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    Hey everyone, I need a little advice from you and help to ease my bf's worries about me dancing. He read something online, and it kinda freaked him out. He needs some information from all of you about dancing and what SMART girls do at the clubs. How they handle stupid customers, still being what they were before they danced, like not sleeping in until 3pm all the time and still being a mom (if they are), still helping with house chores etc.
    He needs to know that I'm still going to be the same person and will still hang out with him on nights when I'm not working if we can, that I'll still let him see me naked because I love him and it's not for work only.

    I guess I need you all to speak up and show him, that, the smart girls that do this, get ahead in life in all aspects, not just the money, and the ones that don't care, let themselves get into the party phase and start ignoring family duties and such.
    I hope I worded this correctly, please no one take offense to what I said, and please be easy on him, he's a very sensitive guy who just worries a lot. And he just needs to know that the majority of girls, are smart and do it only as a job.
    Thank you so much

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    Whoever you are now...you'll be when you are dancing. A bit more jaded perhaps and less tolerant of jerks, but essencially the same. As long as you dont let yourself get caught up in drinking, drugs and drama....the 3 D's that ruin!

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    Dear boyfriend,

    Your girlfriend will be the same person, only in better physical shape, and an even stronger person than when you met her. She is now joining the ranks of thousands of women that dance and are also fabulous moms.

    Please help her out. Realize that she will be exhausted when she comes home. Rub her back. Massage her feet. She may be getting attention from guys at work, but the only one she really wants attention from is you; and frankly, she'll need it after dealing with assholes.

    Not all men will treat her like a princess. And she may come home from work with stories you may not want to hear. Some men do some really stupid things in our presence and can be downright rude if not completely out of line. Rest assured that she will still be okay. We learn to brush it off. And sometimes we like to handle kicking some ass by ourselves.

    She is doing this job because she loves her family. Expect her to be surrounded by women that make poor choices. I hope that makes you respect her even more than you already do for making good choices.

    Respect the effort she puts in at her job. It is easy money, but very hard work. It's not a magical solution. She still needs your help financially if you can swing it. Please also realize that this is just a job, almost like any other. You go to work, you get paid, you come home. And all the money you make in the world is meaningless if you don't have your wonderful family to come home to and share it with.

    Signed,
    One of those rare drama-free dancers
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    ...I assume you probably don't want to deal with pervs, and the guys that just don't give a fuck about money are like unicorns...
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    Hey this is from "the boyfriend", I understand that this job is hard work and trust me I am probably the most supportive person in the world, I work very hard as well and understand that this job can be stressful and I think that it is the creep factor of some of the people that you guys have to deal with on a daily basis that shook me up quite a bit.

    It's a learning curve for me, one that's been a hump to get over, especially when this woman is my universe and now other people are seeing her naked on a nightly basis...and it didn't "freak me out" until the other night and I realized that I was having a hard time with it..and I'm not sure if other men are like this but I was willing to try and find my own way of dealing with the way I was feeling so I did what was probably the stupid thing to do I Googled the following phrase "my wife is a stripper".

    http://en.allexperts.com/q/Questions...e-stripper.htm

    Read away and then tell me why I wouldn't feel uneasy, it tossed me into such a fit that I was sick to my stomach, unable to stop shaking, and couldn't sleep until almost 4:30 in the morning..even after she got home and I was able finally talk to her, I know that this is just a job like any other job, and I trust her more then anyone else in the world, this is just a new thing in my life I've never (and thought I'd never have).

    Anyway thanks for the advice from the 2 girls who answered, and thanks to my wonderful fiancee.

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    This is from just a regular guy. If the boyfriend is jealous or in any way difficult about what the lady does for a living, GET RID of that negative loser and find a boyfriend who actually trusts his girlfriend enough to leave her to it in peace. Oh, and preferably one that has a job.

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    Dear Cameron and Goddess:
    Thank you for writing about your thoughts, you made perfect sense and it did help him realize that yeah, just because we're around it, doesn't mean we'll be doing it! Like, the drug rehab centre, those employees don't do drugs, (or at least I hope they don't!) and the prison guard isn't going to rob a bank because he heard how easy it was. I'm still dancing at night, and last night I did okay again, and I think now that he's seeing me still be me and not come home with the "I'm tired leave me alone, don't touch me." And I sleep in until like, late afternoon and don't help clean anymore. Man, if I get home at 2:30am, and I sleep until anywhere from 8am-10am, that's 6-8 hours of sleep. I don't need to sleep in anymore.

