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    Hi guys. I've been on this website for a really long time, because back then I wanted to be a stripper. I spent hours on this site, researching everything that needed to be researched on the subject. My life ended up not going that way. I moved to a new state.

    I live with my boyfriend and his mom, and they're both kicking me out and giving me a week to leave, for various reasons. And now I have 11 days to make $300, because there's an apartment available by October 1st. Stripping is my last option, but I've been applying to every legit job under the sun, and no one has called me back yet. I work at a job for 6.75 an hour, 15 hours a week average. Even if I got a callback today, there's no way I can make that amount of money in a week and a half. I have about $50 to my name at the moment.

    So, as you can see, I'm super-desperate for cash. There's this gentlemen's club downtown, and it seems like it's the only nightclub around, and I THINK I should, I dunno...no one would no, it would only be for a few nights, right? But regardless of everything I know about stripping (my vast knowledge coming from this website have made a few people suspect me of being a past stripper) I have never danced in my life.

    So, I really need advice. Or something.


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    I don't know how I feel about desperation and "no one will know" as good motivations to strip...but I really feel the situation you're in. Very much hope things get better.

    Is it possible? Absolutely. You will find that once you get there, your body will take over and you'll be doing all this stuff that you've read about here. That's how it was for me. The hardest part is walking through the door. After that, it's the easiest thing in the world.

    But really consider why you're doing this and what will happen if you do. For me, working a thankless, minimum-wage job is far, far more demeaning than dancing, so I was enthused to start up at the club. You may not feel the same way. Once you pay this month's rent, are you going to quit dancing and resume working at your $6.75/hr job? Will you be able to make ends meet? I guess all I'm trying to say is think of the long-term and try to make the decision that will get you where you want to be financially and emotionally.

    Like I said, I really hope things get better.


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    you can panhandle and get that small a sum in 11 days very easily, for pity's sake. or you could work more hours. 15 per week is not exactly killing oneself.

    there's a lot of other options besides stripping to make 300 dollars in 11 days. LOTS.

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    There is no way you could get an extension on staying @ the place where you are at?

    I went thru a similar situation and decided on stripping. Like you, I had researched it on the net and made my choice. It was the best decision I made, and now have my own place, independence, and a savings. My debt is cleared and I'm in school.

    My suggestion would be to try it out for one night. Really think about it after that night and see if it's something you could do somewhat long term. Like posted earlier, I wouldn't jump into a lease and then later find out down the road that you hate stripping, and cannot afford the apt. by any other means...
    I'd grab my trumpet and I'd do a stripper sound, like the old Louis Armstrong, real raspy. And the people would go nuts! Then I knew that the sexual, sensual, guttural sound, that throbbing sound, is where it's at.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SundayMorning View Post
    The hardest part is walking through the door.
    ^^^ ditto.

    And ditto on making sure that you don't get yourself into a lease/housing situation where you can only afford it with dance income, and not minimum wage income.

    Why don't you sit down and make up a budget? Estimate how much you'll need each month for gas, car payment, food, rent, utilities, cell phone etc etc... Once you have that number, you'll know what you're going to be dealing with post-boyfriend. Go ahead and strip this week and next in order to make sure you're taken care of. Making $300 is cake in 11 days. I know it's hard to make decisions right now because i'm sure that whatever the situation is with your bf/bf's mom that it's emotionally stressful on top of mentally stressful. Once you're settled in a new place, use your budget to re-evaluate your work situation to see if you want to continue to dance, or if you want to find other suitable employment based on your expenses. When it comes to finances, knowledge is power.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miabella View Post
    you can panhandle and get that small a sum in 11 days very easily, for pity's sake. or you could work more hours. 15 per week is not exactly killing oneself.

    there's a lot of other options besides stripping to make 300 dollars in 11 days. LOTS.
    I have no choice but to work 15 hours at my job. The company is losing money, and NO ONE except the manager is getting hours right now.

