I cant figure it out. She obviously has huge mental issues.
A week ago we asked if we could borrow her car for 1 hr, as we are getting our car converted to LPG. IT was fine then. For some reason its suddenly not. and not only can we not use her car, she also said that little brother isnt allowed to lend us HIS car.
So she is paying $150 for a taxi fare, rather than letting us use her car for an hour.
She has major control issues. She is in charge of all the household and some business bills,(my Father in law is a doctor, with a family trust, so there is paper work to do) but is 'too busy' to pay the bills, so the phones get cut off, they have no power etc. And noone says anything. She forebade him to visit his family overseas, and he didnt see them for 13 years. He isnt allowed to speak Chinese under "her' roof. (Shes a white Australian, very religious in her own twisted way) She abused him once for seeing an emergency patient on a s\Sunday, as it says in the bible that its a sin to work Sunday.
She hasnt worked since she got married. She doesnt cook or clean. She has HER meals delivered, her youngest son and husband both have to cook for themselves. She does NOTHING all day, everyday,(except of eat) and as a result is morbidly obese.
My husband was a champion swimmer as a teenager. She refused to let him go to training, as she couldnt be bothered driving him to training, and he wasnt allowed to get a lift or ride his bike there. So he missed out on the NATIONAL CHAMPIONSHIPS, which he stood a good chance of winning.
She made him change his name (to remove the Chinese part, as she didnt get to "choose' the name - They name the boys by an ancient poem, 26 generations, but she didnt like the name he was given) and kicked him out until he did (he was 16)
The youngest son has huge depression issues. He sleeps all day, sits online all night. His highest qualification is finishing primary school. High school was boring so he dropped out. College was boring (hard work) so he dropped out. He has never gotten a job (my hubbie pretty much gave him the only two jobs he has had), and he quit the last place 10 months ago cos he 'didnt like it'
Hes 25 years old, and basically a loser
She gives him money to sit around all day and do nothing. Hes earning more than I am, with waitressing, plus I study.
Despite him doing nothing, she still has a cook and a cleaner come in.
She makes excuses and talks him out of any idea he has. He was thinking of enlisting in the army, but that was too dangerous. He wanted to work away, but she makes more excuses and tells him not to.
He needs a big kick up the arse, and she is intent on keeping her baby home, so fosters his mental illness.
The house she lives in has no floorcoverings or paint on the walls, as SHE is the only one whos allowed to organise that, and shes been 'too busy' for the last 27 years. I kid you not. Right now she sleeps in the living room/dining room, as her bedroom roof had a leak about 2 years ago, and she never got around to organising for her bed to go back in. So she got her youngest son to move wardrobes and other furniture into the living room, cutting the room in half, so she can sleep behind it, and people cant see her from the front door.
The house is so claustrophobic for me, I cant go in the room with 5 people, there isnt even enough room for us all to sat around the dining table.
She tried to break us up about a year into our relationship.
She attempted to saboutage our wedding, and refused to come to the Chinese ceremony.
She had a minor cancer removed about 5 years ago. She didnt go for any of her checkups, and as a result she now has cancer all through her body.
She is on drugs which strip the calcium out of bones, but doesnt do the 30 minutes a day walk, which will stop her bones from deteriating.
We've been told 5-6 years, but in just a few weeks shes going downhill really quickly.
I could start about her racist, biased views on the whole world, the way she argues with me about things in which I hold a DEGREE and spent 5 years studying. The list is endless on how evil this woman is.
I know its horrible, but I hope that her illness is over quick, before she can poison more people.
The family is better off without her, the stress she causes and the evil in her mind.
I will never let her near my children (If shes even alive to see them) as shes a spiteful bitch. She has smacked COMPLETE STRANGERS KIDS in the supermarket.
I know that she will abuse my kids, the way she has and still does abuse hers.
It hurts my husband, cos she IS his mum.
I just dont know how to deal with the situation, other than just shut up and hope she dies soon.
What would you do?



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sorry you have to put up with such crappola, hope she does die soon! I cant stand anyone who thinks they have the right to ruin another's life!

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