    ANyway, you're good girls and I thank you very much for responding!

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    There will be days where you'll come home feeling "I'm tired leave me alone, don't touch me."....he needs to know it isnt personal, and it will go away. After busting yur butt in 6 inch heels all night...sometimes when you get home you will be physically and mentally shot...just like any physical and stressful job.


    If you worked in a hospital in the terminal ward...there would be times you came home sad and depressed..if you worked riding bulls in a rodeo..sometimes yud come home sore and not wanting to be touched.

    Every job has its pros and cons. This noe is no differant.


    Boyfriend: let her vent when she needs to. Dont try to fix things...if theres problems and drama..she needs to do it herself. Dont go into the club to see her...most clubs dont allow bf's and she could get in a lot of trouble...so if you do pop in one night..make SURE nobody knows who you are.DONT throw thi sin her face when you argue "well at least I'm not dancing naked for strangers"...you're profiting off it too!

    Good luck to you both...you'll be fine.

    and Macnee2...concern is natural and normal for something he doesnt know a lot about. He's still being supportive and trying to learn...your comment was out of line.

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    To the worried boyfriend-

    I respect your fears and truly understand them. I just started dancing this summer and MY wnderful boyfriend had many of the same worries. And I'm not going to deny that we had several things to work out before we were able to settle into complete comfort with the situation as a couple.

    I think that there is something very important that you need to consider about the link that you read ("My wife is a stripper"). The man in it very clearly stated that his wife had started dancing that summer and his concerns were posted on August 4th. This likely means that she couldn't have been dancing for more than a few weeks at most.

    Of course things are a bit difficult to start out with. It would be that way with ANY new job that carried such long hours and such strenuous exercise your wife will not necessarily have previously been used to. Some of these things might indeed happen at the very beginning of her dancing career. It is simply because she is exhausted. She will find her own groove that works for her and you two will make it through this, as long as you can hang on for those few weeks that she will need your support the most. It's all about that first learning curve.

    Just remember that she loves you. In the end, it doesn't truly matter how many people see her naked, as long as you are the only one to whom she wants it to mean something intimate.

    I hope that helps.

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    Yet again, another ignorant bunch of bullshit on the net. I can see why reading this would make her boyfriend apprehensive. But this man's feelings and the "expert's" response are both founded very much on ignorance. That, and as someone had pointed out, it seems like she was still a newbie, and they were going through the adjustment phase that any couple goes through when one changes jobs or careers. Communication was their key problem, not her job.

    Hell, I'm going to just copy and paste the link he cited:

    "Expert: S. Kessler
    Date: 8/4/2006
    Subject: My wife is a stripper.
    Question: My wife and I have been together for over six years. We have a beautiful five year old son together. She is a full time collage student. At the beginning of this past summer a friend of mine met and started dating a stripper. We got to know her and was amazed at how much money could be made. I jokingly suggested to my wife that she could do that to make a little extra money. Well she did. And she still is. She worked so that she could buy herself a Motorcycle scense I have one and at the time I could not buy one for her. Well she has the bike and she is still stripping because now she wants to help pay the bills and buy more stuff for riding like jackets and bike accessories. I have asked her to stop and she tells me she will after school starts up, but I am not sure if she will. We used to share the household chores, but now she sleeps all morning and works at night. I work outside all day as the cableguy and get home at five. My wife leaves at seven and does not get back until three in the morning leaving me with the housework after I had a long and tiring day. I have noticed that our marriage is a little shakey now to say the least, and my health is getting worse from worring about her. You see I do not want some drunk client thinking he can force her home and doing god knows what to her and leaving her for dead. I do trust her, that is she is not cheating. She even tells me that she will bring one of her co-workers home for me, but I just want her home. I ask her if she likes her job and she says yea, but I think she loves her job. We used to talk, go out, have some laughs. But now guys with money get that, plus get to see her naked. We havent had sex scense she started because she says she is tired. She acts like its a crime when I try to see her naked anymore. When I told her how I felt she told me this is what I wanted and I have to deal with it.

