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    For the ladies who hide their job or used to, how'd you get caught? Some hide from daytime co-workers, or classmates, or family.

    I went away to college and started dancing. I never wanted my parents to find out. Not because I cared what they thought, but it would just be a lot of drama I didn't need. I was taking care of myself, so I wasn't worried about them cutting me off. During breaks I'd visit and sneak away to work at a club 3 towns away. I didn't think they'd find out.

    Summer before my sophomore year, I had a regular who became particularly obsessed and visited frequently. He was a good spender, a little sleazy, but nothing out of the ordinary. It turned out he was my mother's best friend's husband! He recognized me from my childhood! So creepy! He was in his late 40's, I wasn't even 20 yet! I had never seen him more than in passing. When his wife caught him, he narked me out! My parents almost disowned me. What a jerk. He and his wife got divorced (they were having problems anyways), but I can't divorce my family.

    What about you?

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    Ha!! Getting caught...I love how that phrase implies that we are doing something wrong...too funny.

    My "getting caught" experience happened in two parts. My cousin knew because she had driven me to the club to audition, and she ended up telling her mom (my aunt). Luckily for me, my aunt is one of the least judgemental people I've ever met and will keep a secret for you until the day she dies. I went months with my parents thinking that I was cocktailing at a local nightclub. Then I split up with my ex, and in an effort to shame me into coming back to him he told my parents, grandparents...everyone!! Yeah, that guy was a douche. My family didn't speak to me for a very long time, and I was the outcast on holidays and at family gatherings, but I was happy to have it out in the open if for no other reason than it made them stop calling and waking me up at 10:00 in the morning!! After some time had passed, and they saw I wasn't going to hang my head in shame over it, they gave up and life went back to normal. I never apologized to them, or anyone else for that matter over the choices I made for my life and I don't regret it one bit.

    Hmmm...guess I went on a littl rant there at the end....
    Stripping was my Mr. Big....the best bad relationship I ever had.

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    Well I don't have any contact with my family, so that's not a concern. But I do live with my boyfriend, and he is in the dark. I know everyone on here is open and honest about this with their SOs but he's just not ready. A few years ago, he was the toast of the town (a pharmaceutical vendor) and dated strippers all the time. But they were paying his rent and he saw them as hoes, they didn't mean anything to him. He figured anyone working in the club was a whore and got drunk or pilled out every night and sucked dick for money. So he thinks I'm a cocktail waitress. And I still am occasionally. But whenever I dance, I have to tell the doorgirl to make up some excuse why he can't come in, just in case..

    But I have been caught by people at the bank, and store when I've pulled out wads of ones and t-backs that I can't seem to get in my stripper bag, they always end up in my purse!

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    ^^Be careful. In all likelihood, you will get caught and if he's not cool with it now, he probably never will be. I hid dancing from first boyfriend, so I'm just looking out for ya.

    I got caught by my father when he found a t-shirt from the club I was working at. I tried to tell him I only cocktailed, but I could tell he didn't believe me, so I just fessed up b/c I was sick of lying.

    I almost got caught by my ex too. This fat bitch our friends knew just fucking hated me for no reason. Not that I gave a fuck. Anyway, one night she came into my club b/c she really just wanted to catch me, I know it. I was sitting in a booth near the entrance and she walked right past where I was sitting to a table across the club. I snuck into the champagne room and had the bouncer bring me my bag and clothes, got dressed and left without her ever seeing me. But she was still ultra suspicous and told my bf and I convinced him she was a jealous crazy bitch (which she was even tho she was right about the stripping). In the end, it wasn't worth the mental exhaustion to me. However, I never told him I stripped, I just dumped him

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    I outed myself before anyone had a chance to find out on their own.

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    I told my parents I worked at this local sports bar that I had gone a while back and really enjoyed. Because it was so nice I decided it would be a good cover up for stripping.
    Well it turns out this bar closed down and my family found out and I was caught in a pretty bad lie. Apparently they had been closed for months.
    I finally broke down and told them I waitressed at a strip club and was scared they'd dissapprove. I guess it's still a lie but much closer to the truth than waitressing at a CLOSED sports bar.

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    C, that is so funny. That reminds me of this one time when I told some guy I'd meet him outside of the club, and I told him to meet me at a bar - I was never going to show up, of course, but he was a jerk and offering me $1000 up front. He keep pesteting me, eating up my time, hinting that he was going to spend money because he had so much of it, and didn't. He went to the bar - it turned out it was closed that night for renovations. I kept texting him "I'm at the DJ booth!!!" while I was on my way home. He came in and yelled at me the next night I worked. I'd never do it again, but that shit was funny.

