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    OMG!! Ever since i've gone 'public' with me wanting my BA and Rhinoplasty i've been getting people going on and on like crazy about how im 'stupid to get my boobs done'. Or 'you don't need them done they're perfect!'. Its not like they say it just once... they go on and on about it and wont leave me alone!!! I just want to scream 'SHUT THE FUCK UP ITS MY BODY I WANT IT DONE!!" ARRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGG!!!

    Yes I realize I already have fairly large boobs. No I am not going huge, im going up one size just to fill out what I already have. I want a small lift and a fill. Thats it. Hell im getting such a small implant you wont even be able to tell ffs!!!

    Why do people insist on telling you what to do with your body? Why can't they shut the fuck up and leave you alone?!

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    I think they are just being nice but yeah I get ya. Last night I did a dance for a custie who doesnt even know I am getting my boobs done and he lectured me about never changing my boobs etc etc. It was really annoying and I didn't even bring up the issue of surgery. It just must be coz I have small tits.

    But I am getting rhino and BA so I fully suppport you and think it's cool.
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    Ugh isn't it annoying?!

    Its like 'seriously this is my body im doing it for ME!'.

    Im doing it because im very self conscious about my boobs since i've lost all my weight and gained so much upper body muscle. My boobs just look weird now.

    My nose? Well i've wanted that done since I was a kid.

    Yea the added bonus is i'll get more feature work and get a huge raise with the agencies. So i'll be making a hell of a lot more money.

    Why do people think its their business? I mean I can see saying it once... but to go on and on and on lecturing me? Fuck that.

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    *I've wanted my nose done since I was 14!! I hate it when I mention it and people stare at my nose, that makes me very self conscious. Then they go on and on. I know what u mean.

    Plus our bodies are our business, models and actresses modify their bodies to make more money, why is it any different when dancers want to do it. It makes perfect business sense to me. If you will get more work featuring then it seems like a sensible decision.

    I used to feel confident about my breasts a t work but ever since I decided to get them done, I feel that they are very inadequate.

    Yes it's very, very annoying being lectured on our decisions and our bodies.
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    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    I understand how it's annoying. Before I got my boobs done I had many guys lecture me that I shouldn't get them done etc. Now most of them who lectured me love my new boobs.

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    I think I understand. I've never had any PS but I'm very sensitive about other people having opinions about my body in other areas. You go girl!

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    I liked the informative non-judgmental emial/pm's I got but everything else I could do without. I'm sorry you're getting all these messages that are so hurtful. Don't people realize they aren't helping they are hurting instead? I got a bunch of hate mail on my boobie blog so I just don't have access to it anymore because people still (its been over a year since my BA) send me 'you look like a freak', 'they are ugly balloons' and other bad hate mail. People have to give it a fucking rest. I'm much more confident with them and thats all that matters.
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    I can imagine its a bit like what happens when I say my tummy needs a bit more toning, or my back, and they say " Oh dont be silly you dont need to do that`

    I feel like screaming 1) You havnt seen me naked so how would you know? and 2) Isnt MY opinion on MY body more important than yours? Stop arguing with me over MY body.

    This happened to me this week so Im ranting.
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    I totally agree, I hate it when people put their 2 cents in. It's your body do what you like with it.

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    I told a lot of my regulars about my boobs in advance. Like 99% of them were against it, maybe one said that they might look good if well done. Now afterwards everyone's pleased. Fucking wankers.

    Then again some people are just like that. I just casually mentioned that I'm wanting bangs and some pink stripes to my hair to a custy - he was all "you definitely shouldn't." People are just afraid of others changing because they're unable to do the changes they want in their lives. Fuck them, they're just jealous you're living your life in a way they'd never dream of living theirs.
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    what an annoyance. Customers at work do this to me all the time. I don't even WANT a boob job! but at least one of two times a night a custie will say to me, don't ever get your boobs done. Um....do you seriously think that if I wanted them done that your stupid opinion would even matter to me?
    Maybe this is a topic for another thread, but I was talking to a customer from canada and he told me that pretty much ALL canadian dancers have boob jobs but regular ladies in canada don't. Is this true?

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    Yeah I got a lot of this beforehand too. Fuckers...as is their opinion means ANYTHING!! Oh..I wanted boobs before but a random stranger told me not to..so I guess I wont now...yeah.ok.

    Now..all I hear is how great my boobs are! So to them!!

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    I hear this allllll the time, even though I have no plans to have them done AND I already have perky DD's. Just do what makes you happy and what you know will make you money. I just went blonde and a couple customers were mean about it, telling me I looked ugly and should change it back, but hey, my earnings increased! THAT is what matters, not some dumb girl or guy's opinion.

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    Oh yes, it's annoying as fucking hell.

    I remember getting a lot of rude comments bc I said I wanted a BA back then. I should've kept quiet, it was no one's business anyway.

