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    This is the first time I've EVER had to deal with rude dancers this much (I've danced at 5 diff. clubs over the course of 3 and a half years). At my current club, it is totally normal for other dancers to come over and start talking to the guy you are talking with. this is just plain rude and at most clubs this wouldn't fly, but at my club it totally does. I think I would be in trouble for making a stink about it. So what do I do? Do I start doing it to the other girls too? (this is rhetorical, I dont think I could).
    Seriously I am at the end of my rope with the fucking cunts I work with, but this club suits my purposes for right now....

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    Default Re: no dancer ettiquette at my club-help!

    If everyone does it I don't know if there's anything that you can do, especially if you don't think you could do it back to them. You could try ignoring them, if the start talking to your custie just continue to engage him on convo. "As you were saying.."

    If your management is cool you could try talking to them, maybe they're not aware of the problem. If the club is where you need to be for the time being you may just have to suck it up and deal with it.

    Good luck.

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    Default Re: no dancer ettiquette at my club-help!

    see, its so weird to me that this bugs you! that seems so normal to me because thats how it is there. i'm interested to see the responses to this thread.

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    It's NORMAL for another girl to just walk up and try to hustle the custie you are already talking to???? I've never worked anywhere that was normal..in fact thats grounds to kick some ass in most clubs.

    I'd just look them strtaight in the eye, interrupt them, and say "sorry honey..we were in the middle of a conversation..maybe you should stop by later" and then turn right back to him.

    I wouldnt put up with that...thats insanely rude

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    maybe I just need this thread to vent. Yes, it is SO rude! I'm glad other girls on here feel this way too. Most clubs you would get your ass kicked or at the very least chewed out in the dressing room but here it is business as usual. some of the other girls I know there that have worked at other clubs have complained about this too.
    I'm afraid to even say anything to the girls that sit down because it is considered normal there.
    In the past I have turned to the custy and quickly suggested a lap dance/ room with me and we have left the "intruder" just sitting there. But...this won't always work if I'm not ready to close the sale yet.

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    Default Re: no dancer ettiquette at my club-help!

    That is so rude and I've never worked somewhere that is considered "normal" and I've worked a decent amount of places. The few times it has happened to me, I've done what CK suggested. "Sorry honey, we are so deep in conversation right now, maybe you can come back later?" And then I would tell her later how rude and impolite that behavior is and that other dancers probably won't be as nice in the future. But if that is the norm at your club, I'd try looking for somewhere else to work.

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    Default Re: no dancer ettiquette at my club-help!

    when i said normal, i meant that it is very common there to see a group of girls sitting with one guy. the club has a LOT of regulars. so girls all go over.

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    ^^ if its a club reg tahts one thing...but to just wander up to who another dancer is talking to..NO.

    Norm or not...let it be knows that YOU dont allow that.

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    Thats SO Rude - I have a regular who comes in and he has his fvorites. Sometimes it's me and one day it may be somebody else. There is NO WAY I would go over and just plop down.

    Thats so disrepectful.

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    Default Re: no dancer ettiquette at my club-help!

    I'm not talking about just regs when everyone knows they buy drinks for everyone, or will get dances from a lot of girls. That's fine.
    I'm talking about girls just plopping down when you're talking with a random customer and trying to hustle him. I was talking to a few other girls the other days that this happens to a lot too, and we're all just like wtf?

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    Default Re: no dancer ettiquette at my club-help!

    Yep, if it's a club reg, I don't see a problem with it.... but if it's a custy you are talking to and a girl butts in.....well the fur would be flying!

    I suggest that you do what some of the other posters have said, don't take it. If a girl butts in with you and a custy make sure hse knows she's butting in and continue with your conversation. It might be the norm there, but that doesn't mean you have to let it happen to you. And yah, you might be tagged as snotty for a bit, but you'll have your customers and your money so who cares!




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    Default Re: no dancer ettiquette at my club-help!

    i know no one will agree with me but i really dont think being rude to the girls in front of a customer is ok. say something later if you want, but never in front of a customer. you never know, he might not like that and you could lose a sale. and i will say from experience that your life at work will be made hell if you piss off the wrong person.