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    Interesting story.

    So I'm at my first club, up on the second stage in my birthday suit, doin' my thang. The door opens and I do what I usually do: look to whoever is coming in, grin and flirt a bit. However, I almost fell off the damn pole. It was my former coworker. He had left the retail place we had both worked at for better horizons, but I was still working there. We kind of looked at each other in shock.

    He sat at the stage when I got on again, but I could not bring myself to dance for him. He was only two years younger than me, so it wasn't that bad, but I just couldn't do it.

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    My family knew when I danced, I didn't care, the thing I didn't want out was when I was waitressing at a regular restaurant, I didn't want my co workers to know I was dancing. Well, one night a girl I was working with at a club came in and got drunk at the bar when I was working, she was talking to the bartender when she was drunk and said she new me from dancing with her. I didn't know she had said it until I came over there after I wasn't busy and she was like, You're gonna kill me i'm so sorry, I told him you dance with me and I wasn't thinking because i'm drunk. I wasn't too happy.

    After like 2 days everyone knew and was asking me all kinds of questions, I was signing out in the office one day and there was a girl in there signing out also and she was like why do you dance, are you with the wrong crowd or something, there were 2 managers in there and everything. I felt like telling her it was none of her business because it wasn't right for her just to put me on the spot like that and ask why but I told her I just wanted to try dancing and that's all. Another girl I worked with thought it was so cool because she used to dance at the same club a long time before I did so that made me feel better, but she was like don't tell no one else I danced.

    That's my story, lol.

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    my family doesn't know yet, i'm hoping to keep it from them for a long time. if they found out my mom would cry and my dad would disown(sp?) me. a few of the people i graduated high school with know, mainly because when i worked in illinois, this guy i knew from high school came in and saw me. his friend wanted to buy him a dance but i refused it would have been too weird.

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    a friend of my aunt's recognized me. i still have no idea who it was. i model a little bit too, and my aunt and uncle came to a fashion show i was doing, then took me to dinner and sprung it on me while i was trapped in the restaurant. i quit because i was mortified.

    at this point, i don't give a fuck about what they think, and i've already told my mom. i'm about to start stripping again and really the only person left to find out is my dad, so, we'll see what happens when that happens.

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    my younger sisters friends came into the club. i dont really talk to her but i see them occassionally when i go back to visit my dad (she lives with him). they've seen me once or twice but i never paid any attention. that one fateful night at the club, i probably introduced myself and everything to them (i was using my real name at that time), and might have even danced with them...who knows. so she told my older sister and my little secret was out of the bag. ever since then my dad has been hounding me as to how i pay for my apartment, how i have this that, where im getting my money from...i tell him im a waitress and a popular bar/restaurant in west hollywood then he asks me how much money i make...im sure she told him. and my mom i think knows only because i told her i was a gogo dancer and i think she was a stripper/hooker in her time and shes not a stupid woman

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    Oh yeah my dad "disowned" me when I told him, but he got over that in about a month.

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    my parents found out officially when my car got hit at work and i pitched a FIT and made my dad come to the club because my manager told the police i did it myself. they already suspected it though.

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    I got narked out too.

    I was trying to end a 6 year relationship with a guy that had put me through the emotional ringer for years and finally I was fed up. He blamed me deciding to dance for the reason of the break-up. Trying to move on with my life, I began to date. In a fit of passion one night, my ex-bf came over my parents house and screamed, "WHY DON'T YOU TELL YOUR PARENTS WHAT YOU DO..TELL THEM YOU'RE A STRIPPER!"
    My parents were right there and heard it all.
    Fast-forward ten minutes later where the ex ran up to my bedroom, pulled out my stripper-clothes duffel bag and began tearing my costumes apart with his bare hands.
    I broke my mom's heart that night. It was horrible. The house was so silent for the next few days. No one would talk to me.

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    Kind of like Viola...I was seen by the husband of my mom's very good friend. A man who has also known me since pre-pubescence. I was trying to hide from him for hours, but he wouldn't leave. The waitress suggested I ask him for a dance because he seemed to like the blonds. Yeah, very helpful, considerate waitress she was. So finally I just said hi, mostly because this was back in the drinking days...it seemed like the right decision. I still see him at family events, or at my mom's. Awk-ward.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaiyla View Post
    I got narked out too.

