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    Hey, I posted a while back about not being able to have sex because I was soo tight.You guys gave me some great advice.Two days ago I was finally able to do it with the help of lots of lube.It hurt like hell but slowly we got it in.I even went for round two which felt way better than the first round even though it was still painful.My pussy was so sore afterwards and I even think my cervix was hurting.He's about 9 inches and I think he was banging into it during sex.Is this bad? Overall I liked my first time and dont regret doing it.The only thing I do regret was not using a condom.I was so worried about the pain and the nervousness of my first time that it slipped my mind.I think he was too excited to even mention a condom.He did pull out both times though.I hope everything turns out ok .Just wanted to share with u guys.

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    I don't even know where to start...

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    How about we start with the morning after pill. Or is it already too late for that? And an STD test

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    yeah its too late for morning after I feel so stupid for not remm the most important part

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    Wha? I don't get how people can "forget" to use condoms. Seriously. How can you forget? I've had sex when I was so completely shit-faced I could barely walk, but somehow I've never forgotten to use a condom. Were you scared to mention it because you thought he wouldn't like it? Do you want a kid with this guy?

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    It's hard to believe it didnt even cross your mind.. or his for that matter. Were you embarrased to bring it up or something? I don't buy the whole "forgetting" thing. it's a whole lot more embarrassing ( i would imagine) to get an std.

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    Ok ok....shes young and was nervous and excited..lets not all jump on her. SHe knows it was not good and I'm sure she wont forget again... I cant say I never "forgot" when I was younger and inexperienced.

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    Holy hell guys lay off her.

    I've forgotten about condoms before... I was just so wrapped up in the moment and excited. Nevermind I find condoms a huge mood killer lol.

    You have up to 4 days with the morning after pill. Besides he pulled out. Just cross your fingers and hope for the best

    Go get some STD testing just to make sure your clean and all that stuff.

    You've been with this guy for a long time right? So chances are all is good.

    Now next time remember to use a damn condom! LoL

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    Quote Originally Posted by Callyish View Post
    You've been with this guy for a long time right? So chances are all is good.
    well, keep in mind HE fucked HER without a condom too, so what does that say about him? Just being with him for awhile doesn't make him clean.

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    Oh I know Emily... but you know most guys hate condoms. Im not saying what she did is right but I don't think its fair to jump all over her for it. Hell everyone can jump all over me because I almost never use condoms lol... well I do with guys I don't know but if its a guy I know and am comfortable with and trust then I don't. Condoms irritate the shit out of me and I hate them with a passion. I've tried every kind on the market and they all leave me sore and icky.

    Anyway im running off topic now so i'll shut up lol.

    All im saying is she knows now and she will make sure she uses them from now on and im sure she will be smart and go get tested.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Callyish View Post
    Oh I know Emily... but you know most guys hate condoms.
    What?! Who cares? It's not optional unless you're in a monogomous relationship, both people are tested and birth control is covered. And any guy that would try to have sex with a girl without a condom is a loser. To suggest otherwise is very careless. I hate them too. Fuck. I hate flossing, but I do it because it's the right thing to do.

    It's not about whether you like it or not. It's about RESPECT! Respect for your own health and for your partner.

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    As per the cervix thing. Yes, it can hit your cervix. My guy does but if Im super super horny (or drunk ) everything inside expands and it doesnt. Weird.

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    Oh im not saying what happened is okay Emily but I also think that coming down on her when she said she knows she made a mistake is a little harsh. They both did something irresponsible and have realized it.

    Also though she said her and this guy have been faithful to eachother for a very long time now... so one would assume hes clean and safe right? Im sure they have discussed it.

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    well.... congrats on doing it

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    Quote Originally Posted by Callyish View Post

    Also though she said her and this guy have been faithful to eachother for a very long time now... so one would assume hes clean and safe right? Im sure they have discussed it.

    That's what I'm saying...you can't assume anything about his health status based on relationship status. Why would you think theu discussed it if they "forgot" to use a condom? That would imply the intention to use one was there.

    I'm also not getting on her case. This is not about her. I'm just shocked you would offer such bad advice to a girl that is obviously uneducated about this.

