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    Default How do you make yourself stand out??

    I just started at Stars.... and the girls there are beautiful. They're ALL perfect....and there are so many of them. Last night there were probably 20 girls, most of them are some shade of blonde, most of them have huge boobs, and they all have really nice bodies, skinny and toned and really tan. I... am naturally pale and have to work to be tan, tattooed, brunette and not so skinny... just average. Oh ... and small B-cup boobs that can in no way compare to D cup silicones. I felt really out of my league.

    So all night up on stage I was really doing my best, putting 100% into every performance, I felt like I was doing okay because I ALWAYS had people at my rack, but regardless of that, even though I asked EVERYONE who showed interest in my set if they wanted a dance, I only sold 3. I saw girls getting dances left and right, so it wasn't that the customers just weren't biting.

    I'm also a minor, so the only time I was able to be out on the floor and make money was during my sets, so if I got all "no's" I was banished to the dressing room.

    Pretty much, how the heck do I make money in this club? I don't want to conform to the super-tanned, super-skinny look because it's not healthy for my body/skin type to look that way, I've been there, done that. I'm just trying to be myself.. but more glamorous, but I feel so out of my league in this club. The girls are so perfect looking it's unreal. I feel like no one wants to buy dances from me because there are 19 other super hot girls the next stage over or circulating on the floor. So what the heck can I do to make myself more appealing without conforming??????

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    Default Re: How do you make yourself stand out??

    Like if every girl is wearing booty shorts wear a gown instead to stand out. If every girl is lazy on stage and does a lack luster performance instead choose some odd music and make a show of it.

    Whatever is it the opposite could work for you better and also help you stand out.
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    As hard as it may seem, you have to stop comparing yourself to the other girls. The number one thing that will help you as an entertainer is confidence in yourself. Looks are certainly a factor, but the most gorgeous woman in the club is not always the top moneymaker. You have to have your own personality and style, and the confidence to not give a shit what anyone else is doing.

    When I first started at a nice club I was intimidated and I wondered how the other girls sold so many dances. I nearly drove myself crazy trying to mold myself into something I was not. But once I was able to develop a great stripper persona I stopped looking at everyone else and realized that I have just as much, or more, to offer as any other girl. It was then that I stopped looking at it like a competition and stopped comparing myself to other dancers.

    I don't know how long you've been dancing, but give it some time. You will figure out what works for you and you will learn how to sell in your own way.
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    The first idea that popped into my head was try to work your youth and do the school girl thing. If you have to wear a gown on main stage, then I guess try on a side stage, but the whole little plaid skirt, bubbly smile and pigtails will probably get you some dances.
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    I am in the same spot as you, not so tall, natural (breast fed 2 kids) so they don't stand up really well, I have pudge around my tummy and stretch marks all over. The girls I see, are skinny, toned, tanned, nice boobs and such. Well, what gets me through, not my outfits, BUT my personality. Custies say it all the time, I like you because you're real, you're natural, and you look like you're having fun. Sometimes, I find a few guys around the tip rail who are looking at me, and I say, "Watch this!! I just learned how to do this!" And then I do a ridiculous pole trick that usually lands me VERY (un)gracefully to the floor! Then I laugh and say, Almost! They laugh and I keep going. Sometimes, I do the can-can to be an ass. I'm the go lucky act like a fool stripper there, and, it works for me. I find for the guys I see, they're not intimidated by me, and I don't know, try to see how the girls are where you work, and be different, OR, just be yourself!
    If you're yourself, and you're okay with you, the guys will see that, and be attracted to you, your personality. Have fun! If you get discouraged, find a custy you can just talk to, like a regular, and chat until you feel better. I have a couple of them and I tell them when I feel fat and like shit because all these girls are so much better than me, then after bitching, I go back to the floor, and I usually do better. And I totally go back to the reg. and let him know that his ear helped unload stress and that helped me regain myself and sell some dances.

    Because you are different, I'd sell that.

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    I work with a lot of girls who act like they are thinking of their grocery lists while on stage. I smile and work the rail. They take off their clothes at the very back of the stage near the door. I do striptease and undress right in front of them.

