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    When some of your friends don't know u dance how to you get out of events that they invite you to or leave early?

    I working tonight and sat night (both about 10 hours) and i have to go to 2 BBQ's on saturday even tho i wont have had any sleep and will have to work all night after it. Im also going to have to come up with some reason as to why I have to leave early.

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    Default Re: the problem when your friends don't know u dance

    what DO they think you do? everyone knows i dance, but when my family didnt, i said bartending. that gave me the same hours.

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    ^^^Yep. Same here. I am a "bartender" to my super-conservative or blabbler-mouthed friends. (My close friends know, though)
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

    "Her apartment is littered with soggy G-strings and cheap 8-inch heeled shoes, along with empty tubes of body glitter, mascara, prescription drugs, zit cream, Aqua Net and Polaroid pictures of her and her "friends" engaged in some drinking and dancing on St. Patrick's Day last year. " My God....

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    Default Re: the problem when your friends don't know u dance

    If you have two BBQ's to go to just make up another event that you have to attend so you can leave early.

    All my friends know I dance but before my family did I told them that I waitresed at night. That or bartending can be great allabys.

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    Yeh the old bartending. But they think I should just go to these events even tho ill be tired. I have told a few close friends but not many after the reaction of one friend was very negative.
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    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    Default Re: the problem when your friends don't know u dance

    Um. I'd hate to say it yet I will (that's just me) lol.

    Friends will accept you no matter what their personal stance is on this industry.

    Otherwise they are just people you know and hang out with every so often.

    If a FRIEND cannot accept what you do for a living and you have to lie to THEM .. someone you have CHOSEN to have a relationship with (unlike family if you get me?)... then I would seriously question whether it was worth persuing the friendship still with that person.

    So they don't like it or can't support you in your chosen business (as it is a business not just a job)... a true friend will put that aside and realise that you are your own person.. and love + support you regardless.

    This is where people say "I can count my true friends on one hand" as everyone else is just someone you know and/or hang out with and/or share similiar interests etc with... not really a friend.

    As for your situation, just say you can't attend due to work committments. That should be enough. True friends will just say (I know I do) "Okay. I was looking forward to having you there yet I can understand. Have a good night at work. See you next time I see you!"

    Once again, if they must know what you do and you find yourself lying to them.. they aren't friends... they are just people you know and therefore you don't owe them anything really that much.


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    Default Re: the problem when your friends don't know u dance

    Are these family friends that you feel obligated to or are they friends you have chosen?

    Either way, I think they are being unreasonable. You should be able to say that you can't come and they should be ok with that. Don't sacrifice your needs just to please others. Is it really worth your own sleep (health) and money (you will probably make less tired)?

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    Default Re: the problem when your friends don't know u dance

    oy. i have this problem as well. good advice girls!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenna78 View Post
    Are these family friends that you feel obligated to or are they friends you have chosen?

    Either way, I think they are being unreasonable. You should be able to say that you can't come and they should be ok with that. Don't sacrifice your needs just to please others. Is it really worth your own sleep (health) and money (you will probably make less tired)?
    One is my cousin. I did tell her about work but her partner doesn't know coz I swore her to secrecy because he is a big mouth and I dont want it getting around the family. The other is a good friend from high school.

    I just limit who I tell because I think it's my business.

    But very true what u said GCG.
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    when regulars turn cheap, it's time to kill em off.
    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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