Okay, I pretty much know the answer to this already, but I wanted to see what you girls think.
Last night I came across a guy who got one dance from me and asked me if we had a CR, I say "yes!" He says "how much?"
I tell him and he says "Yah, I already knew, I've been here before, I just wnated to see if you'd be honest about the price." (That part is important)
"Ok." pause "so....do you want to go then?"
"Yes!"
Great, we head off to the CR, he buys a spendy bottle, is a total gentleman the entire two hours, we talk mostly, did a few dances, really it was a great CR time.
A lot of the conversation was centered around how "normal" I am, not all fake and playing him. He repeated this several times.
Then the hostess came by, telling us our two hours were up and reminded my customer that he had the option to "tip your entertainer on the credit card or by cash if you'd like"
He says "Oh, she's wonderful! I plan on taking care of her with cash, easier for her to spend!" Big smile, laughs all around. Okay great....
So we're wrapping things up, and he says to me, "I'd like to take you to dinner, a real dinner, and get to know you. Nothing sexual, I want to know your mind."
So....after reviewing our night in my head, the conversations and how this all started, I gave him this answer;
"I'd enjoy that I'm sure, but I have to be honest with you, I don't date outside of work. I'd love to get to know you more though, and really hope you come back again to see me."
Well this guy got straight pissed off!
"Oh, well, then I guess you made a killing tonight huh? Good for you. Hope you enjoy that hard earned money, how much dancing do you think you even did tonight? And I told you, I don't want sex, I just want to know you. Bye."
Stomped out. Pissed off. No tip.
Hmmmm, should I have led him on and played the "sure I'd love to go out with you! (insert giggle and hair toss) leave me your number and I'll call you!" Or was it a lost cause to begin with?
It's not that thist particualr guy is bothering me, or even this particular situation, but I wonder of sometimes it's better to go ahead and lead them on, or sometimes it's better to be straight forward with the guys...and when is the right time for which one?



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