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    I'm fed up. With the management, with the girls, with the customers. I am done stripping for a while.

    I just quit going in. At most strip clubs I've worked at this is how you do it. No, not at my club, which thinks it's a fucking law office. We have a set schedule, with a minimum of three shifts--the same shifts each week. You can't call in for ANY reason without getting a huge guilt trip and having to BEG for the night off. I called in one day last week to say I was sick and couldn't come in and the biggest asshole manager happened to take the call. He grumbled and sighed overdramatically and said, "You girls are killing me. It's a football game tonight and we need all the girls. You need to come in." Somehow he managed to talk me into coming in. I was SICK! I made jack shit and felt completely used by management and the crowd which just wanted to watch the game and look at free booty all night.

    I was scheduled for the next day and woke up worried and dreading and just feeling horrible thinking about having to go back in. I've felt like this for WEEKS. Every single time I have to go in. Like, to the point of panic attacks. And it occurred to me that I *didn't* have to go in. So I didn't. I didn't call and I didn't show. It felt AMAZING! So I did it again the next night. And then my next shift. And the next. And then I decided not to go back again.

    The asshole manager has been fucking with my girlfriend (who is a cocktail waitress there) telling her that "We all have to go to work. (My name) is not special. When she gets back she's in big trouble." He's been fishing to find out where I am and when she tells him she doesn't know what's going on with me he calls her a liar and tells her to fess up. He even said, "You know, she came in here and BEGGED us to give you a job." As if to threaten her somehow?? (And it's not true. She got her own job.)

    Anyway, sorry for the blah, blah, blah. I just wanted to get it out. I loved stripping at one time because it represented freedom for me. After a while it didn't feel so free anymore, so I have quit to do somehting else that allows me to be free. Once that feels restricting I may come back into the club. I feel amazing, like I am in control of my life and my destiny. I am the architect of my life. I can live by my wits just as well as my tits. I am in control. I really needed this.

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    Ew, what an asshole. I hate when managers act like they OWN you....yes you may work there, but did they not make you NOT sign a paper specifically stating you are your own employee?? Ugh!! Assuming you don't call off all the time, that is so wrong of your manager to guilt-trip you in like that. He does not pay you, he has no right to threaten you (with what he told your friend). So many girls don't even call in when they're sick (or not sick...lol), you at least gave him the common courtesy of letting him know you were not going to be there.
    Besides, if you are sick, he should know that working in a strip club is probably the WORST thing for a sick person!! All those germs flying around in an enclosed space, being in close contact with men during LDs (to say nothing of those who try to blow/kiss/touch girls)!! Its SO much better to take a day off, than try and work through it and get even sicker (resulting in taking a lot longer time off work). Anyway, its much harder to sell LDs when you are sneezing/coughing/sniffling!! Good for you for not putting up with this complete BULLSHIT

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    I think I know your club. Is it the one where you pay a house if you call in and triple house if you are a no-show? It is possibly the WORST club to work for. God motherfucker if I ever step foot in that place again.

    I bet anything they'll call 10x/day begging you to come back.

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    I am happy for you. It sucks so bad when going to work illicits feelings of panic and dread. This recently happened to me, but I didn't quit dancing, I just switched clubs and i feel so much better. I bet this is going to be so good for your mental health. What are you planning on doing instead of dancing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by StrayStripper View Post
    I think I know your club. Is it the one where you pay a house if you call in and triple house if you are a no-show? It is possibly the WORST club to work for. God motherfucker if I ever step foot in that place again.

    I bet anything they'll call 10x/day begging you to come back.

    You pay $75 for a no-call, no-show, but they don't charge you anything if you call in.

    They've always been pretty cool with me about calling in, but I do hate the way they are about their schedules. And lately it's been rumor after rumor about "when the club gets remodeled," and that's a laugh. There's a "stop construction" order posted on the outside of the building. Nothing is getting remodeled in any significant way, at least not yet.

