To all you guys who are opposed to her dancing -- dude, just let her dance lol! A harsh money/living situation alone should be enough of a reason for her to dance. Maybe not the best reason for her to dance longterm, but at least temporarily so that she can get a SAFE place to live and find a better job than the piece-of-shit $6.75/hr job she has now.
Dude she said that she was staying at a homeless shelter...have you heard about how unsafe and crude those places are? Admittedly I've never actually seen one, but I have a few close friends who were sociology majors in college and did their internships at one. And the shelter they interned at was actually a lot nicer than others, because it was church run. But that's not saying much. Church shelters, esp city shelters, are HORRIBLE places. Although she might have sounded a bit on a "high horse" when she said that she was well educated yet forced to inhabit a shelter with druggies and pregnant girls, I can DEFINITELY see her point. She was a good girl, went to school, tried real hard, and now is experiencing a HUGE slap in the face from having to stay at a shelter with a bunch of deadbeats. I read somewhere that staying at a shelter can actually drive someone DOWN. If dancing, even for just a few weeks, is her ticket out of the shelter...by all means, DO IT! Even golddigging some guy would be better than a shelter, probably.
And as far as the 15hr/week, $6.75/hr job goes...yeah 15 hrs/week isn't exactly "busting her ass," but who says she has a choice about the work hours? I bet she'd LOVE to get a better job than what she has, or at least be granted more hours at her current job, but the job market really sucks right now...esp for new college grads lacking entry level experience or internships. She's probably only working the $6.75/hr job until she finds something better.
Most dead-end "bullshit jobs" are infamous for giving very small work hours. I already told you guys about M--k, and how he was stuck working at Acme Supermarket for a few YEARS after college before he found something else. He'd already been at Acme for a solid year and a half by the time he graduated, yet they only gave him 25 hrs/week. It took him working there for over THREE YEARS before they allowed him full-time hours! Most dead end jobs do that, because they're too cheap to pay out benefits or overtime. Also, they have a big slew of high school employees, so they only have limited hours available to give.
Jobwise, I've been in the same spot as M--k and Moonjade6. I've given "bullshit jobs" an open, unlimited availability and a request for full-time hours...just to be given 20 hr workweeks, even after being there for a while. I've wished and wanted and tried really hard to find a desk job, just to be rejected or have my resume end up in the garbage can due to lack of experience(even though I have a typing speed of nearly 100wpm). And during this difficult time in my life, my parents added insult to injury to it by falsely accusing me of being "lazy"(even though I really was applying to a lot of places), and kicking me out when they knew that I had no means to support myself. Luckily though I had friends that were more than helpful to me or I coulda ended up at a cruddy shelter. Yeah I didn't like the idea of dancing very much, but I'm glad I did it back then, because it helped me out a LOT. I did the dancing thing just until I was established and had other job prospects lined up.
I look at the nice full-time "real" job that I hold now, and I wonder if I woulda gotten this job if it hadn't been for becomming more confident and established in life(having my own place, reliable transportation, nice office attire, some prior experience that I obtained through a FRIEND THAT I MET AT ONE OF THE STRIP CLUBS I WORKED AT, etc). If I ended up staying at a grocery store or living in a shelter, I bet my esteem woulda gone down the gutter and I woulda never been able to get the job I have today. I think if this girl keeps trying out at clubs, perhaps she can do the same thing that I did. So let's show her support(not that you guys are being unsupportive or anything bad though).
That is all. Sorry for writing such a novel...but this thread hit a bit of a chord with me.![]()



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