    I just need to know if you feel that I am overreacting or have I lost my wife? I need a little insight to just feeling helpless.

    Thank you.

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    Hi Nick~

    No, I don't think you're over reacting at all. You have every right to be concerned about her being in this business. From what I've heard about this business (watched plenty of documentaries on it, and even knew someone that was in that business) not very many women actually like it. In fact, they've said that many women get drunk or even do drugs in order to cope with how degrading the job makes them feel. So they get high or drunk to numb them from how it makes them feel. I would be more worried that she'd turn to drugs or alcohol than to worry about a man forcing her to do something (that's what they have security for in those strip joints). You're fears about her doing this are very valid.

    A lot of the women do it strictly for the money that they can make, which can be a lot. It really not worth it in the end though. You might have a hard time convincing her to quit. She really needs to know how this is making you feel. You should try and sit down and have a heart to heart talk with her about your concerns."
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    Strippers are like ninjas. You never know how many there are or if the person next to you is one.
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    ...I assume you probably don't want to deal with pervs, and the guys that just don't give a fuck about money are like unicorns...
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    I know I have said it before, and I'll say it again.... THE VAGINA IS NOT A CLOWN CAR!


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    ^^is that for real??? Ugh...more anti-stripper they're-all-whores-and-addicts crap. He didnt mention we were all abused as kids and our daddys left us..how could he keep that important piece of propoganda out??


    NOBODY should base any opinion on that piece of garbage.

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    k going to thread jack now
    my husband was okay when i told him i was going to do this he was fine supportive you name it. now that ive been offered a job and im going in for an audition at another place he says no flat out no in a very controlling way i think he didnt think i would go through with it or actually get the job. but i want to talk him around
    not argue with him about it i want to make him understand that i am not going to cheat on him
    not going to get hurt
    not going to get drunk hi everynight
    that i can defend myself
    and that its not about the money (though that be a very high point) its something i really want to try
    any advice for me?
    I am your heart




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    Speaking as a guy who has dated quite a few strippers I would advise both of you to be a little catious if you value the relationship. In my experience 12 years in the industry, it is relatively rare and takes 2 very mature, honest and devoted people for a relationship like this to work. In saying this I exclude people who have open relationships or are very open-minded lifestyle wise. But for the average Greg and Jenny Jones, I think the pressures, temptation and jelousy that get created can be too much for most people. Alot of the advice here has been very rosy, but I've seen too much to know that that is not the reality for the majority.

    When a girl makes the decision to take her clothes off in front of men for money, she has crossed a barrier (for better and worse). She is no longer the same. When she starts to get the money that comes in and gets all that attention and is able to exert all that control, I would say 90% of the girls will change alot as a result. Some alot, some a little, but almost all of them change. To me thought the biggest factor is the environment. What OTC is really tabu and doesn't seem to happen all that much happens all the time ITC and it starts to get less shocking as time goes on. It takes a very strong person not to get sucked in to some kind of behavior or outlook change spending alot of time in this environment. Can it be done, sure but I know many times more girls who've been sucked in and been changed than I know who weren't negatively impacted by it.

    As for the guy, if he's normal jelousy will rage in his head to varying degrees. He'll have to figure out a way to deal with this or it will eat him up. His mind will automatically go to the worst case scenario. If they have a fight and she is angry at him or feeling insecure or weak, one of those dozen or more (sometimes much more) guys a week that are hitting on her and begging to see her OTC might just get their wish. Just too much tempation.

    Also, for the most part the club environment is a dysfunctional place with alot of dysfunctional people. These will become your peers and your barameter for what's acceptable and not acceptable behavior. It's a very intense place and does't really refelect the real world outside. This is what makes it such a wonderful place. I just don't think that for alot of people it's a great place to be involved if your into LTR, for sure alot of people can pull it off and some people are open-minded and it's great for them, but for the average person I think it's trouble. That being said if you really want to try to make it work be very upfront on what all the downsides are and then communicate alot along the way. It's never worked for me but everyone's different. Good luck!

