Since a lot of us strippers make more than our male counterparts, I though that this article might be interesting. It basically says that there are a lot of problems in relationships where the woman makes more. I especially find this to be an interesting way of explaining why some strippers pick the stereotypical stripper boyfriends that they do.
In my last relationship, my boyfriend used money as power. I admit that I was having a hard time finding a job because I was trying to get into nursing school, and I felt really powerless. If I tried to voice my grievances, I'd get the, "I pay for you to stay off the streets, and I get this shit?" I don't blame him for getting fed up, but I felt so helpless, so controlled, and that we couldn't have a fair fight. It became the center of our relationship. My point is that any relationship in which someone, male or female, is a leech or a controller, is going to be bad.
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You do not fucking use your wealth and status as ammunition in a relationship, nor do you threaten divorce unless you really fucking mean it. You especially do not bring this stuff into bed. This woman is an abusive, controlling bitch. However, it does raise the point that you have to choose your partner carefully. She needs balance in her life so she can separate work from personal life.Emily, a senior sales executive, admits she enjoys the control she has over Mark, a struggling photographer. But sex has become an issue.
“I can’t give up the position of empress,” she says. “Everything is in my name. When I’ve gotten really bratty, I’ve said, ‘Well fine, leave,’ knowing he can’t leave. I’ve never had such security in a relationship. There’s no risk of flight. But it’s only giving me a short-term gain. Ultimately, it’s emasculating for him.
“Mark,” she adds, “was the best sex I ever had.” But that was long ago. “We fight instead,” she says. “We’re embroiled in some weird combat. It’s like Lysistrata. I tell him, ‘Your business is going to have to get better faster.’ Until then, I’m withholding.”
When Emily comes home, she doesn’t always want to be the boss. But she says her husband no longer has the authority to take over. “I want somebody to take that power role away from me,” she explains. “Ultimately, it gets down to pretty basic stuff. It’s hard to be the power broker every day and then be the femme fatale. I’m not going to pay the bills—I feel like his mother—and then come home and suck his dick.”
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