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    Default I'm scared of phonecalls

    This is starting to have a very negative impact on my life.

    I am too scared to make phonecalls that I need to make -- like for appointments etc.

    I have had on my to-do list for weeks to call a few people that i need to call and I'm still avoiding doing it.

    I always ask my mum or bf to make phonecalls for me and they get annoyed about it because they don't understand why I can't.

    It just aroses so much anxiety, the mere thought of calling people that I dont know.

    it doesn't apply to calling friends.

    I'm also afraid to answer my phone even sometimes when i know the person.

    This probably sounds ridiculous.

    Any ideas on why I am this way and also what can I do to fix it?
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    I'm the same way except with some friends, I'm OK calling. But everyone else, forget it. I have gotten many phone numbers from cool gals on here but never call them because the phone gives me anxiety.

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    wow... i'm not the only one??? I can MAke calls... but as to getting them??? My phone is on Off. All the time. Bad stuff... major avoidance problems.

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    I do this too! I will wait til the last possible minute to take care of something if i have to make a phone call. When I do I get a panic attack. I didn't used to be like that , it has just been the last few years. Hope someone has some good input for this thread.

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    Oh my gosh. I am so bad about this. I despise talking on the phone, and I get nervous even if it's to/from someone I know well. Forget it if it's somebody I don't know. At work whenever possible I always made someone else answer.

    I usually pray that I'll get an answering machine so that I won't have to actually talk to someone.

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    Well it seems this is a common thing then!

    My best friend also said she has it. She had to enrol her daughter in kindergarten and she wanted to enrol her in the morning classes. She waited ALL YEAR to make the call and now her daughter has to do the afternoon classes coz the morning were all taken. She was annoyed at herself for avoiding doing it.

    I have even spoken to my therapist about this and all he says is to just force myself to make the calls. But I just feel that I can't.
    It's really fucking things up for me. I missed the surgery date that I wanted because I didnt make a simple call and I never get anything done because of it.
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    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iambonbon05 View Post

    I usually pray that I'll get an answering machine so that I won't have to actually talk to someone.
    yep me too
    Quote Originally Posted by Corgan View Post
    when regulars turn cheap, it's time to kill em off.
    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    I have a similar problem too. I have to force myself to answer the phone even when it's friends or family calling (not K though, I'm fine answering for him) and I never want to call anyone. Then I get depressed because I never hear from anyone and I feel like no one loves me. It's lame.

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    I'm exactly the same. I don't even like calling friends sometimes, because I worry that they won't want to talk to me. I've been needing to make a phone call about applying for university next year for weeks and I just keep putting it off... been thinking about asking my mom to do it for me.

    Strange that so many people have this phone phobia....

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    See? I get anxiety about calling even close friends.

    I can make appointments and the like... but I cant call someone for no reason. I have to reassur myself that I'm "calling to confirm tomorrows plans" or "calling to find out when that CD he borrowed will be returned."

    Even with people i've known for YEARS, and family members. Even when I call my boyfriend, I STILL kick into a panic attack that I'll be disturbing him and that he doesn't want to hear me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darcy Foxx View Post

    Strange that so many people have this phone phobia....
    I know!! I am comforted by the fact that Im not alone in this but it also gets me even more curious about the reasons behind it. Im fine with talking to people in person. Maybe it's coz we cant see people's faces etc all we have is a voice and people rely a lot on non-verbal behaviours when communicating with others.
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    when regulars turn cheap, it's time to kill em off.
    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    Wow I'm not alone!
    I HATE the phone. And so many people seem to take it personally that I don't call to check in all the time. So I feel bad. I also avoid responding to any type of financial authority until the very last minute. Same with paying bills.

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    Once I tried working for a call center that cold called people asking them to participate in surveys.

    I lasted ONE day before I had a public anxiety attack and had to quite. How embarrassing.

    I also tried working as a hostess for IHOP. I dreaded answering the phone, and would make other people do it.

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    I have having a similar problem. I am applying for jobs and if i call, i should speak in german, but it hard to understand because Bavarian German has a different accent than Hochdeutsch (high german). And i have to call so i can get a job, but i am too scared to call.
    Recently i had to call somewhere and i asked them if there spoke english and the person on the phone said no. So i said ok and just ended the call. gawd that was awkward.
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    I have to call my landlord about a fault in my bathroom but I dont want to as I dont like causing waves. This is the best landlord I have ever had and he is very fair, but all the awful landlord in my past have made me nervous about contacting him.

    Also Id rather txt my best freind than call her, still nervous about ringing if I dont really HAVE to. I think she is the same though, she hates phones too.
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    I have anxiety about the phone too!! I really thought I was the only one or something. I have trouble calling to order carryout, make appointments, it even makes me nervous to call work and call out. Basically unless it's someone I talk to in my daily life often I get nervous about calling.

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    I should also hadd Iv worked at 3 different jobs that used Telesales and earned the most commission at every job. I still also work on an adult chat line when I can be bothered to and that doesnt bother me.

    Its just MY phone in MY life that bothers me.
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    I hate calling ppl just to chat. If I have a purpose to the call, that's fine, but just to talk bothers me (unless it's my mom or husband). I dont even really call my best friends to just talk-it's always for a reason. That's one reason I dont always answer the phone-someone may be calling b/c they're bored and just want to talk and i can't do it! It's stupid, but true...
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    My dad once told me of a word he used to help with such things.

    Posatti.

    Just have a positive attitude and force yourself to not think about the side that worries you. Never say "I can't do it." or anything negative. Just buck up and get it done and soon all the fears will begin to alleviate themselves.
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    Here are some links for y'all

    http://wiki.hypertwins.org/index.php/Phone-phobia
    Phone-phobia (alternate keywords: phonephobia, telephobia), is a psychological condition in which an individual experiences extreme fear or avoidance of using the telephone. The fear may be more intense with regard to either making or receiving phone calls; in the latter case, it can intensify to the point where the phone-phobic is afraid even to listen to voice-mail (answering machine) messages.

    http://www.phobia-fear-release.com/phone-phobia.html
    http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/ate/mentalhealth/205561.html
    http://ask.metafilter.com/63633/How-...y-phoneophobia


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    My little sister had major phone phobia growing up, even through college. I am proud of her though. Her fear really was taling to adults. Now that she is an Adult (27) she has had to get over that fear.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jezzebelle View Post

    Its just MY phone in MY life that bothers me.

    LOL, I'm exactly the same. I hate it when people call me, I hate hearing it ring. It just stirs up paranoia. And I never call anyone either. I avoid confrontation at all costs

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    Default Re: I'm scared of phonecalls

    I have this, too. I (almost) always let it ring to voicemail, then won't check the voicemail or call people back. I can't call people for no reason becouse I don't know what to say to then or feel like I'll say something stupid.



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    Woot! for texting now! I still call people when needed but I'd rather text/email/PM/message instead.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk View Post
    Woot! for texting now! I still call people when needed but I'd rather text/email/PM/message instead.
    Oh hell yeah. Thank god I can email professors at school and don't actually have to CALL their office and speak with them on the phone. I'd be a total mess.



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