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    Most of the above bothers me quite a bit for many reasons. But that's not the point of this thread, I will say however, if you go looking for trouble, you'll find it.

    To the OP, I started dancing after my hubby and I got together (just boyfriend and girlfriend at the time). At first, yes, he was concerned about everything you brought up. We sat and talked about it for a long time. The pros and cons, how we would handle rough nights, etc. And along the way there have been some bumps in the road. We've had to adjust to it as we went.
    Like finding better ways to handle my hard nights and his worries, together.

    But I can honestly say, looking back from this point, it was the best choice we ever made together.
    What you are feeling is totally normal, and you are a good man it seems, to care and be concerned, yet still want to support her choices and find a way to make it work.

    Sure, there are some bad stories out there, but look at your fiance, is she into drugs? Is she a liar or the type of woman who if
    "she is angry at him or feeling insecure or weak, one of those dozen or more (sometimes much more) guys a week that are hitting on her and begging to see her OTC might just get their wish.
    .

    Dancing doesn't turn woman into a bad person, it has to be there to begin with. When I first started it took a while for me to adjust to being up late at night, I did sleep in a bit, but then I get my schedule set. It was a shock seeing someone do drugs in the bathroom, but it wasn't in my face every single night and it certainly wasn't something I wanted to do....it's all in the person, not the place.

    So, have faith in your woman, she sounds like she cares very much for you and wants you to be comfortable. Keep the lines of communication open and know that it wont be perfect right away, it will take some adjusting. But I think you two are on the right track.




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    Arctic I'm going to have to disagree. Yes there are plenty of disfunctional people in the club...but if you are a normal strong person being around this stuff will not ruin you. This site is brimming with girls who have been in the biz for years and remained perfectly normal..never became drunks or addicts, never gave in to prostitution..and certainly never met a customer OTC as revenge for a fight.

    I'm not saying that everything you mentioned doesnt happen..it does. But people who are suseptable to temptaion are suseptable in the club or out. Just becoming a stripper doest mean you are suddenly interested in drugs,etc....if you never were before.

    Treat it as a job...nothing more,nothing less and you'll be fine.
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    Quote Originally Posted by arctic717 View Post
    Speaking as a guy who has dated quite a few strippers I would advise both of you to be a little catious if you value the relationship. In my experience 12 years in the industry, it is relatively rare and takes 2 very mature, honest and devoted people for a relationship like this to work. In saying this I exclude people who have open relationships or are very open-minded lifestyle wise. But for the average Greg and Jenny Jones, I think the pressures, temptation and jelousy that get created can be too much for most people. Alot of the advice here has been very rosy, but I've seen too much to know that that is not the reality for the majority.
    Okay so, judging by this, since apparantly I'm a Jenny Jones kid, I"m going to give in to pressures of guys I don't find attractive? And the drugs, so I will be coming home strung out to sleep 5 hours and deal with my kids while I'm in Dt? Um, no. This is why I brought up this whole convo, because I know who I am, and people are detering from the OP. I'm asking for SMART women who have been dancing that KNOW what they are doing, and have made it SUCCESSFUL within their relationships to get over any concerns or fears based on what ignorant and biased people believe.

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    When a girl makes the decision to take her clothes off in front of men for money, she has crossed a barrier (for better and worse). Yes, I'm smarter and more careful of who I talk to. And I know when someone is not worth talking to because they'll just take things too far. And I know how to read people a lot easier too. She is no longer the same. When she starts to get the money that comes in and gets all that attention and is able to exert all that control, I would say 90% of the girls will change alot as a result. Some alot, some a little, but almost all of them change. To me thought the biggest factor is the environment. What OTC is really tabu and doesn't seem to happen all that much happens all the time ITC and it starts to get less shocking as time goes on. So does watching scary movies, but it doesn't mean I'll not bat an eye if I saw someone lying on the street in blood. It takes a very strong person not to get sucked in to some kind of behavior or outlook change spending alot of time in this environment. No, it takes a person to pay attention and not be too proud or arrogant to not receive advice from others who are living with them that see a difference in them. Can it be done, sure but I know many times more girls who've been sucked in and been changed than I know who weren't negatively impacted by it.

