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    Default May I ask a question, please don't get mad

    I don't know if I should ask but who better than you guys. I was wondering how come most of the girls I see dancing have a really mad face? Why do most not look at the customers when on stage? Please don't be mad, I am just curios.

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    Lots of people hate their jobs. Strippers are no exception. Unfortunately ours is a performance business and it's unprofessional to let one's boredom or irritation show onstage, but lots of dancers do it anyway. It's a huge turnoff in my opinion. Even if you're sleepy, angry, whatever, you're at work, have the professionalism to leave it offstage and at least pretend to have a good time.

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    Default Re: May I ask a question, please don't get mad

    i don't know, but i see this at my club a lot. i try to always smile, or flirt with guys, or at least look like i'm having fun dancing with myself onstage. but i know that my performance gets better as the night goes on, and i'm more in 'stripper mode.'

    i think maybe some of the girls are nervous? or aren't comfortable with the eye contact? also, maybe some of them just don't like the job.

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    It depends. When I have guys at my tip rail and an audience that is into it..I'm all about flirting from stage. When nobody is tipping or clapping or even appears to be paying attention...I close my eyes and try to get into the music so at least I can have fun.

    Plus I hate my smile.

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    i think there are lots of girls who think that they are emitting a smolderingly sexy pout, when in reality it's coming off as a bored/angry/bitchy glare.

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    Default Re: May I ask a question, please don't get mad

    I think on stage a usually neutral face can often come off as an angry one. I do my best to smile... seems like I'm always reminding myself.

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    I think it's supposed to be a sexy look. I ask a girl why she was mad once when she got off stage and she said she was trying to look sexy. I always just smile. It helps me avoid accidentally making faces at the guys.

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    Default Re: May I ask a question, please don't get mad

    Girls at my club say they don't smile because they think they look etarded with big grins on their faces while they're rubbing themselves. But as soon as they get tipped they smile at the guy.

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    I've noticed that if I don't smile, guys assume I'm a bitch. So I always smile.
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    Default Re: May I ask a question, please don't get mad

    OMG were you watching my show last night?

    Ahaha I admit I don't always smile and there are times I look super pissed off... usually because I am lol. Meh...

    There are just times where I can't be bothered to get into the show. It happens time to time.

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    I mostly did rock like Disturbed, Rammstein, Metallica....I wasn't for smiling. I wasn't mad and even when I practice at home I have a very serious face.

    Techno and such I was more smiley...hmmm. Maybe that's why that dj once said I should never dance to anything other than techno.
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    A lot of our top earners have that unblinkingly bored/distant/aloof expression throughout their entire routine. And a lot of the guys seem to love it! I think because maybe it comes off as 'too-good-for-you' and therefor hard-to-get and guys desire what they can't have?

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    Default Re: May I ask a question, please don't get mad

    sorry, but I am no cheshire cat.. the whole grinning look just makes the girls look like they are on something. I will smile at certain customers, but no way am I going to do my routine with a crazy grin.
    Who smiles all the time anyway? You smile AT something, not into space.
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    i've discovered just from my daily life that if i have a neutral look on my face, i look mad and bitchy. apparently, women are supposed to have at least a grin or else they are pissed at the world.

    i try to at least grin/smile some during my stage set, or when i'm on the floor for that matter, but if feels so unnatural, i probably don't do it much.

    as for not looking at the customers...i look at them if they are at stage, looking at me. but it gets mad depressing when you're naked in front of a guy and he's staring off into space or having some conversation with his friend. at my club, you can only get some guys attention by wrapping your legs around their head and shoving their face in your pussy. which i don't do.

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    For me, it's becasue I'm bored, so I have this vacant stare. If there aren't many customers, or they are all talking with other girls, I can't make eye contact even if I want to. I try, but if there is no one to perform for I end up watching myself in the mirror with a blank expression.

