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    O I thought I would get back into the 9-5 workforce and just dance on the weekends. I figured I would make enough money and have enough energy to do that. But I don't. I can't pay my rent, I spend no time with my kids or husband, and I have zero energy.

    Plus, I'm overqualified for my job as Office Assistant (aka get me some coffee, write this non-business related email for me, and type up this non-business related letter and DO IT AN HOUR AGO) so I'm bored as hell and frustrated. There is no room for me to grow (it's only the company owner, my self, and his right-hand woman in the office) so it's about as dead end as a job can be. I get talked down to, ran around, and blamed for shit that happened before I started there and for what? $350/week, that's what.

    And my club has been really really bad lately (I made $200 on Friday!) so I'm stressed in that job too.

    What should I do? I need money from stripping but it's not around here (unless other MD girls know something I don't), and I really really hate my day job. On one hand, Im trying to be an adult and stick with it but on the other hand I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired, ya know?

    Here's what I'd want:
    I just want to strip maybe 3-4 days a week and bring home $1000/week. I want to be able to work part time at a non-profit that makes a difference in society. IS THAT TOO MUCH TO FUCKING ASK?????
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    Ya'll bitches need to calm down. Cerously.
    In other words: Boo-motherfucking-hoo

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    Could you go back to stripping, save money, and start your own non-profit?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    Could you go back to stripping, save money, and start your own non-profit?

    I would love love love that. In fact, I was running a non-profit a few years ago but our funding ran out and it was hard to find more. Lately it's been hard to find money to help teenage mothers (it's seen as encouraging them).
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    I'd say go back to dancing. I worked at CVS/Pharmacy before I started dancing (before i turned eighteen), and never have looked back. Considered it, but with my bills currently, I cannot afford to stop. Scary to think like that, but it's entirely true.
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    I do pretty well at Gold club. I dunno if you've tried that before.

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    If you hate your job, and you are able to earn a lot of money dancing, then I say quit the day job and just dance.

    Just curious, why did you decide to take a day job? Was something about dancing bothering you?

    I don't make much more than you do per week, but I really like my new job working as a booking agent for dancers. I've been offered higher paying jobs, but I really like doing this, so I'm staying. I feel that it is not only important to keep the bills paid, but to enjoy the time you spend at work as well.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    That's the thing, I wasn't earning that much money dancing the past few months so I figured I would just get a day job and dance on the weekends. I'm just frustrated at my club and at my day job and in my life and I'm a stripper for goodness sake I should be able to pay my fucking rent and electric bill!!!!

    I don't make money at the "good" clubs around here because I'm "too big" but now that my club has been taken over by big bootie girls, I'm too small to make money there.

    On top of that, my husband hasn't been working regularly (he's a model but he hasn't had much work yet). It was fine when I was making money and he was a Stay at Home Dad (kept our babysitting expenses to a minimum) but now he just sleeps all day and doesn't clean the house or take out the trash or walk the dog or cook dinner and I have to deal with all of that when I get home. So I told him to get a job but he has no skills outside of warehouse work. Even if he takes the job he's interviewing for today it's still only about $150/week.. That's not even going to cover child care.

    AAAANNNNDDDDDD.......he took $70 and went to Atlantic City. he called me and told me he was up by $300. I told him that was great but to quit while he was ahead. He said he was going to but a few hours later he called me back to tell me he had lost everything. We can't afford to lose $70 right now! I'm so pissed off and he hasn't even come home yet so I can't discuss anything with him.


    I just want to curl up in a little ball and cry.
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    Did you tell him off at least about blowing that 70 dollars which you cannot afford right now? I hate to say it, but financial irresponsibility really annoys me because I have a father who is just like your significant other. I usually end up bailing him out too, well because he's my father. He should be able to get a job at least as a waiter, especially for a good looking guy. Restaurants seem to be more about eye candy these days than a good waiter/waitress.

    Keeping all of this away from him is just going to lead to your own meltdown. Better to bring it up with him ASAP, for your own, and his sake.

    Keep us updated!
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    I'd suggest you try from-home occupations, like day care, EBay selling, or medical transcribing. You can also do part-time housecleaning.

    (((HUGS))) I always like your posts and feel bad you're in an unfortunate situation. Maybe you should start your own secret savings fund if your husband thinks gambling is a way to save...That really worries me.

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    Yes, I did tell him off. At first he acted all nonchalant and that made me furious. I was creaming and cursing and then I started crying. He knows that I never ever cry and I think it finally sunk in for him. I explained how I was feeling and he said I should have been telling him this a long time ago. I agree, I held it in too long. As soon as we finished talking he ran me a bath and then went an cleaned the house and made dinner. Then after dinner he did the dishes and got on the internet to look for jobs. He has 2 interviews this week already.

    I guess I should have told him but I always try to be strong and do it all my self. I forget that marriage is a partnership.

    As far as my job, as soon as he finds a job I'm quiting and going back to dancing 3 nights a week. I'm supposed to be auditioing at 2 clubs this week. I think I'm going to do 1 day at my home club and 2 0r 3 days at a new club to see how things go. And if they don't work out (or if I don't make money) I'm just going to stick it out at my home club until business picks up (come on cold weather!).

    Thank you ladies for your support and advice. I appreciate it very much. I felt like I was losing my mind but I see the light at the end of the tunnel now and I'm alright.
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    That's a good ending!
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    I'm sorry you're going through a stressful time, Miss L. It does sound like things have taken a turn for the better though. Money issues are rough. Day-jobs are such dissapointments sometimes too...I tried one this summer that turned out to be so degrading and such a waste of my time, I just went back to the less annoying, and far more beneficial dancing job. I totally hear you about the clubs sucking right now...I think I have a bad night and then panic sometimes about never making money again, but I remember this time last year being crap as well, it's just a matter of sticking it out. After all, $200 a night, while not ideal, is definitely better than what some other occupations have to offer. Especially if it's only temporary.

    Anyway, *hugs* for you and I hope things keep looking up. I really appreciate your posts- you seem very smart, reasonable, honest, and confident. I feel like I learn from that kind of character...people with those traits are ultimately irrepressible.

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