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    Default Someone slipped a ruffie in my drink

    And I have no idea what happened at all and very scared I also am scared to go back to the club because I dont remember anything at all. I really dont know what to do, I want to go to the doctor to get myself checked because like I said I dont remember shit. I just dont understand how someone can do this, I also think the club thinks I was just drunk because I was drinking bull blasters and told them I was buzzing .

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    Well I work at diffrent ones but this was at The Mens Club, and yeah im good but just worried because I dont remember anything .

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    Definitely go get tested immediately. That shit wears off quick and in case you do find out who did it you need the evidence. Can someone account for where you were at all times last night? If not, get a rape kit done just in case.

    I'm really sorry this happened to you *hug* That's scary and I hope you're ok.
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    This was actually a week ago and I diid'nt know I was drugged at first I was just very confused I would have never known if it wasn't for my fiance (he told me the way I was acting) He also thought I was just drunk that day but when I told some people what he said they told me I had something slipped to me . I also had a hard time understanding how I went from having a buzz and in less that an hour not remember anything.

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    Did you tell management? You need to. There's probably an asshole going all around San Antonio slippin shit in dancers' drinks. Everyone needs to be on extra-alert. That shit can kill someone.
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    Default Re: Someone slipped a ruffie in my drink

    Had this done to me nearly 9 years ago when I was cocktail waitressing at Cabaret Royale in Dallas. Very scary--I learned not to ever leave a drink unattended.

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    You're lucky. I had this done to me in Mexico, Cabo San Lucas. I guess they make their roofies stronger down there.

    It was at a new restaurant. Luckily, a friend saw me, face down in my nachos, and I didn't realize it. I was alone, just having a drink and eating a meal at a new place, close to home. The bartender or manager did it, I'm assuming.

    Long story short, I was sick to my stomach for 24 hours, I got a uninary tract infection and yeast as a result. i did not feel normal for three days.

    I was so lucky my friend found me, because I couldn't walk or speak correctly....and I had NO IDEA ANYTHING WAS WRONG WITH ME!!

    Alert your management and prevent it from happening to other girls (or guys. I'm sure it happens once in a while).
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    fuck dude... i'm so scared of this happening to me. i'm lucky bc my club is pretty small, so i leave my drink with my bartender and don't really worry too much about it, if we get busy i take it onstage and sit it with the DJ... sometimes i do leave it on the bar and have worried a few times about how safe it was.

    from now on i'm either carrying my drink with me EVERYWHERE, or letting the bartender hold on to it (all our bartenders are girls, except when the DJ or manager are working there, and i trust them all)


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    this just happened to me last night and im still trying to piece things together...Im lost, confused, scared and pissed off at MYSELF for leaving my drink with the customer i was sitting with...Im not going back to that club and i dont know if im going back to dancing after this...this was the straw that broke the camels back....but, i feel your pain and i know how you feel because i feel the same way...not able to remember anything.
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    girls im so sorry to hear that! please take a lot of care, this is somehow a dangerous job were you have to use all of your senses to stay safe. I hope you're ok beauty21queen!
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    Sorry to hear girls. I've had it happen to me at a regular club when i was 13(snuck in) I hope you all are doing well, and hopefully dont accept anymore drinks If you HAVE to drink, do NOT let it out of your sight at all. Dont accept drinks from guys in the club if they walk up to you with it. Watch the bartendar when he/she is making your drink, etc.

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    I hope you get checked and everything is okay. Sorry this had to happen to you. I never leave my drinks unattended, either, because of this shit.



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    No point in getting checked now. it's way too late.

    You have to do it within 24 hours.


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    I got slipped something once but it wasn't that. It really made me freak out but luckily I was w/ friends who helped me. I feel for you ladies.

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    I accidently got slipped 12 shots of tequila once. The bastard who did that to me should pay! Oh bartender........

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    I've been extremely leery about this since it happened to me several years back. As others have said, if you have to drink at your club, do NOT take your eyes off it (possible exception leave your drink with extremely trustworthy bartender or DJ while onstage).

    However, there is now a 'new' development which is probably emboldening these assholes. I'm talking about the Duke LaCrosse Rape case ... where it was just announced that the Duke LaCrosse players are suing not only the D.A. but the city of Durham for tens of millions of dollars worth of damages which the city's insurance won't cover as a result of the damages caused by false rape charges.

