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Last edited by Farrah_Holiday; 09-14-2007 at 06:42 AM. Reason: because i can..hahaha
My new love...is me !
Even the greatest authority does not, ultimately, know you as you know yourself.
Jhuka
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Maya Angelou





bah. i know how you feel. i dont know what else to say except youre not alone! i swear that if something could happen to me, it will. my friends and family joke about it.. whatever happens, of COURSE it would happen to me!
1 thing that ive thought of is that youre thinking it. if you put that out into the universe, that drama is always around you or whatever, then its out there and of course there comes the drama. did that make sense? haha, it makes sense in my head!





Yeah, I've had people tell me that too. But, not in a very long time.
I asked the question more to get other's insight. I don't see myself as a victim or anything close to that. I actually think of myself as a couragous person who puts her mind on things and gets it accomplished .
I'd like to be able to know how to keep the drama from happening in the future. Ya' know what I mean ?
I'm a very,very happy and pleasant person for the most part. I notice when I'm a complete bitch none of this stuff happens. Or if I just happen to switch from my nice smiling self to a complete ass while someone's bothering me the drama immediately stops. Does that make sense ? I believe what you put out in the universe comes back to you too, which is why I put out as much positive energy as I can. The world has enough assholes in my opinion.
Last edited by Farrah_Holiday; 09-14-2007 at 06:42 AM. Reason: Also, because i can..hahaha
My new love...is me !
Even the greatest authority does not, ultimately, know you as you know yourself.
Jhuka
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Maya Angelou



I don't think you're doing anything wrong at all, Farrah. Remember what FDR said? That the only thing we have to fear is fear itself. I think you are giving fate too much credit.
Someone once asked the great Yiddish writer, I. Singer, whether he believed in fate or free will. His answer was: I believe in free will, because when I see two men crossing the road, and one is a fatalist and one believes in free will, and a truck comes fast, I notice that they both run to get out of the way.
I'll speak cryptically here, and say that a great man I know was involved in the intelligence game: he was in situations where his life depended largely on his attitude toward things. I spoke with him once about a girlfriend of mine who was missed by a drunk going down the highway the wrong way--her car was missed only a foot. I told him I couldn't get past it: it unnerved me, I might have lost her but for one damn foot. And he told me something I've never forgotten: that one foot, in this case, was the same as one mile. It might have happened but it didn't--so don't let yourself get spooked, he told me. You can spook yourself into all kinds of trouble. When your brain starts to suggest that something is inevitable, as you are suggesting here, you need to suggest back that you also have a say in the matter. Our minds like to think that they are in control, but they are secondary (as the mythologist Joseph Campbell says) to the life of the heart, the overall being. I know the temptation to believe that fate has some plan for us, and perhaps it does, but we have also been given the gift of free will for a reason--to take charge of our destiny, and our fear.
So Farrah, you move on with your dreams, and don't let yourself be pulled into the worry that some great energy has a dark plan for you. You have a say in all this too--probably the biggest say. I like what Harrison Ford said when he was asked about whether he believed in a "force". He said: "I believe in this philosophy--force yourself." Keep after your star.
Last edited by jhuka; 09-13-2007 at 09:31 PM.
JK Jim





Maybe I' m not wording it correctly. I'm not fearful, I also subscribe to FDR's way of thinking..I think fear is a wasted emotion, I catagorize it along with jealousy. That's not to say fear doesn't creep it's ugly head in at times but, my way of thinking makes me confront it and move it out of my way.
I'm looking for an answer to why someone people have more drama than others.
And is there something that one can do to prevent it.
Like I was saying earlier in the thread, I think I'm a very lucky person. actually.
Kinda of like what you're friend was saying about your girlfriend's experience. For every negative experience I've had there was something positive that has happened. I don't think there is a dark force, that's what people I've shared stories with tell me. Which is why I keep a lot of things to myself, so I don't hear that there is something wrong w/ me or what I'm doing.
I'm also at a point in my life where I'm starting to look for answers and I'm doing a lot of soul searching.
I appreciate your response and thank for giving me more quotes to add to my list.![]()
My new love...is me !
Even the greatest authority does not, ultimately, know you as you know yourself.
Jhuka
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Maya Angelou





Farrah, I think that sometimes people are targeted with more issues than they can fit on their plate. These people don't deserve these problems, nor do they neccesarily need to grow from them.
Some people are just sorta bad at life, and therefore they have a lot of issues, but I don't think you're one of those people.
I've had a lot of crazy and brutal things happen to me that haven't had a thing to do with my own "good" behavior. Hold in there and realize that not EVERYTHING happens for a reason... some stuff is just chance and has nothing to do with you.



I see what you mean, Farrah--I might have misunderstood your question here. I've read over what you've written and as I'm looking at it I realize you may have your own solution already: you mention when you change attitude, get angry about things, things change instantly. I've noticed that too in life--that when I put on a determined face, the world around me changes and I get things done that need to be done. So it's probably not a bad idea, when you feel the world shifting in a way you don't like, to get determined and change the energy.
This guy who chased you with your nephew in the car and a gun--I hope that he got in some legal trouble for that. As you say, he could have killed your nephew. I guess where I am worried about your original post is that I'm left with the sense that you feel you somehow brought this on yourself (and your nephew) and of course you did not...that's what I meant about there being no dark force following you. There was just one idiot, out of control, following you, and as you said, things might have been much worse. I don't think you attracted that at all, though it is probably true that such a character sensed your vulnerability (just as a woman, perhaps) and decided to go after you. There are people who prey on vulnerability--he also sounds paranoid, and as if he had something to prove to the world--a real mess of a human being. I wish I'd been there to help you. I'm glad you and your nephew are okay.
JK Jim





I keep writing long responses and then they don't post. I'll reply when I have more time this afternoon.
My new love...is me !
Even the greatest authority does not, ultimately, know you as you know yourself.
Jhuka
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Maya Angelou
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