This is something that I'm totally confused about what to do. I figure that between all of you, someone's got to have some ideas...
Back when I was in highschool, my then best friend had a baby. Father of said baby was a total jerk about the whole thing, to the point that bf didn't even put him on the birth certificate AND told the people at welfare that she had no idea who the father was. (this was after her mom kicked her out....). I never liked the dude much, he was really mean to me and said lots of rude things that literally affected my self esteem for years.
When bf's baby was in her teens, daddy decided he really wanted to get to know her. Bf left it up to her daughter pretty much, daughter was around 16 at this point, and daughter didn't want to have any part of it, probably because she'd her so much shit talk about what an asshole her father had been. At the same time, I have to say in all fairness that daughter was VERY strong minded and she made said decision after speaking to her father a couple times on the phone. I think probably 50% of it was the shit talk, and the rest of it was what she'd decided on her own.
Now we're up to the present. Not too long ago I got a message on classmates.com from said father. I decided to reply, if for no other reason than sheer curiousity. We've e-mail back and forth a few times, and he's apologized for saying hurtful things to me etc etc. He's been going through a lot of rough shit in his life and I do believe that he's changed for the better, although I'd never really be friends with him just because it's really hard for me to forgive someone that did the shit he did.
Now I truly and honestly don't know where daughter is or anything else, but I do know that she had a baby about 13 years ago. I could get hold of former bf if I wanted to, but she dumped me in a really shitty manner a couple years ago and we no longer speak to each other.
Should I tell him he's a grandfather???? If he asks I can honestly say I don't know where she is etc, but what if he wants to know if I know how to get hold of former bf in hopes of seeing daughter and grandkid??? I flat out would never tell him how to get hold of her unless she approved it, I've always been that way, I NEVER give anyone anyone else's phone number without checking with them first, unless I know damn good and well that the person wouldn't mind my doing so, and it takes a lot for me to be sure enough that it's ok for me to tell someone that info.
WTF should I do?



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was not being allowed in his daughters life. Few people out there are willing to accept that their behavior results in some bad karma coming their way. So if he was trying to pull some sob story about having a bad life after spending so much time being an a


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