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    How do all you ladies politely turn down well-paying customers who ask you to go out with them outside of the club?

    I used to say, "Sorry but I don't date customers" but that kinda sounds rude and they usually stop spending after that.

    I need a polite way to reject their offer of dinner and a date that isn't going to offend them and will hopefully make them keep handing over the cash!

    Edit: BTW I'm not talking about customers who offer to pay me to take me out to dinner, I'm just talking regular customers who buy a few dances and get chatting to you and think you have a connection and want to take you out on an actual date...

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    I try to explain as nice as possible that I have principles against it and I've never met anyone out even for a cup of coffee not to mention dinner. That makes them think that on a personal level I'm actually interested but I can't (sometimes I even add that the club has rules against this), and often times they continue spending while trying to win me over. Others though just start with a stupid flood of why-nots and do NOT spend, which is when I tell them that it's because they're being a pain in the butt I'm sure somebody has better ways of handling this than I do though!
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    I say "Ohhh(look a bit sad) thankyou but you know I have had a really bad experience with dating someone I met through work and I got hurt." If they ask questions just say "i dont really want to get into it". Then smile and just change the subject and keep talking happily. It works for me
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    I usually say the club would fire me and they say how will they know and i say well if u give me your number they will see and i'll get fired.

    You could also just try the "oh that would be nice" but just dont give them a definite answer.
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    #1 - Oh I would love to but I don't think my girlfriend would appreciate it (guy says, you can bring her along too ...) I like boys but she doesn't, shes a bit possesive *wink*

    #2 - If I get caught seeing customers outside of the club I could lose my job ... you don't want me to do that now do you? *pouty face*

    #3 - I would love to but I have to see someone in here a few times before I can decide, I have had a few bad experiences ... IF they keep coming back ... I don't really think we have any connection so I am going to have to say no ... (this is what my friend uses)

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    ^^

    #4 - I just got out of a relationship and need a bit of time before I start dating again.

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    Usually I say...oh, you know I can't do that! you don't want to get me in trouble do you?

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    I try to joke it off to keep things light=
    "oh as soon as I leave work I turn into a normal girl, in fact I'm actually a 400lb woman with a mustache. My name is flora and I have 13 cats".

    they normally get the hint, if not, well then I tell them that I already have too many boyfriends and I can't seem to pencil anyone new in until 2043. Or some nonsense like that.




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    Say you have a kid, even if you don't.

    Customer: Let's get breakfast.
    Dancer: I have to get my daughter ready for school.

    Customer: Let's go out on your night off.
    Dancer: I spend all my free time with my son. I'm a single mom.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    You could also just try the "oh that would be nice" but just dont give them a definite answer.
    i like that. i say something similar.

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    Default Re: Saying "no" to dates

    i change the subject and they -usually- get the hint. if they keep asking i just tell them i don't date customers. i don't see the point in mincing words.

    if they're obviously looking for escort type services i tell them "sorry hon, i'm not selling what you're trying to buy".

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    Having a kid totally works. I made up a fictional three year old daughter, and I tell them I spend all my time with her. Any guy who would argue with that is probably not worth talking to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bella du jour View Post
    I try to joke it off to keep things light=
    "oh as soon as I leave work I turn into a normal girl, in fact I'm actually a 400lb woman with a mustache. My name is flora and I have 13 cats".

    they normally get the hint, if not, well then I tell them that I already have too many boyfriends and I can't seem to pencil anyone new in until 2043. Or some nonsense like that.

    Heehee... I really like these, especially the second one. I used to say similar things, but impatience has driven me, of late, to simply snap, "I don't date customers." It has lost me a lot of business, regrettably. I am going back to work after 6 weeks off and I am vowing to resurrect my playful and coy (but ultimately evasive) attitude.

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    "My husband might have a problem with that..." If he asks why you don't have a wedding ring, just say, "Management doesn't let us wear them while we work."

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    I agree with IT girl except I would say "i don't want to wear something so valuable and personal at work in case someone steals it or I loose it somehow"

    then if they ask the inevitable "what does your husband think of this?" question.. say "he gets a kick out of thinking that other men are lusting after HIS wife ... so lets continue so i have a great story to tell him when i get home"

    then change the subject


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    These are some good ideas, thanks everyone

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    I asked another girl at work what she does nd she says she puts on a suprised expression and says "But...I just met you! I couldn't possibly!" Then if they press it, she says her personal rule is she can't even consider that until she's known someone in the club for at least 6 months. This worries me, because aren't they going to want to get together after 6 months? She says a lot of them forget about it, and if they don't, she comes up with other excuses about how "busy" she is.

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    [quote=krys;1194401#3 - I would love to but I have to see someone in here a few times before I can decide, I have had a few bad experiences ... IF they keep coming back ... I don't really think we have any connection so I am going to have to say no ... (this is what my friend uses)[/quote]

    I use this one (her#3) quite a bit to keep them coming back in, it works for about a month usually and then they give up, but hey it works.

    I also make up another job that consumes all my time(my fake job is 2 hours away and I am stuck there as I am on a contract that lasts such long) so I am way too busy, and I have to see them in the club.

    The best one for me lately(this only works on good looking or confident guys) is when they ask me I just say "no", and they get confused and say something like "I thought you like me" and I say very matter of factly "well, I really don't wanna go out with you." They are confused b/c they usually get dates easily and are intrigued(their word usually). They keep coming back and buying more to change my mind about them, even though I tell them plain and simple they just aren't good enough for me.


    My best one is that I just got out of a six year relationship (dam it's been 6 years for 3 years now, lol!) and I am not dating ANYONE, as i am still pining over him. This helps too(on the rare occasion) when I slip up and accidently say "my husband", then Im like oh sorry I have to get used to not sayin that anymore. They will keep coming so that when I am ready to date they are the first one picked. These guys can last up to a year before they get tired of me and tell me to "get over him" lol.

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    I gave a lap dance for a guy one night, and during he asked if I'd like to continue things at his house later on, of course I refused the doofus. And like, the next night as I was walking down the street after leaving work (I had just bought hot dogs from a street-side vendor and was munching happily away) that guy happened to be driving by. I didn't really notice until he pulled over, got out of his car and came up to me! And he asked for a quickie in his car! What a psycho!

    At that point, I figured I didn't have to be nice.

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    Sure you can honey, but there's 72 people in the line in front of you. I'm a popular girl you know.

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    Answer them by saying
    “I would love to go out with you but can we do it next week? By then my Herpes sores will clear up.”

    Just kidding, it’s a bad joke, I couldn’t resist.


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    ^LOL! I'm gonna use that one just as a joke, of course, next time. The look on the custy's face will be absolutely priceless. I'm just crazy and random like that, though.



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    do you think guys give you more money if they think you have a kid?
    i've talked to a lot of guys that are like "oh but selena over there is supporting her son" whereas i'm just supporting my handbag habit. idk.

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    "oh as soon as I leave work I turn into a normal girl, in fact I'm actually a 400lb woman with a mustache. My name is flora and I have 13 cats"

    ahahaha you are my hero


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