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    I don't know what do to anymore. I really got the one thing i really wanted, and that was to be with my boyfriend, but now it seems like that is the only thing that is really going for me. It was actually my dream to have what i have now, and now i have it. Its not that anything else in my life is bad, no bad things are happening no drama, nothing. I just don't have anything to do, and i am starting too feel a mid 20's crisis. I know i am not old,but i feel i should have more going for me careerer wise, and its not. I have not gotten a job since i moved here. I am kinda of afraid to get a job because my language skill are limited. I can understand a lot more, but i can't easily figure out how to respond. So i am afraid to make phone calls for job offers. I know it takes time to be able to speak it, but i just want to be able to do it now.
    I need to get a job soon because my boyfriend will be going back to the Uni soon. That means his working day will be limited and that means income is gonna be limited. So he and his family tell me i need to get any kind of job, for visa purposes. And i know that of course and i have been looking for one since i arrived here. I have to get one before December because my current visa I dunno if i want a normal job. I don't feel i am cut out for mundane normal jobs, despite the fact i should not poopoo them for a visa at least. Whenever i have had a job that wasn't entertainment of some sort, i was miserable. So it suck to have to do it foreign country.
    I wanted to attend a Uni but i have to speak german well and have a certificate that says i do in order to do that i need to take expensive language classes that i don't think is in our budget at this point in time. And have a better education than an american high school diploma, so i will have to go to a lower sort of college before i go to a Uni.
    I dunno what to do really




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    Didn't you post saying you speak Bavarian German? Can you muddle through 'lower uni' and a language test with that? Or are the language classes required? Can you get a job where a lot of interaction is required that basically forces you to learn to respond? Like waitressing, or working in a shop?

    That's my weak point in any language too. It's so hard to formulate a response!

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    I can understand a little bit of Bavarian, its a dialect, which is different than what i learned in schools. I know a little bit of german, but not enough to get the certificate. I have not yet found a "lower uni" where i don't need german skills. I found a music school, but i still need my boyfriend to translate the page for me.

    I would like to get a job that forces me to respond, but so far, ever when i really want to sometime i am unable, still.

    I wish i could magically be fluent.

    I think i should consider dancing again, coz i can suck at german and still make money but im not sure if i should bring that up with my guy.




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    Aaaaah, okay. German is pretty damn hard. My first year was with a Bavarian teacher (though it was Hochdeutsch), my second with a northerner and what a difference.

    I know there a good number of schools in Europe with english speaking programs, but I have no idea about Germany.

    What came up when I googled:





    What are clubs like in Germany?

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    Quote Originally Posted by pookie View Post
    I just don't have anything to do, and i am starting too feel a mid 20's crisis. I know i am not old,but i feel i should have more going for me careerer wise, and its not.
    Our definition of old varies with age.

    When I was 20, 30 was old, when I was 30, 40 was old, and I'm now 50 and thinking 60 is old.

    Mid 20's is just starting to live life.

    Quote Originally Posted by pookie View Post
    I dunno if i want a normal job. I don't feel i am cut out for mundane normal jobs, despite the fact i should not poopoo them for a visa at least. Whenever i have had a job that wasn't entertainment of some sort, i was miserable. So it suck to have to do it foreign country.
    A lot of on line job site have sections on selecting careers. A UK one is at the following link:

    www.reed.co.uk

    Browse to the Career Tools Section and try the various questionnaires. They might give you some ideas for what to do.

    Maybe you just want a job that involves a lot of intraction with people. There are a lot of guided tours around Germany - maybe a tour guide giving the commentary on places you are visiting?

    Quote Originally Posted by pookie View Post
    wanted to attend a Uni but i have to speak german well and have a certificate that says i do in order to do that i need to take expensive language classes that i don't think is in our budget at this point in time.
    I have friends in Germany. My mate Jim married a German girl and has lived near Bonn for a number of years. He speaks good German despite never having been formally taught. He learnt his conversational skills by getting involved in conversations with his gf (who speaks English) helping out in translations when Jim got lost.

    I presume you can do something similar?

    Quote Originally Posted by pookie View Post
    I dunno what to do really
    Making out a checklist of what you have to do and working through it works for me. Just sit down and list out what you have to do:

    * Go to careers site and complete questionnaires.
    * List potential jobs.
    * Check out qusalifications and salary for jobs.
    * Etc.

    Once you've got your list start completing items on it.

    Any task is not so bad once you've broken it down into stages. And as you check off the stages, you can see you're slowly getting it finished.

    Phil.

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    I'm so proud of me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have been avoiding a making a phone call(coz i was scared), its for a job, and i finally did it! but the lady needs to call me back. But i am so proud that i got the courage.

    I really meant to speak in german, and i have everything planned out how i was gonna say it, but when she answered i slipped into english, but she spoke english. so everything was ok. The job is for a doggy trainer, or sth. Maybe i will get to train doggies. I really like animals!

    I dunno i fi will get the job, but it is a step forward. =)




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    I wish you the best hon.

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