    Unfortunately, in Indianapolis there are only two decent clubs, three depending on who you talk to. The only other one I'd work at is at least a 30 min. drive (and is where those cunts from the other night work). I've always made good money at my club, and even though I get sick of it at times it isn't enough to make me go elsewhere. Quitting isn't an option for me. Plus, I'm friends with a few of the girls and I'm comfortable there. That's as good as it gets in strip club land as far as I'm concerned.

    Dottie, I'm sorry you are burned out. Hopefully you will come across something better.
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    I'm sorry, Sweetie. I wish there were better clubs in your area...this doesn't sound like a "normal" SC to me. It sounds HORRIBLE. Can you travel somewhere else to work?



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    Wow... Congrats, girl!! Good for you... I totally understand how it is... same at my club. Fined 100 for calling in, unless you can get another girl to cover for you, strict schedule of 3 days, guilt trips if you miss a lot... yeah. I am lucky that the management takes care of the girls and the money potential is there... if the guys were dicks, too, no one would work. Good for you for standing up for yourself... no one should give in to guilt trips and maltreatment. An SC doesn't own you... you are an indpendent contractor for a reason.

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    1. That's a huge advantage in the club's I've worked, esp. in Texas. No schedule. Nol VIP rates in exchange.

    2. I REALLY don't want to be that asshole, but as long as you call in and look good, you will be ok.

    Bur I understand..fucking heirerchical management structure!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    2. I REALLY don't want to be that asshole, but as long as you call in and look good, you will be ok.
    Are you saying that as long as I look good and make sure to call in instead of no show that I should be able to keep my job? I am well aware of that. Shit, I don't even need to call in, apparently. After no-call-no-showing 5 shifts in a row my manager is still telling my girlfriend, "(Name) is in trouble when she comes back!" HAHAHA! Um, asshole, I'm GONE. I reclaimed my independent contracter status, like, for real.

    There is a weird thing about my club. For some reason many of the girls there feel it is the only club they can possibly work at, so they will put up with all sorts of bullshit to stay there. And the management very much reinforces this. They act like us little girls have no other options. Many of the girls internalize it. That's what this bullshit by the manager is all about. He can't yet fathom that no matter how much money I made there, I am willing to give it up and not look back. Most of the girls don't have the balls.

    OH! GET THIS! So one of the members of my band, who I recently found out is tangentially aquainted with the DJ at my club, came up to me the other day and was like, "Damn, girl, you BANK at that club! Shit!" I was like, "Huh?" He proceeded to tell me exactly how much I made during two particulary good nights recently. My DJ TOLD HIM. So now, I'm this fucking insanely rich chick who can just pay for everything the band needs.

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    ^Yeah...it sounds to me like management knows they have the girls "by the balls." That's a shame...because this is "our" business. We make them their money. Hence the term INDEPENDENT CONTRACTOR. This place sounds like a Nazi Camp.



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    It seems like all clubs have management like that to some degree. I'm sure this isn't the case for every girl and every area of town but... There ARE other clubs to work at. I get a small bit of satisfaction at ignoring management trying to set a schedule (well, except at the new place I'm at since it's really really small) and calling me (even when I told them that I wouldn't be back for awhile) whenever it's dead to come in. The money has to be REALLY worth it.

    They have a serious problem understanding the difference between "self-employed" and "employee".
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dottie Rebel View Post
    I am the architect of my life. I can live by my wits just as well as my tits.
    Now THIS is something worthy of putting into a signature...

    And you are even more appealing than you were before, for having said it, lol.

    I heartily congratulate you on your new-found independence. Sounds like you were working in a nasty club, as far as managerial policy towards dancers is concerned. Eventually you might find another club where you feel like working again, but maybe not.

    This is a strange business. It's never been a career choice for me--as I know it's not for most of us--yet I have been drawn into it so thoroughly that I moved to another, radically different city to take advantage of what seemed to be a much better (career?) choice. And it's about all that has concerned me this past year.

    But it is nice to know that we aren't trapped in it (though I think we have all seen those unfortunate dancers who are in various ways), and one advantage of the high earning potential is that you can save the money for just such an eventuality.