    And you know the same ppl who have preached, are the ones that compliment you after. *sigh*

    I hate ppl. LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfire View Post
    what an annoyance. Customers at work do this to me all the time. I don't even WANT a boob job! but at least one of two times a night a custie will say to me, don't ever get your boobs done. Um....do you seriously think that if I wanted them done that your stupid opinion would even matter to me?
    Maybe this is a topic for another thread, but I was talking to a customer from canada and he told me that pretty much ALL canadian dancers have boob jobs but regular ladies in canada don't. Is this true?
    I have a few friends w/ boob jobs ("regular women" not strippers) but I can't say that I know a lot of girls with implants. Even those in the club scene, I don't notice as much PS as one would expect.

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    As a clueless guy, I'd like to ask, what IS the proper response to discussion about tit enlargement?

    I would have thought that women whose jobs had a significant portion of involvement of male visual approval of your bodies would therefore wish to consider male visual approval as a portion of the criteria in choosing certain visual aspects of your bodies.

    But what do I know?

    I had no idea I could be offensive simply by expressing my approval of a woman's body. What I'm learning from this thread is, "Omigosh, you are so beautiful" can be profoundly annoying to women. Hmm ...

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    "Omigosh, you are so beautiful" is much better than "Omigosh your ass is too big or you need more tits". The best answer is nod, smile and hand over cash lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by book guy View Post
    As a clueless guy, I'd like to ask, what IS the proper response to discussion about tit enlargement?

    I would have thought that women whose jobs had a significant portion of involvement of male visual approval of your bodies would therefore wish to consider male visual approval as a portion of the criteria in choosing certain visual aspects of your bodies.

    But what do I know?

    I had no idea I could be offensive simply by expressing my approval of a woman's body. What I'm learning from this thread is, "Omigosh, you are so beautiful" can be profoundly annoying to women. Hmm ...
    Um...even though our income has to do with male visual perspectives of our bodies, they are still our bodies to do with what we like. We are not going to be strippers forever, but we will be in our bodies til we die.
    I think the op was referring to people offering their opinions when it's not asked for- like, she says she's getting them done and people freak out and offer their opinions. If someone tells you they're getting their boobs done, just say, when? or good luck? or, did you decide how many cc's?
    Unless someone specifically asks you offering your opinion on this kind of subject is just not appropriate.

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    I just want you to be happy Cally. So I support whatever you do

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    I guess I didn't understand that the opinion (positive or negative) on her plans for a boob job wasn't asked for. Way I see it, if a stripper is sitting in my lap getting me worked up before a private dance, and she mentions her boobs, I'm gonna probably think about her boobs and maybe offer an opinion on her boobs. I mean, I'm a male, right? I can't imagine that situation, and her mentioning something, and me just going, "unh hunh wuddever." Her mentioning it is, as in most conversations, an opening for me to converse about it.

    Seems to me that "I'm going to be getting a boob job" is just a dancer's equivalent for the civilian "Does this dress make me look fat, honey?" It means, "reassure me and agree with me," it doesn't mean, "what's your honest opinion." And, by the way, if you're thinking long-term about your body then a boob-job is really the LAST thing in the world I'd recommend you should get. Imagine granny with the spheroid knockers ... ...

    Well, I'm glad to have learned this little quirk. Next time a dancer, whose non-enhanced tits turn me on, is talking to me about boob jobs I will know not to disagree with her choice about a boob job, either way. But I sure as heck wouldn't have been able to guess that I should have remained silent just on my own. Lucky for me, I read this thread. Maybe you guys should cut your customers a little slack for the fact that we can't read your minds ...

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    ^^
    dude we dont care less what the customers think about us getting boob jobs. we have already made up our mind. the only reason i have mentioned it is to my regulars because there will be a period of time while I am away recovering from the surgery. I dont just tell any random custie who I dance for.

    no it's not the stripper equivalent to "is my ass fat in this?" coz Im not looking for approval or reassurance.
    strippers are hot and we know it, u dont need to tell us but it's still nice to hear
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    Yup, and once you've had your procedures done, you will hear more of that type of crap. "Are your boobs real?" blah blah blah, although you probably get asked that now. It's so annoying, people think that their opinions matter. Nunya!

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
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    dude we dont care less what the customers think about us getting boob jobs.
    If you genuinely didn't care what other people thought of your choices, this thread wouldn't exist, because their expression of opinions that differ with yours wouldn't cause concern. I suggest that what some of you wish to say, is not so much along the lines of, "I don't care what other people think," as much as, "I wish others would approve of, or agree with, my choices; or if they happen to have some opinion different from my own, I wish they would read my mind and realize that I might bring up my opinion without them asking me about it, but I nevertheless don't want to hear theirs." Leastways, that's how it sounds to me. Glad I read this thread, now I know the code.

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    my advice is to just stop telling people. People have a natural tendency to try to compliment others and they think they are doing you some kind of favor telling you you look fine the way you are. The gesture is sweet, so I didn't mind, but it's annoying to try to justify your choices. As if I'm going to suddenly think, "gosh, some random guy in a strip club is convinced I don't need it. I guess I should have consulted him first. I change my mind."

    I am convinced that plastic surgery was invented for rich housewives and strippers. So you're entitled.

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    Quote Originally Posted by likewow View Post

    I think guys are so used to having to validate insecure civilian women that they're not going to understand or believe it when a stripper says, "I'm getting a boob job for ME!"
    LMAO I call them civilian women too.
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    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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