    As for the guy, if he's normal jelousy will rage in his head to varying degrees. He'll have to figure out a way to deal with this or it will eat him up. His mind will automatically go to the worst case scenario. If they have a fight and she is angry at him or feeling insecure or weak, one of those dozen or more (sometimes much more) guys a week that are hitting on her and begging to see her OTC might just get their wish. Just too much tempation. Yeah cuz apparantly I'm just a slut who enjoys screwing around on the one guy who I feel totally comfortable and made a committment with for the rest of my life. I just love fucking people over.

    Also, for the most part the club environment is a dysfunctional place with alot of dysfunctional people. These will become your peers and your barameter for what's acceptable and not acceptable behavior. Says who? You? I think I know what is acceptable and what's not. Still, I am not one to cross my own barriers and devalue myself.It's a very intense place and does't really refelect the real world outside. This is what makes it such a wonderful place. I just don't think that for alot of people it's a great place to be involved if your into LTR, for sure alot of people can pull it off and some people are open-minded and it's great for them, but for the average person I think it's trouble. That being said if you really want to try to make it work be very upfront on what all the downsides are and then communicate alot along the way.Isn't that true for all relationships? If you don't talk, won't you screw up the whole thing? You ignore her feelings? (or his) It's never worked for me but everyone's different. Good luck!
    I wrote this not for guys who come in thinking they know what goes on inside a woman's head because he has been in a strip club, or reads books about strippers and their lives. Maybe I should have posted in Ladies Only, but funny as it was, I was maybe looking for guys who've had positive experiences with this as well, but as it shows, the guys posting, need to speak of the dark gloomy sinister side of dancing, and only the women who are living it are saying the opposite.
    I agree with EE, and Cameron, he was only concerned with myself because he was only fed the crap you saw, and Artic, you were the guy who was a friend to him before (not literall but figuratively) and so he based all he knew about strippers from guys like you, who've had it go wrong and then know about it. It is just a job, that's it. Like I said earlier, if you were a cop and were around drugs all day long, you knew the best pick ups, the dealers and prices, yet you knew the insides too, where the cops looked and staked out, the rules and the loop holes, are you going to just start running drugs because you can? If you wouldn't before, you wouldn't now. It is just crap.

    EE and Cameron, you are making him feel better about this and his worries, and I know with time he'll start relaxing about all this, especially when he knows to wind down after a night, I find really stupid things to clean!! Hell, I'm up anyway, might as well do something!
    Thanks girls, you're good to me!

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    How about a word from the "concerned husband/boyfriend" whatever..

    First off..to this Macnee2 person, thanks for being a jerk, obviously you've never been in a situation where someone you love is doing something that you're really not to sure of and are just looking for some advice, here's some advice for you don't quit your day job and take over Dr. Phil's show if he decides to do something else (like be an electrician).

    Anyhow thanks to for the advice everyone, this will be the last time I write on this forum thanks

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    Quote Originally Posted by Habinairo View Post
    Anyhow thanks to for the advice everyone, this will be the last time I write on this forum thanks
    Dont leave. Theres a lot to ge tout of these forums...dont let the few jerks here put you off.

    It def. helps to have girls here to vent to. Sometimes only someone else who is living it can relate...to use your example, just like cops. Their friends can support them all they want and thats great...but only another cop can TRULY understand some things.

    This site is an amazing resource with a lot of amazing people. Stay. You'll be glad you did!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Habinairo View Post
    How about a word from the "concerned husband/boyfriend" whatever..
    It's not me leaving, but my bf, Hell yeah I'm staying!! But he'll be on here reading the enlightening bits of information you wonderful gems of wisdom bestow upon the world!!
    I wouldn't leave here, no way! This site has finally made me have the confidence and stability of myself to be able to dance, and not do too badly for my first times on stage either, you girls saved my ass in the club, literally! Because of the support here from all of you (except the losers), I truly believe I'll be able to make a huge difference in my financial situation! Hell, in 2 nights I've already paid for 4new tires for my car and have paid a car payment! This, I can see, will be something VERY worth while, I just wanted to help him out with his fears, and you girls were the ones I thought of to set him straight when I saw what he read.
    You all ROCK!