    If you ever do decide to get back into it, I hope you happen to be in Key West at the time, lol...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    But it is nice to know that we aren't trapped in it (though I think we have all seen those unfortunate dancers who are in various ways), and one advantage of the high earning potential is that you can save the money for just such an eventuality.

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    When I worked in Indy at Babes West during the early millenium, we had to go on schedule for 3 shifts a week, and could work as much as we wanted after that, and all was good for me.

    When I first came up there from their Memphis club they asked me to work some day shifts along with my nights and when the manager saw me work he told me I hustled too much to be on days.

    I usually worked 5 nights a week anyway and he told me while laughing that I should just go on schedule for 5 nights a week since I was there anyway. I think I only called in once in 5 months time, and one time I mixed up and took off a day I was scheduled, and when I came in the next day he said no big deal.

    My impression there was if you were reliable and a good worker since the club got $3 per dance, part of that going to the manager personally, that they were really cool to work for. I liked working there.

    Of course I am sure over the years business has changed there just like everywhere else.

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    I have never worked at Babe's West a day in my life. Just what exactly is the point of this post?

    Incidentally, I was completely reliable. I treated my job as any other job. I never no-showed and only took off when I was truly too sick to work. When at work, I hustled my ass off and kept my head down. I know you (Tina) believe that almost every stripper is spoiled and lazy but I assure you I was neither.

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    I've been "burnt out" here and there with it all. Yet usually it is because of a particular club so I just work somewhere else. There are always options.

    Plus I just don't get why girls stay loyal to any club? Stay loyal to yourself. Not the club. The club couldn't care less about you thus you have to care about you. There is always an option and there is always money to be made elsewhere.

    Anyway, best of luck Dottie. I did the same thing in re a local club here not too long ago. I just had HAD enough of it all. Took three weeks off.


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    To be honest, it may be a short break (maybe a month? maybe 6?), but just the reminder that I am in control and have options is seriously worth the cash beating I'll take for a while. I can't buy sanity with all the 20s stuffed in my mattress (figuratively speaking).

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    You're a smart girl, Dottie. You'll find a solution.



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    Good for you.



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    Congrads for standing up for yourself Dottie !
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    I somewhat understand why you are frustrated, but our club is no worse than anyplace else, and in fact is a lot better in terms of numbers of customers and moneymaking potential. I have had an overwhelmingly good experience working there. No, it isn't perfect and I do have days when I get tired of things, but everyplace seems like the worst when you are tired of it.

    I have worked at this club for over a year and really don't have that many problems with it. It's a tradeoff. Any club you go into is going to have certain policies you don't agree with it. This, IMO, doesn't make it a nazi regime or anything of the sort.

    When I was thinking of quitting before, they worked with me to change my schedule so that it was more manageable. They were actually very cool about it. And then again recently when I needed to switch Saturday nights to Friday nights I had no problem at all making that change. They were fine with it. And they've only given me shit one time when I called in, and that was from a manager who doesn't even work there anymore. The other times I just told them I couldn't make it and that was that. I've never had to pay a house fee for calling in, but then I've never done a no call, no show.

    Personally, I think girls stay there because they make excellent money and like working there. Its money that is definitely not guaranteed at the one or two other decent clubs in town. Club policies being bs or not, we always have bodies in the club. Even when the other clubs in town are desolate. It is nice to know the moneymaking potential is always there. Most of us can't afford to roll the dice when it comes to our livelihoods. It is much more that than being intimidated by management or anything of the sort. There really aren't many clubs in this city that can provide the same kind of income.

    And it's a good working environment compared to other SC's I've worked in. I really haven't dealt with a lot of catty drama amongst girls, and that is refreshing. In fact, there are a few who I really like. And all in all, these are the reasons I stay working there. Your bad experience is understandable, but that doesn't make it the worst club on the planet. You did work there before and came back, so it wasn't like you weren't familiar with how they run things. I'm not really sure what it is that they did to make you mad this time around, but if you wanted to work it out I would suggest talking to the GM. It doesn't sound like you want to stay, but he has been very understanding with me and I'm sure would be the same way with you if you were open to it.
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    What do you mean when you say you were "thinking of quitting before?" You walked out. You quit and immediately pm'd me wanting all the details about another club. Then you went over there and got hired. Yes, you came back, but you were fed up enough that you walked right out of a shift.

