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    I am So Nervous and I Don't Know Why

    My husband and I have been enjoying each other so much. Romantic sunset walks, watching the stars at dawn, mental stimulation [Insert long scrolled list here]. He's done EVERYTHING right ...

    Just one thing - For some reason beyond both our comprehension we haven't had sex for a week or 2, which is TOO long!

    We both want each other so badly it's ridiculous, but I don't know why I suddenly feel shy , reserved and VERY sensitive/ticklish.

    I told him yesterday that tonight would be THE night, but as I am glamming myself up, I have butterflies and I am so inexplicably nervous. I can't even explain why.

    Can anyone relate?

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    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
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    Uggggh!

    I feel so jittery. I feel so flustered! I feel so anxious!!!

    Aaaah!

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    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
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    i wish there was a vaccine for child sexual abusers


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    Errr ...

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    Nobody ?

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    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus
    i wish there was a vaccine for child sexual abusers


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    So you guys haven't had sex in a long time and tonight you guys are gonna finally romp around? All I can say is shiz - its about time! hehe Its cute you're nervous. I think of your post as that teenage feeling when you don't know what's gonna happen but excited.
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    You are putting too much pressure on yourself. Everything else has been so perfect..you feel like this has to be too. Calm down. DONT plan anything...just go with the flow...cuddle on the couch, maybe make out a litttle...let the moment go where it will.

    This ONE time wont make or break your relationship....just have fun and dont worry

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    Your response is so positive TigersMilk. Thank you for responding! My nerves are shot right now...

    Aaaaah! And the longer it is, the harder it is for me to go forward with it, does that make sense?


    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk View Post
    So you guys haven't had sex in a long time and tonight you guys are gonna finally romp around? All I can say is shiz - its about time! hehe
    LoL; I agree and he would too.

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    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus
    i wish there was a vaccine for child sexual abusers


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    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk View Post
    Its cute you're nervous. I think of your post as that teenage feeling when you don't know what's gonna happen but excited.
    WoW, that's exactly how I feel, except we have been together for quite some time, so it feels so strange to me (can't make sense of) to have this feeling. I sorta thought something might be wrong, IDK.

    You know TM, last night we were kissing for HOURS. Not tongue-down-the-throat kissing, like, slow, soft, sensual kissing. You know, when you kiss for soooooo long that your lips get numb and a little sore even *swoon* ...

    At that point it should have been on and popping, but I heard myself keep saying, "Wait,..."and we just kept hugging and rolling around on the bed kissing…

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    Quote Originally Posted by IsobelWren
    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus
    i wish there was a vaccine for child sexual abusers


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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    You are putting too much pressure on yourself. Everything else has been so perfect..you feel like this has to be too. Calm down. DONT plan anything...just go with the flow...cuddle on the couch, maybe make out a litttle...let the moment go where it will.
    Cameron, you also bring up a very good point. I do put ALOT of pressure on myself in many areas in my life.

    So you really don't think I should plan anything? Like, I was planning on doing my hair in soft curls and the whole cat eye look with a sexy little outfit, give him a dance, but then anxiety has got me sitting here typing with my hair in sections .


    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    This ONE time wont make or break your relationship....just have fun and dont worry
    I don't know why, I know this already, but I really needed to hear that Cameron - Thank you.

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    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus
    i wish there was a vaccine for child sexual abusers


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    MMM... I love kisses like that.

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    Agreed, too much pressure. Don't stress about whether or not you're having sex or how often. Obviously your relationship is going great. And it's been without sex. Good for you guys! You're learning to strengthen the part of your relationship that doesn't involve being physical, and I think that's just as important as the other half!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    MMM... I love kisses like that.
    Mmmm-hmmm!

    :nodding: .

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    Quote Originally Posted by IsobelWren
    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus
    i wish there was a vaccine for child sexual abusers


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    Heh, I TOTALLY know how you feel.

    Don't stress with it, just enjoy the emotion, and be very glad that you are sharing this with someone you're linked to for the rest of your life.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BrunetteGoddess View Post
    Agreed, too much pressure. Don't stress about whether or not you're having sex or how often. Obviously your relationship is going great. And it's been without sex. Good for you guys!
    Inhale ....
    Exhale ........