    THey kind of mosey about. I walk in stride, using my hips to walk. They straighten their hair. I curl it. I bank being the slender chick in a tiny top and skirt. I flirt with customers from a distance, or when a large crowd comes in, I make an excuse to walk past them so I am the first girl they see. I smile at them and continue on my way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bite View Post
    I work with a lot of girls who act like they are thinking of their grocery lists while on stage.

    Me too... it's a sad fact of strip club life that a lot of girls you find yourself working with have got little between the ears besides fluff. This can be so worked to your advantage. At the last club I worked at (a very wanna-dance circuit type of place), I found I sold a lot of dances to customers who had been saying no to all the hotter girls simply because I would sit with them for like 2 or 3 minutes and be vaguely interesting before I'd pop the question. In every club there is a tendency for the girls to behave similarly, it's like herd mentality or something. You just have to look objectively at the club and try to spot what's being skimped on, and amp it up tenfold!
    What's your club like? Is it big and busy or small and intimate? Is it stage-dance-focussed or more centred around VIP/table dances

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    Default Re: How do you make yourself stand out??

    I aggree you should try the school girl look if you are young

    go for innocence

    blonde tanned and busty is more pornstar then schoolgirl

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    Laugh and smile and enjoy yourself. That's what, in reality, 90% of those girls DON'T have.


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    i remember readin something along time ago about a girl who looked like she was having sezuires on the floor. like she would slam here boots and heels in to floor alot and was just kinda moody goth like girl.. but who ever posted it i thought said she made bank.. just a idea. some guy slike Dom. i know mine does.

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    Default Re: How do you make yourself stand out??

    I just go in and try to have a good attitude. I make the best of my assets - try to do my hair and make-up really smoking and try to believe in myself.

    As Andygirl said it's all about the confidence. I bet when you are asking for those dances you are giving off a subtle hint of "why would he buy a dance from me when he could have that chick over there". Some nights I feel like that and I DONT DO WELL on those nights.

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    I agree with the schoolgirl thing. Get yourself a plaid skirt, some white socks and a white top (preferably the kind that ties in front) and wear your hair in pigtails. Then slut it up a bit (your schoolgirl look) and I bet you'll see an improvement in your sales.

    Another thing I would suggest is change the way you word your sale question. Instead of asking, TELL them. Thank them for the stagetip, introduce yourself, then say "so, I can dance for you when I'm done here?" As you nod your head yes. It's so much easier for them to just agree with that than answer any other way....

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    Quote Originally Posted by tattoogoddess View Post
    i remember readin something along time ago about a girl who looked like she was having sezuires on the floor. like she would slam here boots and heels in to floor alot and was just kinda moody goth like girl.. but who ever posted it i thought said she made bank.. just a idea. some guy slike Dom. i know mine does.
    subtlety in the context of individual domination and intimidation of every man in the club are two very different things. this is not very good advice, sorry.

    I agree w/ playing on the youth/fun/barely-legal thing... most of all, don't try to be the other girls- you'll only fail miserably!! YOU are the best at being YOU.... just like they are the best at being who ThEy are. Find a niche that works for you- it may take a while, but don't copy what everyone else is doing if you ALReady second-guess youself... it'll just psyche you out more when you think you can't measure up. If you're the only one doing your own original thing, you'll be setting the standard, and there will be no one for comparison- which is healthier for you and better for your sales.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StrawberrySwitchblade View Post
    I work with a lot of girls who act like they are thinking of their grocery lists while on stage. I smile and work the rail. They take off their clothes at the very back of the stage near the door. I do striptease and undress right in front of them.
    I'm a multi tasker... i think about my grocery list but look interested and smiliey and stripteasish.

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    Default Re: How do you make yourself stand out??

    I agree that you should just act happy and as if you want to be there. That seems to be the difference between an ok night and a good night for me. When I want to be there it shows and the money rolls in, even if I'm bloated wearing my least favorite outfit.
    Attitude really is almost everything.

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