    I'm at the end of my rope here--do you have any other options in mind?


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    ask your friends and relatives for the money. you are working, it's not like you can't pay anyone back if they want to call it a loan.

    waitress or hostess. temp agencies. charities that give money to help with rent/utilities. i don't know what the job market is like for temps in your town, but where i live, there's a lot of daywork leading tours and such that pays 100 per day or so.

    shoot, in my town, the panhandlers make 300 a DAY. so that remark was only half in jest.

    you could spend 11 days returning bottles and cans and come up with the money.

    hock something.

    the story of why your BOYFRIEND wants you to leave along with his mother is a puzzling one. why can't he help you get a new place, if he won't let you live with him?

    there are already a herd of girls dancing 'to make 300 dollars really fast cos i'm desperate', which is one of the reasons earnings are shallwesay 'inconsistent'.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miabella View Post
    ask your friends and relatives for the money. you are working, it's not like you can't pay anyone back if they want to call it a loan.

    waitress or hostess. temp agencies. charities that give money to help with rent/utilities. i don't know what the job market is like for temps in your town, but where i live, there's a lot of daywork leading tours and such that pays 100 per day or so.

    shoot, in my town, the panhandlers make 300 a DAY. so that remark was only half in jest.

    you could spend 11 days returning bottles and cans and come up with the money.

    hock something.

    the story of why your BOYFRIEND wants you to leave along with his mother is a puzzling one. why can't he help you get a new place, if he won't let you live with him?

    there are already a herd of girls dancing 'to make 300 dollars really fast cos i'm desperate', which is one of the reasons earnings are shallwesay 'inconsistent'.
    Thank you for the suggestions.
    It's a really confusing situation. Matt and I fight a lot, with me starting most of the fights. One night when eh came home from work, he broke up with me and said I had to leave. Two days later, his mom sat me down and said that I had to leave because she wants things a "certain way" around her house. I had put her laundry in the dryer, and some things shrunk. That was sort of the final straw--she couldn't tolerate the period of adjustment I had to go through to understand how she wanted things. Matt thinks it might be better for us to be friends and perhaps start again in the future.

    I just called my brother for money--he says that he's not in a good financial situation right now, but he's getting a bartending job and if that goes well, he would send me money.


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    you could make that in a night or two dancing. Your gonna be nervous but just go take a long shower/shave or wax, put on a cute outfit and do up your makeup/hair and walk in that club. I have been in a situation close to yours before I was already stripping but if i wasnt, I would have on the street. Good luck!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by miabella View Post
    ask your friends and relatives for the money. you are working, it's not like you can't pay anyone back if they want to call it a loan.

    waitress or hostess. temp agencies. charities that give money to help with rent/utilities. i don't know what the job market is like for temps in your town, but where i live, there's a lot of daywork leading tours and such that pays 100 per day or so.

    shoot, in my town, the panhandlers make 300 a DAY. so that remark was only half in jest.

    you could spend 11 days returning bottles and cans and come up with the money.

    hock something.

    the story of why your BOYFRIEND wants you to leave along with his mother is a puzzling one. why can't he help you get a new place, if he won't let you live with him?

    there are already a herd of girls dancing 'to make 300 dollars really fast cos i'm desperate', which is one of the reasons earnings are shallwesay 'inconsistent'.

    Why are you on a stripper forum if you're so anti-stripping? She's obviously interested in dancing and she seriously thought about it at some point.. Instead of telling her to stand on the side of the road tricking people and panhandling, why not give her a little encouragement to audition? Between the stressful living situation and bad financial situation I only see one real and easy solution, to dance for a while. Just my $.02

    I agree with the person who said she found it much more demeaning to work for minimum wage than to take her clothes off. That's the reason I'm proud of being a stripper. I can work 2 nights a week and make what some people make in a month.

