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What to do, what to do?
I'm in nursing school, the same 55 or so of us are in the same classroom all day long a few days a week. At 22, I'm one of the youngest people in there. Only 2 of the people in there are men, the rest are women (obviously). I dance about 45 minutes away because I like to keep my job a secret, I have my reasons. Well, for some reason, and I'm going to go ahead and assume that it's because I'm skinny and pretty and have an awesome sense of humor, tons of women in class are "haters", for lack of a more intelligent term.
One of the girls from my class, who I don't know well at all, came in to my club one night while I was working. Imagine my surprise.. I knew the cat was pretty much out of the bag at that point. This was probably almost 2 months ago. I hadn't gotten any crap for it from anybody, but I'm just not well liked in the class to begin with. A friend of mine in the class texted me and said she overheard some of them talking about me being a stripper today. I'm not sure exactly what was said, she will tell me the whole story later..
Basically, I'm not sure if I should say something to the people talking about me or just let it go? I'm not stupid, I know that saying something to them isn't going to keep them from talking about me, but I HATE just sitting there and acting like a big fat weiner when I know people are talking about me.
Opinions? Anybody else gone through something like this?
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Re: What to do, what to do?
I'll be in your boat soon. I say ignore them all. The teacher is the only one you need to worry about.
I had a male classmate in my club the other night. No big deal since I'm not in Nursing school yet. I'm moving the hell out of this state after college is over anyway.
Good luck trying to bite your tongue........if that's what you want to do:p
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Re: What to do, what to do?
Take teh high road. Don't mention it, treat them cool-ly but professionally.
if one of them mentions it to you, or to teh teachers, then by all means explain "it's my job, but has NOTHING to do with my work here in the classroom with you".
I don't have experiene with that field, so i can't say if its soemthing that could REALLY hurt you... I can only talk about the social aspect.
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Good luck with nursing school hyzenthflay!
Yeah, I think I'm just going to bite my tongue and be the better person in the situation. I'm just wondering if it could affect my future nursing career though? I hate it that stripping is such a perfect fit for my busy lifestyle, the money is great and I love the freedom but now I have to be paranoid that it might hurt my career. I just don't see why it's anybody else's business but mine and my husband's.
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I'm all for the high road, but if they mention it to you, what was SHE doing in the club? Auditioning? 'Slumming'? If it's good enough for her entertainment, it's good enough for you to work there, you know?
I've never heard of dancing affecting a nursing career, though I guess anything can happen. Seems like an awful lot of strippers are in nursing school though, possibly for real. As long as you aren't in the ER, cranking up the radio, yelling 'That's my song!', seems like you'd be fine if you keep it on the downlow.
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You're not "sitting there like a big fat weiner," you are graciously minding your own business and remaining above their petty gossip. The best thing you can do is ignore them, and if anyone says anything about it to you, don't get defensive. Just keep cool and classy and act like it's no big deal and no one's business, and don't get dragged into any debates about it. Stay aloof and above it all, classy and professional, and they'll forget about it when they realize they can't hurt you with it.
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ah, one of the only downfalls of being austin: small-world-syndrome. seems like the degrees of separation are much lower here for some reason. Happens to me all the time. My advice: keep your mouth shut!
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Heh, and if you do feel like saying something, just look them in the eyes, shrug, and say with all of the hard studying you do, being able to make the same amount of money in 10 hours as you could in 40 hours working closer is just more convenient for your nursing career.
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i went through this. my job working at hooters and then cocktailing at hustler was no secret when i was an early childhood education major, but it was my TEACHER who was the immature one. she said she overheard girls talking about it (uh, i know thats a lie because i was pretty damn open about it and it was never a big deal) and acted like she jumped to my defense.
i can only imagine if that was still my major and she was my teacher when i started dancing...
the reality is no matter what you do (whether youre in school or in a diff job or at the grocery store) people might be talking about you. the cashier a line over may have bought a lap dance from you last weekend. but who the fuck cares? theyre the pathetic ones who have nothing better to do than talk about you.
if i ever heard them talking, i'd say something snippy. but thats my personality. until i heard it i prob wouldnt say anything though.
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