Here's my genuine male friend...
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Here's my genuine male friend...
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he looks a bit like he is peeing on your laptop, that friend of yours!




Is he peeing? LOL. Darn males.
I didn't read all of it. It is possible to write that much and still have it be interesting and to the point but you didn't quite make it.
I have to agree with Harry from When Harry Met Sally. I have had few guy friends and I find it impossible to not wonder what it would be like to have a more-than-friends relationship with them, sexual or not, and god only knows what they were thinking.
That said, it's not impossible to have an occasional fuck and still be good friends.

I find that hard to believe. Speaking as a male, I think I know all males (erm ...) want to fuck all hot females at all times. If they're resisting, it's because (a) you aren't hot or (b) there are some SERIOUSLY mitigating circumstances.
I like the replies in this thread. I had expected a typical bash-fest in which the women talked about how shallow the male losers in their lives were because the "only" thing those males wanted was sex and the "only" reason the males were being nice was to get into the girls' panties. But it didn't turn out that way at all (thank goodness!) and I'm learning a little bit about the female view of things.
I also especially appreciated the "another save-a-ho syndrome" and "typical nice guy TM syndrome" comments.I used to perform those male behaviors, too. Then I wised up. Doormat has never been appealing to any person, and a guy doing doormat-act-in-hopes-of-getting-laid is really creepy to women.





Ummm, no. My best friend (who is a male) doesn't want to sleep with me. It's not because I'm not attractive, it's because it would mess up our friendship. We've been friends for more than a decade, and he has had more than enough chances to have sex with me, but he doesn't.





"Look, a bunny..."
That's classic.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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Thanks for the feedback. I wasn't expecting to get torn an new one, but I guess...ehh, whateves!
As for why I posed this thread here, I didn't give it a lot of thought at the time. I'd followed a link, realized I had an old account, and decided to keep typing.
As for the woman in question's (CGIQ's) sanity; lets just say she physically assaulted a fellow human being over some fairly minor shit.
Otherwise, have fun.
Adam

Having said that, what is OP supposed to stand for?
In real estate, it stands for Owner Pays. That doesn't make sense in this context.
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I have one male platonic male friend. He is asexual.

Of course not. I was making a funny -- hence the funny face, this "."
Agreed. Why DO we men feel like that? Partly, for me, in my own history, it's been because I was led on to believing it. Deliberately by younger women. Who deliberately wanted me to believe it because it gave them an ego-rush to think they could control me. And it was done by means of their sexual wiles. They acted luvvy-duvvy (cuddling, cooing, showing body parts, rubbing up against me) IN ORDER that I feel like she's interested, IN ORDER that I therefore expect her to like me and IN ORDER that I go out of my way to continue to please her. This happened to me regularly until I figured out that the classic "leading on the nice but doormat guy" syndrome was the story of my life.
This might be happening in the case of the original poster. But I really don't think so, if you read the remainder of his post. If you get down to brass tacks, it seems more that he's built up a fantasy without valid evidence for it, rather than that the girl has built up that fantasy in his mind deliberately by providing false misleading evidence for it. But it can go either way, depending on what REALLY happened, which we here on the boards won't ever know because we'll only ever get it from HIS point of view.
But be careful, ladies. If you're talking about men who chase you around too much and expect you to reciprocate their interest too much, be careful you haven't deliberately given those men the impression that you want them to chase you, and that they have every reason to believe that you already DO reciprocate their interest.
Perhaps the problem is that he met her in a strip club. Her behavior there is, of course, SUPPOSED to make him feel like she wants him. Then, maybe, he makes the (rather typical male) mistake of letting those feelings transfer from inside the club to his life outside the club. Where he therefore ends up with unreasonable expectations. Maybe the problem, therefore, is simply the one of transferral from within, to without the club.
He's an idiot. There's GOT to be something else going on there. I've seen those pics on your Myspace page -- you're a girl whom any heterosexual man would instantly want to fuck, judging by looks alone, unless your character is so amazingly obtuse that you actually run people away, which I would find hard to believe given your intelligence and wit when posting in this forum.
Look a bunny ...
Wait, where was I? Anyway, maybe you're young enough that the man in question for your life is still in that "I shouldn't admit that I want sex with women, because then they'll think I'm too horny and I don't want them to think I only want them for the sex" college-aged crap. Most men do grow out of that double-triple-reversal-think stuff (though many women never do). Or maybe he is getting laid by a couple of other extremely hot women? If I had two, maybe three "fuck buddies" who were consistently getting my rocks off sufficiently, I perhaps might be willing to consider someone who is as hot as you, to be better for me as a friend than as a third "fuck buddy." Maybe. Nearly all men don't work that way, and nearly all men don't have two extremely hot fuck buddies in the first place, so I suggest that this possibility would be extremely, extremely rare. Does he get laid all the time by hotties? Probably not. If he did, you'd probably by comparison also find him attractive enough that you'd figure out how to work through his resistance.
Oh to be him. You can work on my resistance any time baby. Oh, another bunny ...
Once again, that post was much too long, with paragraphs too dense. ^^





He's known me since I had braces, glasses, dark hair and no tan, following him around the skating rink wanting to couple's skate. I was that girl that thought he did no wrong, and he was hotter than the sun. He would sleep with tons of girls, but never with me. A couple years ago he told me that he knew if he slept with me while we were in high school we would probably hate each other, and he was probably right.
I'm happy with that, and he is too. Why fuck with something that is perfect?





Maybe I'm weird, but I have known a lot of hot women, and it doesn't automatically follow that I want to have sex with them just because they are physically hot.
Working in the clubs does make this easier, though.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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These guys are lucky, the ones who report having such ready access to sex with hot women that they can feel comfortable turning down a few. I don't deny that this phenomenon exists. Maybe it's even more common in the stripping industry than in other locales. Don't forget JUST HOW MANY males will NEVER fuck a woman whom they deem as "hot enough" EVER IN THEIR LIVES. (In fact, if it were the case that most males were quite comfortable with their own sexual opportunity, the stripping industry might not exist in the first place.)
I suggest, as well, that even such "lucky" guys who initially turn you down can easily be turned into fuck-buddies. They're males, after all.





This post had very little to do with strippers and absolutely nothing to do with the thread title. CGIQ certainly didn't treat him like a GENUINE friend and he never said they were genuine friends.
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Originally Posted by Mia M
That's a weird, sad shame. Why wouldn't an average man find a wonderful girl who is "hot enough"? I see it all the time. Not every man has been so de-sensitized by porn and the sex industry that they cannot appreciate intimacy with normal women.
Perhaps Naomi Wolfe was right?![]()
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M

Well, I don't think it's due to desensitization from porn and the sex industry (though maybe that's the case for some men). Then why are most men (in my opinion) settling for less than adequate sexual partners? I think it's (a) obesity and arrogance on the part of the typical female of the developed west, and (b) the fact that all humans get older but males are pre-programmed to prefer younger women.
Maybe I hang out with a weird bunch, but I just don't know anyone who wouldn't upgrade if he could, or if he could figure out how to, or if he had the resources to. The women they're with have let themselves go to seed FAST -- 22 years old but 60 pounds overweight, for example -- and yet have SUCH an attitude about sex. "If he's getting ANY at all, he should THANK me and do chores in exchange for it!" rather than "We naturally as humans want to fuck three, four, six times a week and I as a female want it just as much as a male would," which is what biology would say. We hear that rather seldom here in North America. Maybe things are better in Europe?
Oh look, another bunny ...





Yup. I have one genuine GAY MALE friend.





There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.
Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.
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