    With every D.A. and every city now potentially having to worry about tens of millions of dollars worth of backlash, there is simply NO WAY that any D.A. is going to bring rape charges against a 'customer' today based only on the word of a 'stripper'. In the absence of a video tape of the deed, in the absence of a third party eyewitness (i.e. someone not involved whatsoever with the club / dancer / customer) etc. even a positive rape test kit and a DNA match isn't going to be deemed sufficient evidence to press charges. After all, thanks to the Duke LaCrosse dancer, the Kobe Bryant case etc. it is now a simple matter for any rape case defense attorney to paint the dancer as a 'lying, thieving, drug addicted whore' who willingly agreed to have sex with a 'customer', maybe in exchange for money and maybe not, but who then threatened to blackmail the 'customer' with a phony rape charge unless even more money was paid !

    This absolutely sucks, but the reality of the situation now seems to be that sick asshole customers have a 99.9% chance of getting away with raping a dancer if the asshole can manage to get the dancer into an OTC one on one situation. Of course one of the easiest ways to do that is to slip her a ruffie. Some of these assholes are now even going 'public' about how easy this has become ...

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    I just wanted to point out that it's difficult to be tested for ruffies. The reason I say this is because I was slipped something at a nighclub with my boyfriend. I started to panic, sayign somethign didn't feel right, somethign isn't right, and couldn't stand up or control my body.Like all my muscles were jello. I couldn't form sentences or speak without stuttering. He took me to the ER. My tox screen came up negative for evertyhing. But the doctor told me they only test for run of the mill street drugs...coke, heroin, weed....they do not test for ghb or other date rape drugs. The doctor said to test for thoes they would have to send it out to a lab, it's not done in hospital, and it's more expensive.


    I wasted a trip to the ER for nothing. I wanted to know what i was on..what happened to me. WHy I was acting the way I was. What long term damage was caused, if any? I was fucked up for days. Couldn't form complete sentences, slurred and stuttered my words....I'll never know what happened.

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    ^^^ very true about local hospitals not being able to conclusively test for ghb / rohypnol etc. In the absence of a conclusive test result, the asshole 'customer's defense attorney can easily make the claim that any non-specific substances that showed up in a dancer's routine tox screen were willingly self-ingested by the dancer at a time prior to or after 'hooking up' with the 'customer'. Thus, as you point out, a routine tox screen is now absolutely useless in court.

    But with the new fears of legal backlash re bringing false rape charges thanks to the Duke LaCrosse case making D.A.'s seek hard evidence before agreeing to prosecute, even if a blood sample was sent out to a full screen lab by the local hospital, and even if that lab later confirmed the presence of ghb / rohypnol, there is STILL no evidence here to conclusively prove that one particular 'customer' was responsible for slipping it into the dancer's drink without her knowledge. After all, there were undoubtedly numerous witnesses that could testify that there were dozens of customers in the club besides the one particular 'customer' that were drinking with the dancer. Also, there is no way to conclusively prove what other 'activities' the dancer may have engaged in that night which didn't involve the one particular 'customer' ... which becomes an even larger problem for the D.A. since the dancer's memory of those hours will undoubtedly be full of holes as a result of the ghb / rohypnol.

    As I said earlier, unless some security camera has captured the deed on tape, or unless some very credible third party witnesses to the deed (who aren't friends / associates of the dancer, the club, or the one particular customer) are willing to come forward, with the new possibility of multimillion dollar backlash over false rape charges resulting from the Duke LaCrosse case there is now a 99.9% chance that the asshole 'customer' is going to walk after spending maybe one night in jail before making bail.

    The de-facto legal situation re dancers after the Duke LaCrosse case is that we are now considered to be 'sex workers', are likely to willingly have sex with 'customers' with or without the exchange of money on a regular basis, are considered to be very low on the credibility scale compared to a 'customer' who is a fine upstanding local citizen, and are considered to be prone to crime ... with attempted blackmail of 'customers' now added to the 'probables list' of drug use, prostitution, 'stealing' from customers etc.