    Quote Originally Posted by BrunetteGoddess View Post
    You're learning to strengthen the part of your relationship that doesn't involve being physical, and I think that's just as important as the other half!
    Yes, that is true. I have learned from my studies that although sex declines in older couples due to obvious physical limits that the emotional part of their relationship flourishes -

    I guess we are going to be a kinky little octogenarian couple; LoL .

    Thank you BrunetteGoddess .
    "Everything that is in Heaven and on earth is penetrated with connectedness." - Hildegard of Bingen [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

    Quote Originally Posted by IsobelWren
    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus
    i wish there was a vaccine for child sexual abusers


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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus View Post
    Heh, I TOTALLY know how you feel.

    Don't stress with it, just enjoy the emotion, and be very glad that you are sharing this with someone you're linked to for the rest of your life.
    Mast, I was calling you onto this thread telepathically...

    As a gentleman who can relate to my emotion, would you be expecting a "go-with-the-flow" sort of look, OR the *Porn Star* look ?

    I forgot to add that his birthday is the week, if that matters...

    P.S. I miss your Lupin III ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by IsobelWren
    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus
    i wish there was a vaccine for child sexual abusers


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    Quote Originally Posted by Hot2Trot View Post
    Mast, I was calling you onto this thread telepathically...

    As a gentleman who can relate to my emotion, would you be expecting a "go-with-the-flow" sort of look, OR the *Porn Star* look ?

    I forgot to add that his birthday is the week, if that matters...

    P.S. I miss your Lupin III ...

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    I appreciate that, Really.

    What gets you more excited considering this romp? Just having sex with him? Or doing it for his Birthday?
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    I guess (time's getting tight) I'm asking because it's not about what he expects, it's what you can act out...so it's somewhere between natural, and pornstar attitude...but as the insightful brunettegoddess has said, you're building on the non-physical side of your relationship.

    If you're both experiencing the same thing, I would suggest that you both enjoy exploring this new feeling and treat each other similarly to it being a first for you both. Romantic, Playful, and even a little kinky. You'll be enjoying your butterflies before you know it.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    The latter.

    To be honest with you, I am a nervous wreck about it though though I can't understand why.

    Perhaps you might have an insight for moi?

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    Quote Originally Posted by IsobelWren
    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus
    i wish there was a vaccine for child sexual abusers


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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus View Post
    but as the insightful brunettegoddess has said, you're building on the non-physical side of your relationship.
    Isn't she though ?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus View Post
    If you're both experiencing the same thing, I would suggest that you both enjoy exploring this new feeling and treat each other similarly to it being a first for you both. Romantic, Playful, and even a little kinky. You'll be enjoying your butterflies before you know it.
    Mast ... May I?

    Getting a running start then jumping:

    !

    You've basically just given me a "How To". I think that sometimes I might be a bit over analytical, and I have been trying to "think" about how to act, if that makes any sense, wondering, "Okay, relax - Now, how the heck do I relax ?!?!"

    Although the girls have been saying "Relax," I don't think I actually know how to do so -

    Okay, so, the "First Time" approach is very fitting because that way, the nervousness will already be out in the open, so it could be as you mentioned, "Romantic, Playful, and even a little kinky" (Tee hee).

    Thank you so much Mast.

    ...

    Sharing and reading everyone's responses has helped me shake some of these jitters off, which is excellent because my nervousness is what keeps stopping us when we have started fooling around...

    OK, Okay, ok ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by IsobelWren
    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus
    i wish there was a vaccine for child sexual abusers


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    Update: Okay, so, on Monday, my husband came home with some alcohol and a movie.

    We both got plastered and ended up falling asleep.

    I was kinda hoping it would have went down that night because of the "lowered inhibitions" but it was hard and all, being that my face had become one with the pillow at that point; -

    Pathetic, I know.

    He teased me and told me he had to get me drunk more often. I felt, and still do, like a lightweight.

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    Last edited by Hot2Trot; 09-26-2007 at 11:47 AM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by IsobelWren
    Well, except that it's a virus, so antibiotics wouldn't work against it in the first place.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus
    i wish there was a vaccine for child sexual abusers


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