    I was trying to end a 6 year relationship with a guy that had put me through the emotional ringer for years and finally I was fed up. He blamed me deciding to dance for the reason of the break-up. Trying to move on with my life, I began to date. In a fit of passion one night, my ex-bf came over my parents house and screamed, "WHY DON'T YOU TELL YOUR PARENTS WHAT YOU DO..TELL THEM YOU'RE A STRIPPER!"
    My parents were right there and heard it all.
    Fast-forward ten minutes later where the ex ran up to my bedroom, pulled out my stripper-clothes duffel bag and began tearing my costumes apart with his bare hands.
    I broke my mom's heart that night. It was horrible. The house was so silent for the next few days. No one would talk to me.
    Damn Kaiyla, that really sucks a lot. What a scuzzbag.

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    Yeah it was pretty bad. Lived to tell the tale though!

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    At first I told my dad I worked as a waitress at a bar and he flipped. But one day I decided to tell him the truth and he was speechless. I then asked him if he'd pay my bills, my rent, my college tuition, etc. The answer was no, so there ya' have it. He realized really quick that no other job would do right now. My dad's very supportive--he knows about the realities of being a single mom, so he doesn't scold me, but isn't exactly happy about my job, either.

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    My bf's family didn't know I danced. His sister was getting married and her husband had his bachelor party at the club I worked at. I thought I saw him 1st and got out without being seen...found out I was wrong the day of the wedding!
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    i told everyone in my family except for my dad....he found out because his best friend came into the club and saw me. i grew up knowing that guy, his daughter is like one of my oldest and best friends, and he couldn't even come up to me and say hi! he just left town and ratted me out to my dad. loser. but that's one of the reasons i (usually) wouldn't take my bottoms off....it was optional onstage where i worked, and forbidden for table dances. when guys would ask i'd be like, yeah sorry but my friends & family come in to see me and i don't feel like having my pussy hanging out when they come in....here's some boobies and a butt, isn't that good enough? ok, you can have one little peek...and then i just showed them my pubic hair lol

    oh yeah and my dads still not over it. he called my mom a little while ago and told her that my son (i just had my first child) was going to be ashamed of us when he grew up, because we both were strippers. (my mom only danced go-go for ONE year when she was 19!). his thinking is that it's practically prostitution. whatev...i just think it's funny that a guy who twerped out of about $40k in child support and made my mom work 2 jobs when i was a kid would EVER make any sort of judgments about how we make our money. i love my dad because it's the right thing to do but he's pretty much a tool and i can't respect him as long as he has no respect for me.

    dont want me to strip, dad? pay deez bills. otherwise stfu.

    and i don't believe my son will be ashamed of me when i grow up.....if i had never been a dancer, i never would have met his daddy hahaha

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    oh yeah and one of my djs TOTALLY knew my dad from back in the day....like 20 years ago. she ran into him on an out-of-town trip and they were catching up and she goes "i'm djing at _______ cuz _____ wont fire anyone to hire me back" and he is all oh really....my daughter works there. (thats me) heh! i asked her "did you tell him i never take my bottoms off?" and she was like "NO!!! i didnt tell him anything! we didn't talk about it at all!" but then she was like yeah your dad used to always hang around my dj booth.... totally narked him out to ME! he was just as much of a barfly/strip club guy as any....

    oh but it's okay because he's a GUY and he's only LOOKING at the titties not SHOWING them........never mind that every one of us is somebody's daughter.

    hypocrite.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LatinaRose View Post
    ^^Be careful. In all likelihood, you will get caught and if he's not cool with it now, he probably never will be. I hid dancing from first boyfriend, so I'm just looking out for ya.

    I got caught by my father when he found a t-shirt from the club I was working at. I tried to tell him I only cocktailed, but I could tell he didn't believe me, so I just fessed up b/c I was sick of lying.

    I almost got caught by my ex too. This fat bitch our friends knew just fucking hated me for no reason. Not that I gave a fuck. Anyway, one night she came into my club b/c she really just wanted to catch me, I know it. I was sitting in a booth near the entrance and she walked right past where I was sitting to a table across the club. I snuck into the champagne room and had the bouncer bring me my bag and clothes, got dressed and left without her ever seeing me. But she was still ultra suspicous and told my bf and I convinced him she was a jealous crazy bitch (which she was even tho she was right about the stripping). In the end, it wasn't worth the mental exhaustion to me. However, I never told him I stripped, I just dumped him
    Well I never did get caught. To update briefly, I broke down and told him after coming off the dayshift on Friday. I couldn't lie to him anymore. I don't lie to him about anything, I love this man so much.. so I admitted it. He gave me the most horrible look at first, then he told me he wasn't mad. He said he knew I was doing it for us, making our rent and shit since we are going through some financial troubles right now.. I cried a lot because I felt bad for lying, but he's really being supportive. It feels good to get the truth out.

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    My grandmother caught me in the lie about where I work. The truth came out. Just wish it didnt!

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