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    Default Re: no dancer ettiquette at my club-help!

    Try this:
    When you are interrupted while with a customer, say "Oh, (dancer's name) I almost forgot. That guy (point to random dude) asked me to get you. He said he wants dances."

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    i know no one will agree with me but i really dont think being rude to the girls in front of a customer is ok. say something later if you want, but never in front of a customer. you never know, he might not like that and you could lose a sale. and i will say from experience that your life at work will be made hell if you piss off the wrong person.
    the girl who plopped down is the one being rude. Saying that you are in the middle of a conversation and asking her to come back later isnt rude.
    Not to mention that the guy may not know what to do with that situation...who does he talk to now? Who does he buy dances with? Will there be a fight if he picks wrong? And may prompt him to just not do anything with anyone.

    I'd talk to management too. Esp if more thatn one of you has a problem with this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    the girl who plopped down is the one being rude. Saying that you are in the middle of a conversation and asking her to come back later isnt rude.
    Not to mention that the guy may not know what to do with that situation...who does he talk to now? Who does he buy dances with? Will there be a fight if he picks wrong? And may prompt him to just not do anything with anyone.

    I'd talk to management too. Esp if more thatn one of you has a problem with this.
    well, i said no one will agree. i mean, she can do what she wants and i know that my opinion won't change that, i'm just saying what i think about it. but i worked here and this is the club that fucked me over hard many times. remember my new car getting hit, right under a camera? and they refused to check the cameras and said i did it myself? yeah, that's here. they've screwed girls many times, including one of my friends who has worked there for years when she stood up for me about my car and then my dui situation(why they would send me out the door after they let me blow, especially since almost exactly a year earlier a girl left there drunk and died). when i posted my thread about my car, i found a quote from bridgette about the club saying she saw a manager literally going batshit crazy on a girl who was perfectly calm in response. i honestly dont see the managers doing anything about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    well, i said no one will agree. i mean, she can do what she wants and i know that my opinion won't change that, i'm just saying what i think about it. but i worked here and this is the club that fucked me over hard many times. remember my new car getting hit, right under a camera? and they refused to check the cameras and said i did it myself? yeah, that's here. they've screwed girls many times, including one of my friends who has worked there for years when she stood up for me about my car and then my dui situation(why they would send me out the door after they let me blow, especially since almost exactly a year earlier a girl left there drunk and died). when i posted my thread about my car, i found a quote from bridgette about the club saying she saw a manager literally going batshit crazy on a girl who was perfectly calm in response. i honestly dont see the managers doing anything about it.
    This club sounds like hell. Why does anyone still work there????

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    This club sounds like hell. Why does anyone still work there????
    well, some girls lay low and have no problems. standing up for yourself will get you shit on. i refused to take crap and it got me in many messes. other girls sleep with the managers or majorly kiss ass to have things magically work out for them. and it *is* the nicest in baltimore, and the club in baltimore where i made the most money. it just is run by people who will turn on you in a second.

    sorry for the threadjack! i just dont think going to mangement can do any good in this case. but i am pretty biased against the club (i'm not the only one theyve done that crap to though!)

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    I am kind of in that same situation. My current club offers the greatest money potential but management has fucked with me in the past. There's alot of things I would love to change that I can't do nothing about.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    This club sounds like hell. Why does anyone still work there????

    Every club has different bitch ass dancers and irritating management to deal with. This club suits my purposes for right now ie- make your own schedule, day and night hours, earnings potential etc. In this area there's not all that many good options.
    I mostly just try to fly under the radar which is why I don't want to complain to management or make a stink with the other girls.
    Maybe I will just start being as bitchy as them, and assuming I've built up a suitable rapport with the custy I'm sitting with, if I get interrupted, just lean over to the customer and whisper in his ear something like "I was having such a great time talking to you til we were interrupted....maybe we should go someplace more private."
    A few other girls have told me about other dancers coming up and literally whispering in the customers ear that they are sitting with.

