare?? I'm thinking of getting a dayjob working at a daycare during the week to balance out the negative energy the club environment gives me. It isn't strenuous physically... especially if you work with the older kids because the most strenuous thing you do is push them on a swing.. with the infants you have to hold them, rock them, change them... but that's definitely not too hard on your hands. Babies are cute!!! There's a baby-aquarium (i like to call it that because it has a window where you can see the kids play area) on 10th that's hiring.

    oh yeah and are you working tonight??

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    Tonight, no. I need a day in between to recover. Friday and saturday are the only exceptions because thats when I make the bulk of my money.

    Childcare, at least younger children, isn't something I'm very well suited for. I'm told i'm OK with kids, but hauling the little ones around is hard on my back and shoulder(i did it for a while, was my first real "job") Older is mostly fine, but by then they want a teacher, or tuitor, or qualifications... And there's no way i'm interested in going to school for childcare. Kids depress me too muhc.

    I'm good when I'm with them, but then the moment they're out of my sight, I just get unspeakably depressed and agressive and mad. I don't know why kids infuriate me so. only way i can stand dealing with kids is one on one, like when I teach piano. And thats done WITH obviously more parental involvement and support, so maybe thats it. I don't know.

    It doesn't help that my mom worked in childcare, and it damn near drove her insane. And she LOVES kids... I don't want to go crazy and end up screaming at teh first baby to cry...

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    Oh honey! I'm so sorry! But do try not to worry so much. You're almost 21, and things will be a lot easier. You'll have sooo many more dancing options.

    As for the pain level, will it be possible to take things down a notch? Honestly, I think there's a lot of factors that are more important than dance moves. I know a lot of girls who make great money with not a lot of exertion, just slow sensual moves and lots of intense eye contact. Judging by your photo, you're very pretty. You've also mentioned your petite, and that works very well for this industry. Maybe if you did that, wore lower heels if need be, and gave yourself enough breaks in between work days, I'd bet you'll find you do just fine (once you're 21). When you think of it that way, it's only one challenging year (or less) to get through, before you're making great money.

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    I already have taken the vast majority of the "tricks"out of my stage shows, in recent days... I dont think there's a whole lot else I can do to simplify it. Really, it has more to do with the weather...

    And i'm alraedy only doing 3 days a week, four at the VERY most, if my pain level is GREAT... Which shows why i can't take the pay cut...

    Thanks Fifi, I know its only a matter of time till i can truly work ANYWHERE in here, and it wont be a big deal if one club decides "dayshift or bust". HELL maybe i'd be able to bank on the dayshift, like Holiday does. Its just surviving to that point thats iffy. I guess WORST case i could get roommates, but that would upset the daylights out of me, i'm difficult to live with, and would be REALLY unhealthy on me mentally...

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    Teaching piano sounds like a great gig, maybe you could do more of that for the next ten months?

    And I know OHP is a major nightmare to deal with. I couldn't handle it. It was like dealing with the DMV, only with more ignorant employees. I ended up getting Blue Cross Blue Shield, and with my pre-existing conditions I think it was about $190 a month. I wish your family could help you out a bit right now. At least through this rough time.

    Any modeling gigs? I know some stuff might sound sketchy, but the nude stuff seems to pay well.
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    You say you have no future but you teach piano? I'm confused...

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    I teach piano, but its too competitive, what with all of the colleges in the area, for me to get enough students to make a career out of. Its extra money, about 50-70 per month, per student. So a nice supplement thats NEEDED but not enough to live off of. And because I couldnt complete my music degree, my qualifications don't look as nice as many in the area.

    I do do modeling gigs, and I'm OK doing nude stuff, but everyone who's contacted me about it has been REALLY sketchy, and its not workable. My family has been trying to help me with my student loans, but they're as broke as I am right now, pretty much.

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    As if things weren't bad enough, my boyfriend is debating whether he wants our relationship. I tried talking to him about all this stuff, and he just got really overloaded(has a shitload of his own problems too) and was talkign about how he didn';t know if he was READY for a relationship right now... After 9 months of togetherness!

    Insult to injury, he then says "i'm tired and not thinking straight. We'll talk about htis tomorrow"

    Well NOW how am I supposed to sleep!

    I SERIOUSLY need a friend here right now, between work and depression, and him... and i have no idea who to call, since my closest friends are in the area i grew up, not here.

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    my boyfriend is debating whether he wants our relationship
    I was going to ask about you guys. That's probably a big part of your emotional state huh?

    I'm actually headed out of town this weekend, but I'd love to grab a coffee when I get back.
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    We should grab a coffee!

    But yeah, I've been getting hte sense from him for a while that he felt he wasn't living up to his friends demands, and that he automatically assumes I'm unhappy with him because of it. So its not really a surprise that he's thinking about whether he can handle it. It just hurts with teh timing... And i really don't want to give the guy up.

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