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    Angry Friends that Constantly Talk About Stripping and BLAH! BLAH! BLAH!

    Do any of you have to deal with this a lot? I have a friend who is really pretty, and is constantly talking to me about "doing what I do." I love her to death, but she constantly goes on and on about her looks, how she thinks she's fat, but people at work think she's pretty, popular, are jealous, blah! Blah! Blah! I just listen to her rant about herself endlessly, trying to cover up the headaches she gives me with this babble. I've asked her to be my escort to a couple of photoshoots I want to do, and she's constantly asking me if the photographers have asked about her (I showed a picture of her to one of them). She gets really mad when they don't.

    Like I said, I love her to death...but I don't know what to say to her sometimes when I tell her stripping isn't easy and then she says something like, "Oh...I could do it"...yada, yada,...and then goes on and on about how insecure she really is because people tell her that she's so pretty, but she doesn't believe them? Constantly contradicting herself?

    I've known this girl since high school and she has always been an attention whore, and we just recently met up again after 10 years. I don't know. I kinda just wanna do my own thing and not tell her about the opportunities that have come my way, because she always wants to be a part of it. Am I selfish for that? Is this just typical "normal girl" behavior towards a "stripper friend?" It's just weird to me.

    She asks me all kinds of questions about dancing, and I tell her what I can, but honestly I just get annoyed most of the time because it seems like she just wants constant reassurance from me that she is attractive, blah, blah, BLAH!!!!!!

    Do any of you girls have to deal with this kind of behavior from other girlfriends who are somewhat envious of you? I don't mean to talk behind her back....but how would/do you deal with this?
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    It sucks having to prop someone up all the time, no matter what the relationship is. Still, none of my friends have the slightest interest in talking about what happens at my work, which i just realized is kind of weird...

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    Yep, I deal with something like this all the time from people who know I strip. Mind you these people aren't close friends by any means, because my close friends have more tact than these people do. Anyway, whenever I bump into any of them outside of work, I always get asked
    "So ...uh...you still "working"?


    Me with extreme sarcasm:...No dumbass. Welfare and minumum wage are so much more fullfilling!

    Then I do have those people who want to know every little detail of the industry, and how I can do that sorta thing. So with that I say: I can't see how you can bust your ass 40/h week and take home a little, when I can show my bust and ass for 12/h week and take home a fuck-load!

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    I don't think it has anything to do with you, sounds like she is really insecure but still trusts you enough to let her guard down and tell you how she feels about herself. I think the contradiction comes from her trying to tell herself she is pretty etc, but doesnt sound like she really believes it. Im sure it can be exausting to be around her, but if you "love her to death" why not compliment her more often or indulge her a little, some girls need more attention. Also, if she asks alot of questions about your job, it's just b/c she is curious. I used to ask a ton of questions(of my dancer friends) before I even knew I wanted to dance. I don't see whats wrong with her saying she could dance (unless you feel she is trying to insult you or compete with you), she might tone it down if you just agreed with her instead of telling her how hard, etc. it is, she might think she has something to prove to you if you disagree with her.

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    Nope, never had to deal with it because I had very few stripper friends. The ones that I did get close with didn't nag about it. Most of the girls I know that weren't strippers had no desire and/or ability to do it. Worked out perfectly.

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    i've been through this and as of a month ago, we're on a break. My tolerance has gotten low for people who need this kind of validation all the time. I'm in fitness now and it's just as bad.

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    It takes a confident woman to be friends with women with jobs that are considered sexy.

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    Yes, it gets very tiresome having to listen to her. It's not just dancing she goes on endlessly about. It's about how she looks, beauty, fitness, all physical stuff. Most of my friends are guys or strippers, too...so I have never really had to deal with this. I realize she is really insecure, she always say so....but then she is constantly complimenting herself at the same time. I do encourage her to dance, and to exercise, tell her she that she is pretty, smart and all of that stuff. It just drains me, sometimes, lol. Well...a lot of the time. Plus...you know how it is with girls. It's all competition, so I'm just trying to keep my guard up as well when it comes to opportunities that have come my way. I mean...I'M the one that busted my ass to make things happen.



