SO I'm sitting at the bar drinking coffee last night and a guy comes up to me and a girl I'm with and starts chatting it up. We have great conversation till another girl I know comes up to him (turns out that she had a few dances with him before that). So we're all chatting and she asks him for another dance. He declines so she asks me to join her on talking to some guys that walked in. After 5 minutes of conversation with them, I ask my guy if he wanted a dance, he declines, so I finished up the conversation and left them and her at the table. I go back to the bar where I was first sat and continued to finish me coffee. The first guy that came up to me was still there so I just continued casual conversation. He then jumps to asking me for a dance in the 3/100 rooms. Here's where I think I went wrong:
1.Since I knew he got dances from the girl I knew on the main floor, I suggested that why don't all 3 of us go upstairs and do double dances. He declined and said just us for now.
SO we went up and we did two sets. So I suggested again that he should get more dances, this time with me and the girl again. He agrees but wants to do it on the main floor. So I grab her and tell her that I got him to get dances from both of us and that he wants to do them on the main floor.
SHe was very appreciative but it may have backfired on me:
2. She asked me how I went upstairs and how long I was up there and told her. SHe continued to him to push him for 3/100 for us. He declined but she didn't want to let up so she negotiated for us without asking me if it was ok. SHe told him that we would do 4/100. He agreed and I was angered and stuttering the rest of the time. I just wanted to get it over with by then.
Now those of you who know me and read my posts, you know that I HATE and WILL NOT negotiate. It really breaks my personal rules and I feel like negotiated drives down this business. I've turned down numerous dances because guys wanted to negotiate. Last night was the first time I didn't put up a fight because I felt like I was going to fuck with her money. But she was fucking with my money and didn't care! I'm so pissed. I just bit my tongue, did the dances and made a mental note that I will never do her the favor of getting her dances again. I feel like this totally backfired on me.
Here I am, trying to help out a girl that I knew that did dances with this guy, and she takes it to another level and fucks with my money because she was trying to maximize her money. Not cool.
But then I look at it the other way and she may have increased my money because he didn't specify how many floor dances he wanted to do so he could have just had one and I would have just made 20 instead of 100.
I don't know, I'm so confused. I was glad to make extra money but not at the price of negotiating. Have you guys ever flexed your personal rules a little to satisfy another? I hate that I can be so weak. I like to make my rules and stick with them or else I will feel like all the other times I've turned down negotiations, went to waste.
I'm going to take this incident as an isolated incident and just never work with this girl again.
Opinions?



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I agree negotiating really drags our business into the mud, but every once in a while you have to do it to make good money. I'll go down on my VIP price with regulars who buy blocks of time from me in VIP up front - I have one whose company I enjoy, and I'll do 5 hours in VIP with him for $2000 up front, instead of $500 an hour, which would be $2500. So he feels like I'm giving him an hour for free - I just look at it as locking in 5 hours at $400. I'd rather be doing that than turning him down on principle and out on the floor (a potential financial wasteland).
I've lost count of how many times I've been screwed over by someone who I thought of as a "team mate".





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