    To make matters even worse, it's not impossible that if a dancer were to attempt to bring rape charges against a 'customer' today, the 'customer's defense attorney may press for criminal charges to also be brought against the dancer in an effort to strong-arm her into dropping the rape charge against his client. My attorney hasn't really looked into this for me in detail, other than to point out that an attempted blackmail charge leveled against a dancer is a felony which will require a minimum of $5,000 in legal fees to respond to. Most dancers facing a dilemma of ponying up $5,000+ out of their own pockets to respond to an attempted blackmail charge, and risking 6 months in the slammer if they lose or another $10,000+ out of their own pocket to appeal, are highly likely to simply drop the original rape charge in exchange for the attempted blackmail charge against them being simultaneously dropped by the 'customer'.

    This is a 'new wrinkle' that every dancer now needs to keep in the back of her mind before attempting to make a complaint / charge against a 'customer' based solely on 'he said - she said' evidence - because after the Duke LaCrosse case it is virtually guaranteed that the D.A. / judges / juries are going to take the word of the 'customer' over the word of a 'stripper'. Today, in the eyes of most D.A.s, most judges, and most juries, once a girl starts working as a 'stripper', she can no longer be an 'innocent victim' in regard to any sex crime.

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    My friend was roofied recently and they immediately tested her for rohypnol-type substances. They couldn't test for SPECIFIC drugs, but they could test for types (sedative, amphetamine, etc). Hmm, wonder if it's just done differently in different countries/states/locations.


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    do they do this to try to take advantage of the dancer during a dance? i dont get it its not like they can take a girl out of the club??
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    Let's get something straight here.

    It's NOT too late to get checked out. Yes, it is too late to gather evidence, but you absolutely NEED to go to the doctor, get a pelvic exam, and get tested for STD's.

    I was ruffied, didn't get checked, and ended up losing 75% of my cervix due to precancerous cells caused by HPV--after having previously been a virgin. Furthermore, I had complications resulting from my surgery that now prevent me from conceiving.

    I know you don't remember what happened and that this is extremely difficult to deal with, but PLEASE seek medical attention. There's nothing you can do to turn back time, but you can at least attempt to take care of yourself after the fact.

    I'm so sorry this happened to you.

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    do they do this to try to take advantage of the dancer during a dance? i dont get it its not like they can take a girl out of the club??
    Well, this depends on the club setup. In one scenario there's the ever famous 'limo ride', where a dancer and customer being totally alone in the back seat of a limo is 'normal'. In another scenario there's the totally private VIP room. In yet another scenario the dancer can be 'bought for the night' / 'bought for a private party' etc. And there's always the 'friend' taking a sick dancer home early scenario. Obviously getting away with this sort of shit is a direct function of how well a club keeps track of its dancers comings and goings, the degree of personal concern that club staff / other dancers may or may not have toward a particular dancer, how complicit the club is towards OTC business / 'limo ride' business / 'private party' business etc.


    Yes, it is too late to gather evidence, but you absolutely NEED to go to the doctor, get a pelvic exam, and get tested for STD's.
    yup, absolutely you should do this if there was ANY span of time that night that your actual whereabouts cannot be vouched for by people you trust. In other words, if other dancers can tell you that you came back to the dressing room as soon as you started feeling 'out of it' and spent the entire night passed out on the dressing room couch / floor, it's a far different situation than being told that you left the club with a customer to do a 'private party' / that you went for a 1 hour limo ride with a customer etc.

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    ^^ Plus..you need to get the anti hiv cocktail as soon as possible if the exam shows anything amiss.

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    I would like to mention that when I said 'too late to get checked' I meant for drugs. I was unaware if any actual sexual intercourse happened during the incident. Of course if you feel you were violated you should see a doctor.. but it IS too late to test for the drugs.

    I was ruffied, didn't get checked, and ended up losing 75% of my cervix due to precancerous cells caused by HPV--after having previously been a virgin. Furthermore, I had complications resulting from my surgery that now prevent me from conceivin

    I'd also like to point out that if you didn't get checked and later got HPV, there really was no way you could've known within a week - so it's not your fault. HPV can take months and even years to show up, which is why a yearly pap smear is a very good idea. I had a similar situation happen to me.


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