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    you need to fight fire with fire at that club. It feels pretty hard core there, the same thing happened to me at a club I worked at in another city. So I just started doing w/e the hell I wanted too. This club, this thing happens all the damn time, it's annoying but you gotta do what you gotta do to keep your customer! At some clubs I've worked at, if you did this you'd get your ass beat, but this club it's the norm. And management will not help you. I wouldn't even bother.

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    Default Re: no dancer ettiquette at my club-help!

    this happens there? that's weird, i really don't think i've ever seen it happening like that.
    i've had girls that go up to a guy i was sitting with once i go up on stage; or if the guy specifically invites another girl over; OR if there's more than one guy.

    i've never just gone and walked right up to a guy whos already sitting with a girl.
    yes that's rude. (why do i feel like i haven't had this happen to me here? i prob just jinxed myself!!)

    anyway, either fight fire with fire, do it to her back later (not that two wrongs make a right) or just let it go. see who the guy likes, or move on.

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    Default Re: no dancer ettiquette at my club-help!

    We have some girls who do this, usually it's that they don't respect the other dancers enough or they just really have such a delusional picture of themselves that they genuinely believe they're the hottest stuff at the club and if they settle for whoever's with the customer at the moment then the customers will surely buy dances from her, too.

    It's fine if you're with a customer who's known to spend money on everyone, but most custies do have a limited budget. Let's face it, most of the customers will not turn another girl down, they love the idea of themselves with two girls. However they don't take into account that two girls should equal twice as much money spent. So most times if another girl joins you you're only getting half of what you deserve.

    I work in a club where the management encourages sharing customers. "There's no such thing a YOUR customer" they often say. That said, most of our dancers understand that it's a totally different ballgame if a customer invites them to sit down than if they were to just seat their ass in the table without being asked, or even asking if they can join the table themselves. Even if the management won't ever take your side if you complain about another girl barging into the table the other girls, thank God, keep some discipline. So if you get a rep as a customer thief of course, when a custy asks for another girl to the table the thieves aren't invited. You get left out eventually so it's best to play fair.

    That said, if everyone did it I suppose it would be different. I work at another club where if a customer shows clear interest in you it's oftentimes OK to go to the customer whether he has a girl there already or not. In that case when you go to the table you ask the GIRL, not the customer, if it's OK to join. We have a code there, if the girl says something like "you may join" it means it's probably better if you don't, but if they say "sure, come on in!" then you can sit your ass down and hustle. I've found it a pretty smart thing to do seeing as they have a lot of big spending customers and in those cases sharing is never bad. The next time I have a big spending customer I invite them in.

    If everybody's doing it and nobody minds then there's not much else you can do about it than go with the flow however. Have you notice are they doing it to everyone or is it just you? Sometimes I've noticed that when a new dancer starts at a club the others pick on her by similar tricks. In that case you've just got to stand up for yourself. Say "no honey, that seat is taken" and once the girl leaves ask the customer if he'd like another girl to join you. Let him pick the girl and explain to him that you've only got his best interest at heart and you don't want to see him spend money on two girls out of obligation but rather only if he really wants to.
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    Default Re: no dancer ettiquette at my club-help!

    Where I am, a few girls will try that with me, and it pisses me off. Most of the girls know not to do that shit, but these few girls don't seem to get it. I think it's incredibly rude. I don't say anything about it, cause the customer generally brushes them off very quickly and returns his attention to me

    Sorry that's happening to you. I so could not handle working somewhere where every girl did that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nicole84 View Post

    Sorry that's happening to you. I so could not handle working somewhere where every girl did that.

    Not every girl does that, at least not during the night shift. I'd like to add! I don't do it to people. I started at a club where it's not accepted. But different clubs, different rules. You just need to fight them off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hearts View Post
    Try this:
    When you are interrupted while with a customer, say "Oh, (dancer's name) I almost forgot. That guy (point to random dude) asked me to get you. He said he wants dances."
    I like this line!

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