    As for the OP, just hang in there babe. Try out dancing and see if it's something you could do for a while, then make a budget based on that. I love having the freedom of working a few extra nights if I need more money or hanging out at home or doing a girl's night out if my finances are alright. Keep us updated!

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    Quote Originally Posted by beautiful. View Post
    Why are you on a stripper forum if you're so anti-stripping? She's obviously interested in dancing and she seriously thought about it at some point.. Instead of telling her to stand on the side of the road tricking people and panhandling, why not give her a little encouragement to audition?
    Well, she obviously really doesn't want to dance, or she would have been doing it months ago and she wouldn't only be considering it because she's desperate and then only for a couple days. Really, this industry does not need any more girls who "hate it" but "have to do it" becasue they "have no other choice." People are just trying to point out to her that she has other choices.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    Well, she obviously really doesn't want to dance, or she would have been doing it months ago and she wouldn't only be considering it because she's desperate and then only for a couple days. Really, this industry does not need any more girls who "hate it" but "have to do it" becasue they "have no other choice." People are just trying to point out to her that she has other choices.
    That was a good point, I'm sorry to the other girl if I came off as a bitch. Even before seeing the other side of the argument, I wasn't trying to be one. I just don't think we need anybody else looking on this industry negatively, there are tons of happy stripper out there!

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    Look, if you need the money, then go ahead and try it. You might find it's a great way to make an extra income. I did.

    Just remember:

    1) You are there to work and make $$$, not get drunk or find a new man

    2) It's a different mentality than being in a regular club. You are not there to chat. Give each man a one song maximum to hit him up for a dance, if he won't, move on to the next customer. Quickly.

    3) It's all about how you make the man feel. It's about making the customer feel like he's so desirable that you can't wait to throw your clothes off for him.

    4) If you don't know what moves to make when you're giving a dance just watch teh other dancers and copy them until you get your own style.

    5) Don't get drunk. Don't let customers buy you more than one drink. Custs will waste your time yakking and buying drinks if they can.

    6) Drinks and compliments don't pay the bills. Remember that. You need to get dances to make $$$, preferably VIP.

    Good Luck and let us know what happens!

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    I say, take the leap. If it works out- great. If not- well then you will be no worse off than you are right now.

    Sometimes I hate dancing, but at least you can make a decent living and you're not hurting anybody, right?

    And if you don't make money the first night don't worry. Give it 3 nights. Some people need a little time to get adjusted.

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    And remember us male customers come in all flavours from nasty to nice.

    You'll meet some nice blokes when you're working, and you'll meet some totally obnoxious ones.

    Think carefully about how well you deal with rude, ignorant people - you won't meet many of them in a night, but you're sure to meet some.

    Consider also how you deal with rejection. As individuals, us males only buy dances from a small percentage of the dancers in the club - you're going to get a lot of guy's saying no. It's not personal, but I suspect it might feel that way sometimes.

    And having pointed out the negative side, I'd say that if you badly need cash, you've not got a lot to lose from trying dancing for a few days - you can always walk away from it if it's not for you.

    Some girls find it a good way to make a living, and some girls don't.

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    Do you have ALL the gear you need to dance ? If you need to buy gear to start, this could be a big waste.

    For now , you could serve drinks at a strip club, easily make the $300, AND not have to buy any clothes / shoes ect.

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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    Do you have ALL the gear you need to dance ? If you need to buy gear to start, this could be a big waste.

    For now , you could serve drinks at a strip club, easily make the $300, AND not have to buy any clothes / shoes ect.
    true but not. waitress uniforms can be pricey too! my scores uniform to cocktail was $100 and that was the retail, the club wasnt making money off of it. and my hustler uniform was maybe $50 i think? so either way she might still end up spending money, just not as much. if she were only planning to make the $300 and stop dancing, she could buy just one outfit that wasnt too pricey, you know?

