Hi Ladies -
This is my first post so please take it easy on me.
I live in nyc and probably go to a strip club maybe once every other month. I have been guilty of asking for a girl's phone number and usually being hustled in the form of "Oh hi! I am working tonight, why don't you come by and see me?". I can totally understand where they are coming from, it is a business for them and I respect it. I fell for that once and really try to limit myself from that happening again.
Anyway a week ago last Friday I met a girl from FL and got her phone number. We chatted a few times over the past week and we have a dinner date setup for Tuesday. I still feel like I am in the dark in terms of if I am getting hustled or not and was just curious as to how you think I should play this? She told me to call her Monday night to remind her about Tuesday night. I already made reservations at a nice restaurant and I would assume I would get a very clear message from her when I talk to her Monday as to what the deal is. She works on Monday nights though so it may just be me leaving a voicemail. If I do not get a voicemail I don't want to say anything about not getting hustled, but if I speak to her I would like to clear the air so to speak.
I will just put this out there in bold so the intent of my post is crystal clear:
When talking with a dancer on the phone about a dinner date, what is the most polite way of telling her I don't want to be her customer I want to be her friend and possibly more? Is that the easiest way to put it?
I will list the reasons why I think she is interested in me beyond a customer, I am sure ALL of these reasons are easily refuted:
I would much rather clear the air talking with her on the phone before dinner so that there is no awkwardness as well as abort on the date entirely if that is all she see in me (another customer). Any other first date advice from your perspective, kind of like do's and don'ts, I am all ears! Should I steer clear about talking about her job - I am very curious and I am sure she has some crazy stories she could share.
- She has not asked me where I work, what I do for a living or how much I make
- She is from Florida and not from Europe (small detail but I feel girls that travel to the US from Europe are more about the money)
- She is natural, another very small detail but I would think a woman that invests a lot of money in her body through surgery would be more focused on paying off that debt.
- When I buy a dance from her she really enjoys the massage I give her often moaning and she kisses me A LOT on my neck. I wear a nice cologne with pheromones so I assume this helps - her kisses are centralized on the application points.
- When I asked her how old she was she did not give the standard "24" answer or play games like how old do you think I am, she was a straight shooter and said she was 33 (I am 36, not that it matters)
- She liked the fact that I live in her neighborhood (Hells Kitchen) she said she has dated guys from Long Island before and she said she hated going out there.
- She asked me what I do during the day, lol - I told her I work. This last point in particular gives me a little bit of confidence that she is picturing me as potential boyfriend material. In combination with the other points I made I feel like I have a better then 50/50 shot of not getting hustled here.
Thanks!
-John




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Customers are people too
, Strippers are people too, and you have a whole thread based on why you have to approach this differently because she's a stripper.


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