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    Ha, I think you're boyfriend is both humorous and awesome Habinairo, he's a keeper.
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    Hey, be glad he cares. A lot of dancers SO's ( Significant others ) are not worth crap.

    Like he said it's a learning curve.. he is a good guy, keep him.
    If he's willing to learn with you and support you through whatever choices you make, thats something that a lot of people don't have.

    Trust your instinctis in this biz. I don't know how or why it works, it's like a switch that gets turned on. That little voice inside your head that says that something might not be quite right.

    You seem like a smart lady to me.

    To her fella,
    She is doing this to better BOTH of your lives and her family's life.
    Guys are jerks, you know this. Your a guy
    Support, a sounding board and all the help you can give is what you need to do right now. Your girl is smart, trust her.

    Plus, she has us!
    Welcome to the adventure

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    you're all awesome

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    Your bf needs to learn how to trust your judgement. If you go in and you adjust and things are going well, then all is good. If the job simply isn't for you for some reason, you'll notice that as well.

    My life and bank account have improved since I started dancing. Yes, guys pressure you for your number and crap like that... but that happens in everyday life. You'll gain a lot of confidence. Stay on stripperweb. There are a ton of tips that a lot of other strippers don't have (and hence do stupid things to get themselves into trouble).
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    I'm just more than a little curious if he would have the same concerns if you went a nudist/naturalist beach or resort even ? The only difference between her showing her body to others at a nudist/naturalist beach or resort and a strip club is the intent.

    Her intent is to seduce as part of her business in the strip club. It is sex work.

    In the end, if you trust her and you know her enough to know that she WILL treat this like a legitmate business (and nothing more) then I don't see the concern. Her showing her bits to strangers is nothing.

    You have to ask yourself (to the concerned boyfriend) what is the real issues at play? Is it a trust issue? Is it your own insecurities coming to the forefront now that she will be exposed to many different men each time she works?

    COMMUNICATION IS KEY.

    Explain to her ALL of your issues with it and find out a win/win way of dealing with them.

    Then again, I've always had a nudist/naturalist bent to me so I have never had too many hang ups with people showing their "bits" (or natural body) to other people even strangers.



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    For some reason the song "next contestant" by nickelback comes to mind.

    Tell him that he doesn't need or want to slowly get this paranoid...

    I judge by what she's wearing,
    Just how many heads I'm tearing,
    Off of assholes coming on to her,
    (Each night seems like it's getting worse),
    And I wish she'd take the night off,
    So I don't have to fight off,
    Every asshole coming on to her,
    (It happens every night she works,)
    They'll go and ask the DJ,
    Find out just what would she say,
    If they all tried coming on to her,
    (Don't they know it's never going to work),
    They think they'll get inside her,
    With every drink they buy her,
    As they all try coming on to her,
    (This time somebody's getting hurt).

    Here comes the next contestant.

    [CHORUS]
    Is that your hand on my girlfriend?
    Is that your hand?
    I wish you'd do it again,
    (I'll watch you leave here limping),
    I wish you'd do it again,
    (I'll watch you leave here limping),
    There goes the next contestant.


    I even fear the ladies,
    They're cool but twice as crazy,
    Just as bad for coming on to her,
    (Don't they know it's never going to work),
    Each time she bats an eyelash,
    Somebody's grabbing her ass,
    Everyone keeps coming on to her,

    (This time somebody's getting hurt).

    Here comes the next contestant.

    [CHORUS]
    Is that your hand on my girlfriend?
    Is that your hand?
    I wish you'd do it again,
    (I'll watch you leave here limping),
    I wish you'd do it again,
    (I'll watch you leave here limping),
    There goes the next contestant.
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    That thing he has read is one guys perspective and experience on what happened to him and his wife. It sounds like the couple in the article may have had some "issues" to begin with.
    I am 25 years old with a six year old little boy who I love more than anything. I work hard but still have time for him and primary school activities etc. Hey I also do my house work and washing blah blah. My bf is also a single parent so we organise time we can see eachother, its all about time management when you working all night. If you stay away from drinking too much you will be able to get good enough sleep and wake up with the energy to do what needs to be done.
    If your wife stoped having sex with you once she started stripping then there are underlining problems in your relationship..... its not the job!
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