K just asked me to think about moving to Eugene early next year (around February or March). We both love our lives in Hollywood, but it's getting more and more expensive every year. K said he loves me and he can't keep watching me get ground down like I've been; I get depressed a lot and he says it will be the death of our relationship if my situation doesn't improve. His best friend is going to law school in Eugene, and I liked central Oregon when we were there, and usually when I do those "describe your ideal town" things on the internet, they tell me I should be in Eugene.
OTOH, K is a native Angeleno and I'm not sure how well he'd take to living in Oregon. He'd still have to work in L.A. a lot, and he says he can crash with friends when he works in L.A. And he works out of town a lot anyway. I could still dance in Oregon, and in a much less stressful environment. Basically he says he loves me and wants to stay with me, and he thinks that probably means getting me out of L.A. where I won't be so freaked about money.
I'm just not sure what to think. I mean, he's right. But I have a life here. And I've got my film contacts, my friends, and school. I'm applying to the PhD programs at UCLA and USC (and at UC Santa Barbara). I had hoped to move to Santa Barbara next fall but it's going to be expensive there too, and who knows if I'll get a fellowship big enough to live on. I'm pretty sure the university in Eugene hasn't got a cinema studies PhD program. If we move to Eugene, I may not be able to go for my PhD, and I might lose my film contacts (although at this point K still plans to stay in the business, and his contacts are better than mine anyway).
Oh, and I should mention that I don't really like his best friend, the guy who already lives in Eugene. We can tolerate each other but he's a misogynist prick. K agrees that the guy is a misogynist prick but loves him anyway. So this guy isn't really a friend of mine at all and I'm not hugely thrilled by the idea of staying in his house while we look for a place, or hanging out with him on a regular basis.
I dunno, I dunno, I dunno. So many pros and cons. What do y'all think?


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