
Originally Posted by
jhuka
Okay--I see the context, Farrah. It sounds like he is afraid that you might mold yourself around difficult personalities to make things go more smoothly, when you really should recognize what they're doing and stand your ground. It is a hard thing to learn. I've always wanted to see the best in people myself, and when someone starts to take advantage, I sometimes don't catch it on time. I've learned that a good, confident pause after a person says something I don't agree with or like works wonders--it sets their pacing off balance, and lets me gather up my true direction. Does that make sense? I don't think I need to be a bastard to do it, really--I just need to stand my ground and be true to myself.
I don't think empathy is a bad thing, and I'll continue to give people a chance. But ultimately, people do not have a right to bend your personality this way and that for their own agendas.
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