    Look, you don't know the sum of my experiences at the club. No one does. It wasn't about a conversation with Bill. My rambling OP was supposed to be a catharsis, not a documented timeline of my history at the club to justify my actions. I have done this job for almost 9 years now, in over a dozen clubs. I worked at that club for a total of 1 year. I'm not wet behind the ears. With all due respect, I don't appreciate the attempts to set me straight or give me advice on how to go back once I inevitably wise up and realize the mistake I made. Luckily I've made decisions in my life that have allowed me the freedom of a somewhat whimsical existence. I can and will roll the dice. Because I have *designed* my life to allow options. If I want to go back, that option is always there. It is a freaking strip club, after all.

    At any rate, I think when you're having panic attacks just thinking about going into work, maybe it's time to look into alternative employment.

    I defy anyone to argue that point with me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dottie Rebel View Post
    What do you mean when you say you were "thinking of quitting before?" You walked out. You quit and immediately pm'd me wanting all the details about another club. Then you went over there and got hired. Yes, you came back, but you were fed up enough that you walked right out of a shift.

    Look, you don't know the sum of my experiences at the club. No one does. It wasn't about a conversation with Bill. My rambling OP was supposed to be a catharsis, not a documented timeline of my history at the club to justify my actions. I have done this job for almost 9 years now, in over a dozen clubs. I worked at that club for a total of 1 year. I'm not wet behind the ears. With all due respect, I don't appreciate the attempts to set me straight or give me advice on how to go back once I inevitably wise up and realize the mistake I made. Luckily I've made decisions in my life that have allowed me the freedom of a somewhat whimsical existence. I can and will roll the dice. Because I have *designed* my life to allow options. If I want to go back, that option is always there. It is a freaking strip club, after all.

    At any rate, I think when you're having panic attacks just thinking about going into work, maybe it's time to look into alternative employment.

    I defy anyone to argue that point with me.
    I was going to quit, but decided against it. And it was one night after a shift was completely over. I had paid house fees, tipped out, etc. I would not walk out on a shift unless something serious happened. It was nothing more or less than that. Everyone gets fed up in this business, it's just a matter of where you do it. I also weighed the options of the other club and decided I'd rather stay put, especially if they were going to give me the schedule I wanted. I've got no problem with how that situation was handled.

    I'm not trying to convince you of anything, nor do I expect any justification of your actions. And I never said anything to the effect of "come to your senses and come back," you certainly have other options and you have your reasons for not wanting to work there. My post was mainly for the other girls in this thread who were making comments about how awful the club sounded. I wanted to give the other side of things.

    And all I said to you was *if* you wanted to work things out to talk to the GM. And I even added to that, saying that I figured you probably didn't. I know you are pissed off right now, but don't take it out on me just because I say a few words in defense of the club. I have been treated very well there and I have made a lot of money in that place--and I speak for no one but myself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dottie Rebel View Post
    At any rate, I think when you're having panic attacks just thinking about going into work, maybe it's time to look into alternative employment.
    Thats always the point where I know its time to move on. In ANY job I've had..not just stripping.

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    I love it! Asshole manager is deluding himself that he actually has some say so on whether or not a dancer comes in.

    Clubs in Phoenix and in Portland know that they have no control over the dancers and the girls in those locations pay some of the lowest house fees and have the least amount of mileage to put up with in all the places I've ever danced.

    I've also noticed that cities with very few clubs usually strong arm the dancers into paying outrageous house fees and force girls into schedules that fuck-up the rest of their lives (school schedules, babysitting issues etc.).

    You could always try strip-o-gram and private parties. So long as you are a half way organized person, the freedom of private party work is awesome. I don't recommend doing one-on-one unless you are comfortable with escort type of work.

    I wish I could recommend an agency, but I'm not sure who is in your area that is reputable.

    Congrats on the new found freedom, Dottie!


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