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    Yeah I've had some stupid non-stripper friends who degrade the work I do...because to them "dancing" isn't hard work...to that I say bullshit! Stripping isn't glamourous its a lot of times really draining...talking to idiots day-in and day-out, pretending like you give a shit...dealing with men and there piggish ways...not making any money...dealing with drunks/druggies...ect ect ect

    Yeah the money can be good but if you don't have a good head on your shoulders and good ppl around you...its easy to become so jaded and hard.

    Ah I hate when girls think they know all there is to know about stripping coz they've been to a couple strip clubs/seen some movies with strippers/have a stripper friend...untill you actually strip you have no clue!

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    Actually, come to think of it, I did have a friend like that, from high school in Houston. Eventually we grew apart. She was way to selfish and self-centered. Funny, she and I went to apply for waitressing jobs at the Colorado together, and she never had the balls to actually work there. That was the beginning of the descent for me, lol. She did end up getting a boob job and working at a Hooters type place. Bleh...

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    If that were me, I'd let the friendship die. It sounds like you don't enjoy being around her because she won't let you by being so annoying. She just wants attention. I can't deal with people like that for too long. She isn't going to change if she's still acting like this 10 years after HS. I'd just let her go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinydancer85 View Post
    Ah I hate when girls think they know all there is to know about stripping coz they've been to a couple strip clubs/seen some movies with strippers/have a stripper friend...
    Not to mention when they've taken some pole dancing classes. Then they REALLY know alllll about it. (This is currently driving me insane with one friend.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by NatalieFRPhilly View Post
    If that were me, I'd let the friendship die. It sounds like you don't enjoy being around her because she won't let you by being so annoying. She just wants attention. I can't deal with people like that for too long. She isn't going to change if she's still acting like this 10 years after HS. I'd just let her go.


    Trust me, I'm already starting to really feel this way. Sometimes I can't even get a sentence or two into a conversation because she is constantly babbling about herself. Like she finally met someone who gets more attentrion than her or something so she's working extra hard to make sure that she "stays on top." HAH! Fat chance! I'm doing what it is I'm doing now, and YOU'RE NOT. Get over yourself.



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    Yeh my friend does it too. One day she said something along the lines of "I'm not saying you don't have a good enough body or face to do it but you could do so much more". So she is having a go at me for both my looks and my job in the one sentence.

    I just cut her down by saying well obviously i am hot enough since I make X amount of $$$$ all the time. Fucking bitch.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    Yeh my friend does it too. One day she said something along the lines of "I'm not saying you don't have a good enough body or face to do it but you could do so much more". So she is having a go at me for both my looks and my job in the one sentence.

    I just cut her down by saying well obviously i am hot enough since I make X amount of $$$$ all the time. Fucking bitch.
    Wow she is a bitch.

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    I told her to not worry about coming to the shoots with me. If anything I think she would just make me feel uncomfortable...and I can't have that. So yeah....I'm gonna start letting her go gently.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    Yeh my friend does it too. One day she said something along the lines of "I'm not saying you don't have a good enough body or face to do it but you could do so much more". So she is having a go at me for both my looks and my job in the one sentence.

    I just cut her down by saying well obviously i am hot enough since I make X amount of $$$$ all the time. Fucking bitch.

    Yeah! Whatta fucking bitch!



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    Hopefully one day she'll begin to work her insecurities out. That could take years. I had a friend like that. At first I found her passion for life so inspiring until I realized she's only passionate about HER life. You can be successful too, but only after she is!
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    That insecurity stuff really bothers me. Every once in a while, okay, but I don't want to hear someone complain all the time. When I want my friend to stop & she's going "don't I look fat?" Sometimes I just throw a "okay" or "sure" in there. Then she looks up from her rant & goes what? Then I tell her that I'm not going to keep telling her how beautiful she is, which she is, she obviously wants me to agree w/ her. She usually stops then.

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