OK. So at my new club, there's a nice dancer who has been occassionally giving me rides home. We sometimes go out for coffee with another dancer, or hte club waitress. Its a nice favor, saves on cab fare ,and good relaxation time.
However, tonight, there's a group of two guys who are hitting on both of us. One is talking about how he'd "totally date me". I've said my goodbyes, gottendressed, and then i go with her and she says "OH! Those two guys are meeting us at the resturant!" when I'm in the car.
I DONT want to take that relationship OTC. THey weren't spending heaps, i'm not being compensated for the time-it literally IS just because she thought one was cute, and she's on the prowl for a boyfriend(htough she said she doesnt want one from the club last week)
So I end up in mynormal clothes, sitting, and barely talking, because i'm NOT comfortable meeting htese guys OTC, and I'm a little peeved that I didn't even have a CHOICE in it-since she didn't tell me till AFTER we were on the road.
Am I just being too sensitive?
I didnt give away any personal info on myself, or do ANYTHING that would get me in trouble, but I'm still a bit unhappy.
Not to mention that when I was talking to her abotu why I wasnt comfy meeting them, particularly with the one guy being QUITE attracted to me, she said "Well WOULD you date him?"
Number one. He's from teh club.
Number two. He is attracted to bright outgoing Aria. Not antisocial ME. How is that a good basis for a relationship?
Number three. I'm not LOOKING for a boyfriend.
Number four. He's attracted to glamorous, clever Aria, not sarcastic ME. How is that a good basis for a relationship?!
Anyways, I told her I wasnt comfy with meeting customers OTC.
i'm worried, since she says that she's seen them in the club BEFORE.... How will I say no when he comes in next time and wants to meet us after work again? She's set a precedent for us... and while i dont care if SHE is making friends at work, I know that IIIIII have no intention of it, and its removed even the possibility of my keeping him on for a few dances, since I WILL have to say "No. Last time wasnt my choice. Your nice, but only ITC"
How should I handle this with her, as she's the ONLY dancer who can help take me home, and it DOES save me a lot of money? How should I handle this with HIM with a minimum of drama and hurt feelings?



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