This isn't really customer convers but I couldn't think of where else to post it.I'm tired of all the does she like me style threads so I thought I'd try turn it around a little.Do you ever talk to your b/f's about work and if not why?

This isn't really customer convers but I couldn't think of where else to post it.I'm tired of all the does she like me style threads so I thought I'd try turn it around a little.Do you ever talk to your b/f's about work and if not why?
Oh hell yes. I would explode if I didn't get to vent the bad nights, celebrate the good ones, and laugh at the silly ones. K hears all of it and joins me in the appropriate response. I think he likes the funny stories and I'm happy that I don't have to censor the details like a lot of girls do.
I try to but he brushes me off. I'm ready for a new BF dammit lol.

There's porbably no demnad for it but I wish there was a place on here for b/f's to talk to other dancers.Maybe I'm strange but she won't talk to me about it and I wish she wouuld.Whenever I ask her about it and all she says is I don't want to talk about it,when I not there I don't want to think it.So coming here has helped our reationship a lot.It's helped me understand her better,the things she deals with at work,her attitude towards work and the guys at work. I'll admit her job used to be a source of tension b/w us but since I've been ccming here it's the best it's ever been.And for whetever reason I come here the most when she's at work.


What about dancers moaning about their boyfriends or exes to customers? Subtle technique to create a sense of closeness and trust with the customer, or genuine venting of issues and stress buildup?





Sometimes I do. He only wants to hear about the funny things I get up to with the other girls (not sexual, just us being stupid) but I can tell he gets very uncomfortable if I talk about customers so I try not to.
There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.
Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

Triton, you have to understand that being a dancer entails many things. It is not a 9 to 5 job, and experiences vary from day to day. I don't know how long you have been her bf, but I have been married for almost ten years (I am 29 and in my prime) I started dancing 4 years ago because we both are artists and it was the best, smartest choice we could make. When I first begin thare were waaaay too many questions. It's best to let your woman decide what she wants to do, or else your relationship will never work. You obviously know what happens. She is paid to entertain men. Other men than you. Let it go. Otherwise, it won't work. Yes, now there are other men in her life. It is a fact. So many questions lead to frustration, you really don't need to know the details. Enjoy the money as it flows, be there for her, and it will work. Talking to much about it only creates drama, something we can all live without. I might add that being on here only keeps her from posting things that mean something to her, sometimes you need to get things out when no one is looking.





There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.
Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

I think you misuderstood,I'm not looking for and advice on her inparticular and I know she doesn't come to this forum.I'm very aware of what she does at work and I don't push anything.I agree I don't need nor want to know specific details.I know she doesn't like the job anymore and I know her attitude towards it.So I do try and be there for her.I want to her to feel comfortable and know if she wants to vent she can.I thought by asking other dancers about whether they talk to their b/f's or husbands or not I could figure out a way to do that....or I'd learn her not wanting to talk work is norm......that's it.If I thought she came here I wouldn't.....I wouldn't invade on that.Also I am very careful with what I read and what I post and I never go to blue.
I try to talk to the GF about it, but when I do, she starts taking certain experiences and assuming about my income and....it just gets NASTY sometime. Like, I wanna tell her about Phillis and her iron hard nipples of death, but NOOOOOO those are round-shaped fingernail scratches (only two) on my back and where DO I get all this money anyway?!
*Sigh* She wont even LOOK at me...yanno...during...
People are not ruled by their memories.
Not sure if this helps, but I don't talk to my boyfriend about work either, even though he talks to me about his work (equally as gory - he works with adolescent sex offenders). I don't want to 1) make him feel inferior or resentful because my salary is more than double his and his work is much harder and 2) I don't want to share experiences that I've had with other men with the man I do love, as superficial as they were.
I tell him the gross stories because they make him laugh (the dance I gave an old guy who was visibly incontinent, the perv who gave me a play-by-play of my entire dance a la the NHL, the guy who offered to show me pictures of his cock that he kept on his cellphone, etc.), but other than that, I keep it down.
Your girl might be protecting your feelings.





I do pretty much the same thing. I *have* to talk to my SO about all the crazy things that go on at work or I would pull my hair out. If I couldn't talk to him I don't think I could be with him. My last SO didn't want to hear about anything that went on at work and I felt really alienated from him when I came home every night.

I know she thinks she's prtecting my feelings.I guess like anything else it's an individual thing..... some do,some don't,some don't but wish they could.We did meet at work I don't know if that has anything to do with her reluctance to talk about it or not.I do know a couple of the guys she dated before me and they to put in mildly did treat her well.Maybe that has something to do with it.
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