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    Or as a newbie you could just wear some sort of lingerie set that you already have and you could get away with wearing some regular heels. You'll have to buy a legal thong (check your club/state's regulations) and it should probably only be $10-$15. If you don't have any decent looking lingerie you can easily buy a cute bra and panty set somewhere really cheap, do you have a Ross or Marshall's or TJ Maxx or anything like that where you live? You could find something cute there for $20 or less.

    If you like dancing and decide to stick with it then get you a real pair of shoes and some outfits down the road, but as a newbie or somebody just doing it temporarily I think you could get away with not having real stripper stuff yet except for the thong. Good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    Do you have ALL the gear you need to dance ? If you need to buy gear to start, this could be a big waste.

    For now , you could serve drinks at a strip club, easily make the $300, AND not have to buy any clothes / shoes ect.
    I don't know, am I old enough to serve drinks? I'm 19.I have $43 to my name, and I would gladly use it to buy clothes and gear, etc.


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    Quote Originally Posted by beautiful. View Post
    Or as a newbie you could just wear some sort of lingerie set that you already have and you could get away with wearing some regular heels. You'll have to buy a legal thong (check your club/state's regulations) and it should probably only be $10-$15. If you don't have any decent looking lingerie you can easily buy a cute bra and panty set somewhere really cheap, do you have a Ross or Marshall's or TJ Maxx or anything like that where you live? You could find something cute there for $20 or less.

    If you like dancing and decide to stick with it then get you a real pair of shoes and some outfits down the road, but as a newbie or somebody just doing it temporarily I think you could get away with not having real stripper stuff yet except for the thong. Good luck
    I have a beautiful little babydoll that I hardly ever wear, and a cute corset. Do you know what the website would be to buy a legal thong?


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    snaz.75 you can find thongs. Go to the body bussiness section and theres a stick thread of links with lots of places tp buy clothes and thongs. I have a little babydoll that I got from TJMaxx before I ever danced and i wear that at work all the time, and corsets are def. hot.


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    Quote Originally Posted by moonjade6 View Post
    I have a beautiful little babydoll that I hardly ever wear, and a cute corset. Do you know what the website would be to buy a legal thong?
    Go to the club first before you buy anything. Ask them what is allowed and what isnt...you may be able to get away with wearing something you already have for the first few nights.

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    Just do it.

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    i agree w/ the last girl......just do it!!!

    i was in a terrible financial situation when i first started dancing, but it worked out. last summer i quit my crummy min.wage hostessing job and moved back to the city...a really close friend of mine and my family's had died and i had to go to his funeral. his sister gave me $20 at the funeral because somebody told her i didn't have any money, and i accidentally gave it to a bum later the same night! (ended up keeping the $1.....bet that bum was totally stoked). so i started dancing with about $3 cash, some borrowed shoes with a broken strap, that were too big, my only bra and a four dollar thong from wet seal. the dj kept being like "don't you have any stripper shit?" and i just had to say no...so finally he got one of the other girls there to sell me an outfit and find me some better shoes in the dressing room "free pile." i bought the outfit with the money i got from my first tabledance, so i just had the one outfit. a couple nights later another dancer sold me another outfit, and within the next 3 days i had several outfits, a new pair of shoes, money to take myself out to dinner, cab fare, and the dough i needed to get into my own place. i really haven't hurt for cash ever since. (even when i got pregnant and couldn't dance anymore, i still always had the confidence i learned from dancing and didnt have any trouble getting making money when i needed it)

    there are always obstacles to getting started, especially if you weren't born with a silver spoon in your butt, but if you have $40 then you at least have SOMETHING to start with. no matter what you decide i hope everything works out. if you decide to dance (which it seems like you are seriously considering it) just remember to stretch good, breathe, keep your head up, and HAVE FUN. keep your goal in mind and you will reach it, and you will get paid to work out. there is no shame in it.


    good luck

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    Wow, that is an inspiring story! Seriously, I admire that you were able to do that and that it worked out for you!

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