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    Thanks so much for everyone's support.I expected some of u guys to come down on me because it was a very stupid thing to do.Im very smart usually but I just had so many things going through my mind.But that's not a good excuse.I have been with him for a long time and I believe he has been faithful but like most of u said u never know.So I will get an std test.whats funny is that I already have an appointment scheduled to get an hpv shot tomm.I had sex on monday around 5 so i guess it's not too late to take the pill.But i thought it will only works 42 hours after.I can probably get it tomm and take it before 5 so at least it will be within 72 hours.He did pull out so hopefully that cuts down my chances.

    thanks lola rose

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    Yeah, congrats on doing it!! It gets more fun, promise!! Just be more responsible in the future

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    Quote Originally Posted by jezebel17 View Post
    Thanks so much for everyone's support.I expected some of u guys to come down on me because it was a very stupid thing to do.Im very smart usually but I just had so many things going through my mind.But that's not a good excuse.I have been with him for a long time and I believe he has been faithful but like most of u said u never know.

    thanks lola rose
    Well, I think what some mean is say you and him have been together for 5 years and hes been faithful - still doesnt mean he didnt have something before you got together. Unless he got a test during your relationship and stayed faithful.

    Good for you that youre taking care of things. You should BOTH go TOGETHER and get tests done. That way you both know youre both ok and can go from there. And then get some birth control and have wild sex in every room in the house!!!

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    oh. well. good you finally did it. but bad that he risked your safety in not wearing a condom. and really bad that you let him.
    learn from this and i hope all turns out well.

    and cally!!!!!!! wtf! mood killer or not, it's responsibility. i love you wife, but.. uh, *smacks sense into you*

    Love it!

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    you're welcome, but be more careful later.

    there are some fun gimick-y type condoms out there, like glow in the dark, flavored.......

    those are 'posed to help make condom time part of the foreplay, and less of a mood killer.

    they'd be at a local sex shop, and on the net of course.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    And any guy that would try to have sex with a girl without a condom is a loser. To suggest otherwise is very careless. .
    Thats a little harsh. He was probably nervous and caught up in the moment too. ESPECIALLY if he has been faithful that long. Doesnt make him a loser...just again, inexperienced.

    I'm not saying it was ok..it was a mistake and she has ALREADY acknowledged that. So I dont see a reason to jump down her throat. Havent you ever made a mistake you regretted?? I mean, I could understand if she was being defensive about it or trying to say it was right...but she isnt. So let her go.

    And OP...congrats on your deflowering!!! It's been so long I barely remember mine!(except I know I didnt use a condom either...young and stupid. I was also pregnant less then a year later...lesson REALLY learned the hard way)

    You should both get full panel STD tested. And you should go on birth control...your Dr will be able to tell you whats right for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post

    I'm not saying it was ok..it was a mistake and she has ALREADY acknowledged that. So I dont see a reason to jump down her throat. Havent you ever made a mistake you regretted?? I mean, I could understand if she was being defensive about it or trying to say it was right...but she isnt. So let her go.
    Like I said, I'm not getting on her case. My response wasn't really about her at all. I've made my share of unsafe sex booboos...and I'm not a God fearing person, but I prayed then!

    It's more about my surprise to what Cally said. I thought it was bad advice.

    And I still stand by my statement that a guy that doesn't insist on a condom because he "doesn't like them" isn't showing much respect for his partner.

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    get the morning after pill......do it....you don't need a prescription, and it's still partially effective for 5 days. You've got until tomorrow night to get it into your system then, tick tock......just do it.
    Get a full std panel with your boyfriend (both of yas, damnit!)......and in the future, be more careful, use birth control, even if you're using condoms, because shit happens....condoms break, slip off....etc, etc...especially when you're unexperienced....aside from all that: sex is great, try to be relaxed and enjoy yourself....plus, have LOTS of foreplay, it'll help the situation a lot! Once your body is "primed" you're less likely to have as much pain and soreness later. Have fun and most importantly, take care of yourself!

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    Emily dont worry about it I understand what u are saying.Im glad I have you ladies to talk to on SW because I wouldnt know who else to talk to about this.I will get the pill tomm and believe me I will not make this mistake again.Im going to talk to my bf tonight about us going together to get tested.Im going to talk to my doc about birthcontrol.After everything is taken care of I cant wait to do it again.

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    Glad you had a good time!!

    Just remember that there are things other than pregnancy to worry about. HPV for one. It's transmitted through sexual contact (even a condom might not help.) I would recommend asking your OBGYN about their 3 shot vaccine for HPV when you talk to him about birth control. It sounds like you're planning to take your sexual health and well-being seriously. That's the way to go.

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