    Sometimes I forget that even if I've done one thousand stage sets, the guys there have probably never seen me dance, and I should try to connect with them.
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    Oh thank you for your honesty

    I was wondering if it's something that is well kinda like a rule. I also notice that if there are mirrors they usually look at the mirrors rather than customers. Hope I didn't upset anyone. Oh but if a customer smiles at you do you smile back? I usually smile at dancers and they do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by High_Heel_Lover View Post
    Oh thank you for your honesty

    I was wondering if it's something that is well kinda like a rule. I also notice that if there are mirrors they usually look at the mirrors rather than customers. Hope I didn't upset anyone. Oh but if a customer smiles at you do you smile back? I usually smile at dancers and they do.

    I dont look in the mirrors unless I am REALLY bored. And if a custie smiles at me I smile back...if he/she comes up to tip me..I smile.

    Basically I smile when I have a reason to. I dont feel right just grinning like an idiot for no reason!

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    My answer is quite simple. I'm a stripper. I like money. Tipping makes me smile.



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    You know I should of known better but it was just a curiosity thing. I guess men don't really look at faces when the dancer is performing but I do, I asked my husband once and he said "you look at too many details!" then one day he says "look!" and I said "what?" and he said "c section scar honey, she's a mama too" and I tipped her extra! not cause just she was a mama but because well as a mom after 2 kids it takes a lot of work to get in shape! ok I hope I'm not offending again, the point is that now he looks at details too.

    i also tipped her extra cause once she got off stage I said "oh your a mama like me" and we kinda hung out ans talked about kids and then I got her to dance for my hubby, I like it when dancers speak about things to you, it doesn't have to be personal but just a nice conversation about things that interest them. Sounds strange?

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    No, not strange. I love going to SCs as a retired gal because I like to bond with the dancers (and of course tip!)

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    Yes I think tipping is a must! I hate it when men just sit, look and don't tip, I usually say something like "isn't she beautiful?" and they agree and I say "you know what I think tipping makes her even more gorgeous" some look at me like " what?" and then I say "well see if you tip them I bet they will thin kof you of a nicer guy than those who just look and don't tip" and then they get up and tip!

    I have had others that don't tip, have been there for a while and I start tipping and they say "your making me look bad" and I will say "if you want it for free go online or to your woman" then they feel like idiots and they tip.

    On the other hand I've had guys move over so I can tip, I think they kinda get off over a woman tipping a dancer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by High_Heel_Lover View Post
    I guess men don't really look at faces when the dancer is performing interest them.
    oh yes they do!! it might sound strange but facial expression and eye contact is the thing that gets guys going the most. it's the diff between a good stripper and a great stripper. the one who looks like she is enjoying her work and is enjoying running her hands all over her body.

    it's how i get repeat customers and it's how i sell a lot more dances. i know many girls are afraid to use eye contact but it's the main tihng guys look at. yes of course they look at your boobs and pussy but they do not stop checking your eyes and facial expressions coz IMO most customers want a dancer who looks like she is enjoying dancing for them.

    as for your question about the grumpy faces, well some dancers are just plain angry in general. there are a few girls who i have seen that walk around angry all night and they are just the same on stage.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gypsy_girlchild View Post
    sorry, but I am no cheshire cat.. the whole grinning look just makes the girls look like they are on something. I will smile at certain customers, but no way am I going to do my routine with a crazy grin.
    Who smiles all the time anyway? You smile AT something, not into space.
    Ha, love it--I feel exactly like that!

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    Quote Originally Posted by she sells sanctuary View Post
    i've discovered just from my daily life that if i have a neutral look on my face, i look mad and bitchy. apparently, women are supposed to have at least a grin or else they are pissed at the world.
    I totally agree. Like someone will say "what's wrong?" & I'm like "nothing." I also hate when much older guys, like in their 60s or 70s will say, "Why don't you smile?" to me, a stranger in a store. I'm here to buy eggs, not brighten your day.

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    Default Re: May I ask a question, please don't get mad

    i <3 stripping. i'm always smiling :]

    unless some fuck just pissed me off.

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